Ashely Asked:

“i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. we love eachother a lot but i have gotten to the point where i am obsessive about him, i worry and think about him constantly, if he doesnt pick up the phone i panic, if i dont see or talk to him i get extremely sad and hurt. i never used to be like this so i think something is wrong. i even make up ideas in my head that he is going to break up with me or he doesnt love me anymore. is there a way to stop being this way? what is wrong with me? is there a way to deal with this and stop being so obsessive?”

Ashely (19, Las Vegas, NM)

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Robert Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have a serious relationship together. She thinks I’m cheating on her even though I am not cheating on her. She also have been trying to find ways to track my cell phone or track my text messages. She’s now questioning if I am bi or not. She did all this without talking to me as I found this out. What do I do and why is she doing this? I am not cheating on her, nor am I bi and I have nothing to hide. I love her very much.”

- Robert (30, Lakewood, CO USA)

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Anneliese Asked:

“My ex-boyfriend and I have known each other four years now and next month would be our three year anniversary. From the beginning, I haven’t been a very good partner and have cheated on him twice. At one point, we were engaged but eventually broke up due to my second affair. Although he has lied to me in the past about certain things, to my knowledge he has never cheated. He has forgiven me for all the things that I have done to him but inevitably has become a bit disillusioned and does not trust me. I am trying to gain his trust back but I also do not trust him because of the times he has lied to me (which have been about two or three times). Lately we’ve been arguing a lot but have every intention to try things out again when I get back home from studying abroad. What troubles me now is that he insists that I will have to trust him “the hard way” meaning he refuses to give me any of his passwords to any of his accounts because he says he has been faithful from the very beginning and that this time around he wants to do things differently than in the past. He says this because he believes that by having given me everything I wanted in the past, things didn’t work out well and now believes he needs to change the way in which he does things between us. Could he be lying or is he truly trying to make things work out? I know he truly cares about and loves me because no guy in his right mind would still be around after all the things I’ve done. However, I’m afraid that he might just be too comfortable being with me. Please help!”

- Anneliese (19)

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Gene Asked:

“My wife and i have been married for 21 years. She told me she still loves me but is not as much in love with me as she used to be. Now she has started talking on her cell phone and texting a few guys, she says they are friends only and swears on our kids lives there is nothing to worry about. She went back to her home town last weekend and went out two times with an old girfriend from high school without telling me anything about it. When i am around her i feel strange, I feel like she is hard to talk to. We have talked about divorce. She tells me i can leave if i want to, she wont try to stop me. When i ask her if she wants me to leave she gets upset and tells me she would tell me if she wanted me to leave, She said she wasnt scared to let me to leave if she wanted to. she says she doesn’t know what she wants. I love her with all of my heart and i want it to work. She says it will take time. I didnt show her much attention during our time together and she lost a lot of weight. She said since she lost the wieght guys tell her how good she looks and i never told her anything. I also have a felling she may be cheating on me. I try to talk to her about us but she always gets mad. She said she was going to make an appointment to a marrage counsler because she owes it to me and the kids to try. When i ask her if she is going for her to and she doesn’t answer, Then she said if she didnt care she wouldnt go. I dont know what to do but i feel that it is over and she is getting her ducks in a row getting bills paid to leave me.”

- Gene (46)

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You have developed a friendship with a person of the opposite sex. You might have met them at work. Or maybe you were re-acquainted with them on Facebook after having lost touch with each other over the years. But as time goes on, and your friendship deepens, you might now be asking yourself: “Has this friendship turned into an emotional affair?

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Betrayed in Tx Asked:

“Hi I have been seriously dating my boyfriend for a few months. It has been love since the 3rd date. He is currently going through a divorce and shares a child with his ex. She has said she doesnt like me from day 1, and tried to start trouble more than once. The first trip he took to visit his son since our relationship started, he cheated on me with his soon to be ex wife. He told me about it right away and says he wants to spend the rest of our lives making it up to me. He seems sincere, and I believe him. Since then we have been trying to work through it together. We have talked about it a several times and most of the questions I have I don’t think I want to know the answer to. For a while they acted like they are still friends and when I told him I couldn’t live with that he started keeping communication with her to a minimum. I know they still have to talk about their son but is there any advice you have on how to deal with this situation? I really think we are made for each other and everyone makes mistakes, but I don’t know how to get past this. I love him very much and want to rebuild trust, Please HELP!”

- Betrayed in Tx (24, Bryan/CS, Texas)

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Hamed Asked:

“How can i get back with my ex girlfriend?

i have been with my ex for 8 years now we practically grew up together we had our bad and good times but in late 08 her family decided to back to the U.K she stayed and the first visit to U.K was fine she went for like a week but in dec of 08 things started to change we had alot of arguments and issues regarding trust like i love her and do trust her but i get very worried when i called and she would not answer me properly or something anyways after that she was supposed to come back before new years but the day she was going to fly she decided not to come and break up with me because she needed time to think we sorted it out eventually and end of january she did come back and the plan was she would come stay for like 3 months and then go back to the U.K and i would follow in the summer she stayed we sorted everything and got engaged it was an amazing week and after the engagement she left after the engagement by one day the first two weeks that she was there all was good she was happy but after that it started with her being moody and whenever i called while she was out with friends she would get angry that i asked questions like where you going, what time would u be home and stuff like that etc. i know i did pressure her and that was wrong but suddenly she decided we can’t work out and that she was sorry but its better like this and that she wants different life so forth i tried to email she emailed once but now nothing and i hear that she is having an awesome time going to london cambridge , and she didnt know what she was thinking when she got engaged i am sooo hurt its been 2weeks now and i dont know what to do my i cant contact her because she has a different number now my only way is email but i dont want to email her all the time please tell me what u think and if you want me to explain more i will
Thank you”

- Hamed (Bahrain)

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Sara Asked:

“I dated a guy briefly in August of last year. I REALLY liked him, and he never made me doubt how he felt about me. He was constantly telling me how much he cared. One evening he came over to spend some time with me after work. I had a bad day and instead of talking to him about it, I just picked on him all night, and made him feel horrible about himself. The next day he was needless to say very upset with me, I tried to apoligize but by that point the damage had been done and by the following week, he broke up with me. Since he broke up with me, it seems though that he can’t stay away. He’ll text and occasionally call me on the phone just to see how i’m doing. He always leaves the future open ended with comments like ” well you don’t know what’s going to happen down the road” I know he’s been burned before in past relationships, and he’s made it clear to me that his trust in me is gone but do you think that we have a shot at a second chance??? I would love to gain his trust back, and see where our relationship might lead if giving another go.”

- Sara

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Anyone who has  experienced infidelity knows the emotional trauma it brings to a marriage or relationship all too well.  The pain of infidelity cuts to the very core of your heart and soul.  Partners who have been cheated on often pose the question: “How could you do this to me”? This begs the question: Can a marriage or relationship survive infidelity given its all-consuming  hurt and pain?

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I love the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and its usage of great metaphors. It’s a story that can be taken away by anyone for its moral value regardless of your religious beliefs.  It’s a story about a man and woman who were made for each other and loved one another. Adam and Eve had innocence. Both shared their lives together before guilt and sin became a part of their daily lives. There they were exuding purity in its highest form. They were nude metaphorically as well as literally. Then one day, they were told about the forbidden fruit from the Tree of Knowledge and were warned that that very fruit was something they needed to reject.

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