I am a dipshit

One of the stupider things I have ever done, besides getting married in Vegas, was to get a joint credit card… (with the same girl of course) Obviously I will never ever ever ever do this again. At the time I was injecting heavily with love-heroin and was drooling mad. My girlfriend thought she needed a CC and I thought that in my vast financial wisdom I could trust her. Does this make any sense?? I mean… even a 12 year old would know not to do this right?? Clearly I didn’t and next thing you know I am the proud owner of a 10,000 dollar CC debt along with… DRUM ROLL! a break up. I never got the money back and it took over 8 years to finally remove the debt.

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Sara Asked:

“I dated a guy briefly in August of last year. I REALLY liked him, and he never made me doubt how he felt about me. He was constantly telling me how much he cared. One evening he came over to spend some time with me after work. I had a bad day and instead of talking to him about it, I just picked on him all night, and made him feel horrible about himself. The next day he was needless to say very upset with me, I tried to apoligize but by that point the damage had been done and by the following week, he broke up with me. Since he broke up with me, it seems though that he can’t stay away. He’ll text and occasionally call me on the phone just to see how i’m doing. He always leaves the future open ended with comments like ” well you don’t know what’s going to happen down the road” I know he’s been burned before in past relationships, and he’s made it clear to me that his trust in me is gone but do you think that we have a shot at a second chance??? I would love to gain his trust back, and see where our relationship might lead if giving another go.”

- Sara

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Julie Asked:

“A few years ago I met a guy, whom I dated for a while. I would often lose touch for long periods of time (I would stop calling, emailing, texting, IMing, etc) not because I wasn’t interested, only because I wasn’t really into him at the time and I had a lot going on. We would meet up once in a while for breakfast or lunch every 6 months or so. Over the past year, I got out of a bad relationship, and he shortly broke up with his girlfriend thereafter. Ever since, we have communicated more often and we have gotten much closer and have a much stronger bond (in my opinion). Over the past three months, we have gotten back into dating each other. We have seen each other every week now it seems (probably would more if our schedules weren’t so conflicting), and after four years of friendship, we are now intimate. I know he cares about me, because he often expresses so. He is always telling me “I deserve someone better than the men I’ve dated in the past”, tells me I’m beautiful every chance he gets, calls me pet names like, sweetie, baby doll and love (but has always called me sweets), has posted pictures of me and the two of us together on his personal web-sites, things of that sort. So for now, I guess my question is, should I count on this going anywhere? Does this guy who has been my friend all these years want more, am I friends with benefits (which is something I don’t want to be, btw)? I care about this guy very much, and I don’t want to lose him, problem is, I’m falling for him, and afraid of telling him so. I’d rather have him in my life as a friend, that not in my life at all…
I know, my best bet, is to ask him direct…I was just hoping to get another’s point of view on the situation, especially a man’s!
Thanks so much!”

- Julie

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