Jewels Asked Relationship Experts:

“My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and he still constantly accusing me of having other guys on the side. I have never cheated on him and will never but he says since his exes have all cheated on him that i will too. He recently got a new job over nights and he thinks i have guys over all night or stay up all night talking to guys. Theres no trust and it hurts me when he accuses me. Ive talked to him about it and he says he will change but he never does. Should i leave and cut ties or is there a way i can show him that he is my one an only??”

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Joeann Asked:

“me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now and it’s been pretty smooth up until now… Mostly. However I have this friend that I think might like my boyfriend, and I don’t really know how to tell if he likes her back too. He’s told me once before that she came up to him at a party and seemed to be flirting with him. He wouldn’t really give me details though, he was really vague about what happened and said he didn’t remember most of what she’d said… in other conversations he has told me that she’s his “favorite of my friends,” and she’s quite literally the ONLY one of my friends that he likes. We’re both in college so he tends to go home over breaks and they both live in the same city. I thought it was weird that they would hang out without me while in LA. Especially since she didn’t tell me anything about it, only him. Is this just me? or should i be worried about what is going on?”

- Joeann (20)

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Symone Asked:

“I cheated on my boyfriend of two yrs. I’ve always been a private person but now he thinks it’s ok for him to check my phone for texts/calls for exchanges between me and the man I cheated on him with. I regret what I did and want to gain his trust back so should I continue to let him check my phone?”

- Symone (31, Detroit, MI)

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Joe Asked:

“I was courting this woman since April 2012 and she chose to part ways with me in the first week of September this year.

We met on a social networking site. Things started really well and we had lengthy and hearty conversations to start with. We met over dinner and since then we enjoyed every moment we spent together. She always made me feel wonderful whenever I was around her. Slowly, we felt more comfortable with each other and I spoke to her parents and met her closest friends. She met my parents and my elder sister as well. From the start I was honest to her about everything and told her about my past relationship as well on the very first date when I met her over dinner. We were planning to get married in the summer of 2013. I involved her in all the major decisions in my life starting from getting the interiors of my apartment done to buying my car (what was to eventually become our car. LOL).

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Ariel Asked:

“The man I have been seriously dating for 5 months asked me two days ago if I had been divorced. He said he had ‘dreamt’ he had asked me. I immediately said I was, and then he got upset. It was 5 years ago and lasted only 7 months. I was young and naive and I made a mistake. I am very sensitive about this issue and was going to tell him when I felt ready. We care deeply about each other but today he told me he doesn’t know whether he can trust me! I have been nothing but good and faithful to him, and this accusation does not seem fair. I know nothing of his relationship history, but he tells me he asked me on our second date if I was and I had said I wasn’t. I do not remember him asking me such an important, and sensitive question, to me. I feel he must have had issues with this in the past, but i feel his strong accusation is unjust. I have done nothing wrong to him and feel hurt. What should I do? He said to not freak out or worry, but that he needs a couple days to mull it over and that he would see me later in the week. Not sure whether to feel mad or sad.”

- Ariel (28)

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She Asked:

“is my lesbian girlfriend cheating? i have known her for a year and we been in real committed relationship for 11months , i love her with all my heart , and i know she loves me. but i cant help to have these inside voices telling me shes cheating, its like my instinct is telling me im right. she always tells me she loves me so thats not a problem, but when we have an disagreement over something very important she just ignores me or hangs up instead of talking it out. she accuses me of cheating, when i swear, promise her that im 1000% faithful and than she agrees that i am after she hears me crying. and they always say when your bf/gf accuses you of cheating and you’re not, than they are. i asks her do she like anybody else or anything that pertains to cheating she goes nuts and gets mad. hangs up on me and curses me out. like if you’re not cheating than why are you so upset when i ask you. she still conversate with her ex gf whos now her step cousin , but gets mad when i use to text my ex. she claims she dont see her like that and going with her was a mistake but when she use to tell me stories she said she really liked her alot until she started cheating, and when you really like someone like she did those feelings just dont go away like that. sometimes i think im tripping but 95% of the time i know im not just tripping.”

- She (18)

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Amanda Asked:

“Where do I even begin??? Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years, living together for 5 1/2 and we have a 5 year old daughter, I also have 2 other daughters he claims as his own. He was without work for over 5 years!! He FINALLY got a job a few months back but yet he refuses to help pay the bills. He flat out told me he will never give the utility companies his money. When we were living apart he did help with their bills and I asked his ex if he helped her she said he never hesitated to help her and THEIR daughter. What about OUR daughter though? Why doesnt he want to help us?? I know they cant stand each other so its not that he wants her back. I need some advice on fixing that situation.
Next is he NEVER spends time with me and the kids. Ever. And on the very rare occasion he does want to go do something, he never wants to bring the girls. He however does wake up and leave with his friend every day and stays gone until between 1 and 3 a.m. The only time I see him is when he walks in. He always goes straight to the bedroom, where he spends all of his time when he’s home.

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Couple of occasions triggers much turmoil inside a relationship due to infidelity, which could decrease a wedding to rubble, shattering believes in as well as developing a reproduction floor with regard to low self-esteem, doubtfulness as well as bitterness.

Reliable statistics about the rate of recurrence associated with relationship infidelity tend to be tricky to find simply because matters cannot be objectively calculated such as separation and divorce as well as relationship. In addition, scientist’s state there isn’t any method to confirm exactly what people statement regarding matters upon studies.

One often-cited professional, Peggy Vaughan, writer from the Monogamy Fantasy, estimations which sixty % associated with partners as well as forty % associated with spouses may have a good extramarital relationship at some time within their relationship; nevertheless, less than 10 % associated with those who have matters separation and divorce as well as wed their own enthusiasts.

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Kaitlyn Asked:

“Yesterday, I spent an amazing day with my friend who wants to be with me. We have dated in the past but he cheated on me. I have a boyfriend currently, but im thinking about ending it with him and starting over with my friend. I dont know whats wrong with him today. Ill text hm and he will text back, but its about 10 minutes later. I know i shouldn’t jump to conclusions, but i can’t help it because of our past. He says he would give anything to take our past back, and he tells me he loves me and calls me baby more now than he did when we were dating. I like to think of that as a good sign. Then again, guys will say anything to get what they want. I dont think he wants sex because he never talks about it or mentions it. I just need some advice on if i should drop my boyfriend and start over with him, or not. thank you.”

- Kaitlyn (18, Winterville)

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Mary Asked:

“My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. He doesn’t trust women. He doesn’t like me talking to friends of mine that I’ve known for over 10yrs plus. He’s very jealous and says it’s because he loves me but I told him it’s not love it’s insecurity which he agrees with. He said he’s scared that another man will take me away from him. He told me how he grew up which wasn’t very nuturing and that he was raped by his teacher for about 1yr when he was 10. His ex girlfriend cheated on him while she was living with him and his ex wife used him. He is constantly accusing me of cheating which I’m not. He thinks every man wants me which they don’t. I grew up with a very open mind to people and life I too was molested as a child. I was once cheated on but as my mom said one monkey don’t stop no show. I had a controlling ex husband but got out of that marriage quickly. I’ve tried to be very supportive to my boyfriend, told him how much I love him, that I would never cheat on him. He does have double standards which I’ve told him about. He has a very good heart but I don’t know if I can continue this relationship given our ages I’m ready to get married again. He’s very suspicious of when my phone rings and I don’t answer it. I have nothing to hide.”

- Mary (50, Atlanta , GA)

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