This is the first of a series of short stories (Girl Shorts) that I am writing to encourage anyone who sees someone (boy or girl) who catches your interest, and find a way to approach them- because you just never know.  Remember be creative!

This one is called “The Bet”

Girls, girls, girls…they can sure scramble ones’ libido. Women can be sexy, seductive, captivating, inspiring and it doesn’t matter if they are tall, short, thin, rubenesque, if you find one who catches your eye just right. If you don’t take a shot at a girl who scrambles your libido, you’re an idiot. You’ve got nothing to lose but the loss of not taking the shot. The key, be creative and get her attention.

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During my marriage I’ve had two black ‘n blue eyes—one of them is just now fading, neither from Dale’s fist (violence isn’t in his nature even when he’s to-the-max irritated with me) and each a reminder of how moments of intimate togetherness pop up in surprising ways. Here’s how I got this one . . .

Excited about attending the Rally to Restore Sanity, we arrive Friday evening in DC. The plan: settle in, change, and go to dinner. Small hitch: Dale has left my suitcase in Richmond. Problem solved by finding and getting to Macy’s and CVS (we do) without getting lost (we don’t). If you’ve ever driven in an unfamiliar city with one of you navigating by iPhone Google Maps, you’ll understand how nerve-frayed we are when we sit down to a late dinner.

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As a reminder to our reader’s. somewhere in my past I once performed as a drag king. Helped along by a friend’s training in theatrical make-up, sporting a full beard, mustache, cowboy hat, I performed as Midnight Cowboy for a period of 3-5 yrs. I had the privilege of performing with some of the best female impersonator’s, culminating with my performance at Atlanta’s Premier Cabaret club, Illusions in the mid 80’s.

So after 25 years of not performing, I issued a challenge for someone to spot and recognize me as Midnight Cowboy on Halloween, while I was out and about in Wilton Manors. Well as these things go this became not just another adventure but another great story destined for the pages of Gir(L).

In preparation for my night out, I had to go in search of the necessary items for the make-up to be effective as well as dusting off my cowboy hat and trusty six guns. So I hit the stores for just 2 items, crepe hair and spirit gum, and was able to find it easy enough at a local costume store. I decided to do a practice make-up session to be sure that I still had the talent to pull this off.

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One of the coolest things about being in a committed relationship is having someone to grow old with, someone with whom you share so many memories that sitting in the rockers on the porch won’t be boring at all because you’ll have so much to talk about. Equally as cool is how, if you open your mind and heart, your sweetheart can teach you things you might not otherwise ever learn, and can even help you be a better person.

My sweetheart Dale and I are alike in many ways—the same sense of humor, a love of adventure travel, the same political views, an enjoyment of good food. We get along great, have tons of fun together, and almost never quarrel. We also have a very fundamental difference. I’m more of an A-Type and he’s definitely a B-Type. In summary, here’s how Wikipedia describes the two:

• Type A individuals are impatient, time-conscious, have difficulty relaxing, high-achieving workaholics who multi-task, drive themselves with deadlines, and are unhappy about delays.
• Type B individuals are patient, relaxed and easy-going, generally lacking an overriding sense of urgency.

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Old flames never die they just fade away… Volumes are spoken in those few words; the anatomy of an unfulfilled love with the unanswered questions of what could have been, haunting you somewhere in the back of your mind. It seems like certain people have a destiny to come in and out of our lives, an old flame always leaving the biggest impression.
I’ve always said ex’s are ex’s for a reason. Yet as we remember the heartbreak, we also replay the good times over and over again in our heads. Can you ever realistically go back and start again…a different type of relationship with the ex, or is it far too easy to fall back into old patterns and repeat the same mistakes of the past?

While many of us make the effort to change for the better and begin reaching out to new opportunities. They are those, who are safe in their own little world, never changing or desiring what is out of their comfort zone. I believe there is the possibility of re-visiting the past. But you have to have learned the tough lesson of why the romance failed in the first place. It takes courage to walk out on that limb and take the chance for ”one more time”. It also has to be the desire of both parties willing to take the first steps in exploring a new chance at love.

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Beth Asked:

“I’m in a long distance relationship with my girl for almost 2 years and 3 times she has told to get the home ready she was moving to me. Everytime family members on her side either get sick, go to hospital, or pass away. I have spent so much money and have given so many things away to make room so now all i do is wait. She is caring for her ex and I know about this but he plays on her with the kids is she ever going to leave. She is so unhappy but having problems trying to transfer her job too. What can I do other then wait this out? The one thing now is the phone calls are alot less and I don’t hear from her but she tells me less then 2 weeks ago that I’m the love of her life and that I have her heart. I have tried to send gifts all of the time to her and her kids and support her as much as I can because we live in different towns. her town is not gay friendly at all. Is there anything I can do? she is very close to her family and tries to save the world type of thing. with all of their problems but I feel I’m on the back burner with this. Thanks”

- Beth (54, Kentucky)

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Joanna Asked:

“Congratulations on your very nice website!!

I left my boyfriend for someone else I thought I was in love with. I told my ex to stay away from me but now I miss him. Is it normal? Im ok in my new relationship but I feel that he won’t do as much for me as my ex would! I love my ex and I am feeling confused!”

- Joanna (31)

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Julie Asked:

“Should I just give up on him? My best friend and I have always been close. We always opened up to each other, and the way we act towards each other is, well, different. But there’s one catch– he’s gay. I decided to tell him I felt, anyways. And guess what! He loves me too, ‘so much’, and he couldn’t imagine never talking to me ever again. I’m his best friend.

So I realized he didn’t understand that much yet, so I decided to wait. But then one night came and something happened, he felt like no one loved or cared about him, so I opened up fully to him. I guess my friend talked to him, too, since he told me that she said we should both be together. I replied back telling him whatever he wants to do, it’s his choice. His answer was, “But I have a boyfriend.”

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Adam Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for 2 1/2 years. She is 29 and I am 30. The relationship she was in before lasted 6 years and was the only one she had been in prior to ours. He was 27 and she was 20 when they met. They broke up many times as well as walked away from an engagement. She was not completely honest about her feelings for him when we began dating and because of that She has never let go of him and vice versa. Although he does not live near us and I am sure she has not physically cheated on me she continues to keep an open dialog with him that pushes the boundaries of platonic friendship. When confronted about this she has lied about their communicating on more than one occation. I think that they use each other as an emotional fallback when they are in need of attention. It has become such a problem that by not ending the communication I doubt she truly respects me and my position on the subject. She has tried to stop texting and emailing him but eventually it starts up again. He is also in a new relationship and is not honest with his partner either. I am starting to doubt her morals and feel truly disrespected.”

- Adam (30, Kansas City, MO)

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In a 3 part series of articles, entitled “For The Love Of A Lady”, I have been writing a story about a woman I have been dating. In part 1, I reproduced a heartfelt letter after she had called off the relationship, then in part 2, I discussed my fears and the opinions of friends. And now in part 3, I reveal her answer, after an unbearable 10 days of silence…

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