As online dating proliferation continues to gain momentum, many people are seeking more flexible options for their own romantic interests. There was a time when people all flocked to dating sites that had one large audience segmented by sexual orientation, ethnicity, gender and several other characteristics. These days sites have evolved and to the delight of bisexual dating enthusiasts the community of potential mates has began to blur the artificial lines that once kept possible matches apart from each other.

“Bi Dating has always been an important counter-culture to the strict spectrum of so-called straight or gay dating sites” said Kendra Wilkins of GirlfriendsMeet.com “Finally people are getting past all the labels and setting aside their differences in search of a love and sexual excitement that is truly unlimited. On our sites we find so many women who pretty much ignore gender at this point and focus instead on the more important things that make for a successful match. Once you find someone attractive, smart, funny, caring, sexy and creative – who cares if they happen to be a man or a woman really? The key to Bi-Dating is finding a match first and going beyond the era of sexual stigmas.” … read more

charlie Asked Relationship Experts:

“my wife told me she wants to be with girls i still love her very much and i dont want to lose her what can i do to get her to come back to me?”

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Amanda Asked:

“I have had these strong Intuitive thoughts for 3 years that I have known my husband. I am beginning to question his sexual preference. I met him while he was in the military and he had this friend that was very touchy towards him but he always said he didnt see it. One night particulary that I can’t get out of my head was when I was staying in the barracks with him and he left his room and went to his male buddies room. He left me and stayed gone for a total of about 2 hours. During that time I went to his buddies room and kept banging on the door and the door was locked and neither one would answer. We had not fought or anything previous. He later came back his buddy was carrying him and said he had passed out in his room. I totally didnt believe any of it but blocked it out of my mind. He continued to hang out with him, not to mention he worked with him and was in Iraq with him before I met him. I had asked him numerous times if my husband was gay or had ever done anything with him and he would always answer no. Which I truly know he wouldnt admit to it anyway giving the fact he is from a very christian home. We fought one time about it and I ended up leaving to stay with a friend and when we rode by my house I noticed this buddy was there. I never did go in, probably to scared to know if anything was happening. We later got married and he has been out of the service for 2 years now. His buddy still tries to contact him but to my knowledge they dont speak. Other friends of his that were in the military have seen the same things of how his buddy acts and believes he is gay also. Ever since he got out of the military he has not been the same. We do have an 18 month old son. I noticed after he got out, our sex life has not been the same and we are much more distant than ever. I will go some time without thinking about it but it continues to flare up in my thoughts. I can’t let it go mentally even though we have a life in a different state and have a child now. I still feel as if something is not right. His parents would die if they knew their son was gay and I feel as if im just a cover up. There are just so many little things that have happened on why I believe he is gay. Is my intuitive gut feeling right? I really need some advice on what you think. Thanks,”

- Amanda (24)

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Kim Asked:

“My boyfriend and I have been arguing, it could be petty, important or just because. He has had several relationships, very sexual, exotic girlfriends. He’s had 3somes, 4somes, He gets very defensive, when I have asked him questions when I am gone for the weekend. Example, he went out to a bar, with a roommate, I found out through a friend, who was walking across the street. he called to the 2 of them, i guess they didn’t hear him. So I had left several messages on his phone, to c what e was doing, or maybe he was asleep! Hours later he called, and it took a few minutes and he casually said, after dinner when I was not feeling well, Tracy asked me to go to the bar. he never called me, and they were out for 2 hours or so. I tried to ask questions, but he got angry, defensive, and basically put it, nothing happen, and I am not going to sit here on the phone, talking about it! I tried talking, he would not return my calls, I couldn’t get a ride home, and he also said I went out for a couple of hours, at least she paid attention to me, not like you who complains when I am making noise, by eating in the room, shuffling paper, etc. He tried to make it my fault,or brings up something about me and what I had done. Our arguing is getting worse, I don’t like to leave our room where I rent, since he gets energy to go out and about. he has made comments to having a 3some with her. is shes at the bar late, she will call him to come walk her home…. I have no problem with that. I want her back safely. she is single. I am 47, he’s 54 Tracy is 47 he’s home right now, and I can’t get a hold of him at 11 pm.. again. last night he went out on his bike, for 3 hours, came home, I was asleep… I found out he had gone to a bar, rode to the toy box, x rated stores, then stopped at our old roommates and hung out there for a while.. why should I have o ask him, where he went, or take his defensive anger while he tells me nothing happen..”

- Kim (47, CA)

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Kevin Asked:

“i have been with my wife for 14 years married for 12 we had a open relationship for most of our life together and everything seemed to be fine neither of us made a complaint about it we had set limits and agreed that as long as our hearts were in the right place it seemed fine but for the last 3 years she has been with this guy whom was well informed the she was only in it for the sex but as time passed she spent more time with him and it caused a strain on our relationship and when i asked her nicely several times to cut back she would play it off and find reasons to spend more time with him and then i started getting more firm about them spending less time together with him and she said that by me wanting that i was driving her into his arms and things got worse from there well i ended up wanting to leave her and when i tried to she begged me not to leave and that she wanted to work things out with me so the three of us had a talk and she made it clear to him that she never intended to leave me and i said that if we were going to work things out he would have to be out of our lives and so he left and things got so much better then later on down the road she came up with a reason to talk to him again and said i had nothing to worry about and soon we were right back to having the same troubles again.

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Charles Asked:

“My wife says that she was born gay not bi but gay and really believes it. She cant turn off her attraction to girls but she says she loves me and only me. My question is whether or not she can really love me if she believes she was born gay and will our relationmship last?”

- Charles (26, Killeen,TX)

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Joe Asked:

“My wife has had a brief bisexual encounter when she was an adolescent. She kissed another female and the other female felt her breasts. She recently mentioned to me that she is curious as to what it would be like to be with a woman. How can I help her explore her fantasy without introducing another person in our relationship. As a man how can I help her experience her fantasy? I would like womens point of view.”

- Joe (40, Houston, TX)

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Negotiated infidelity. That’s the subject of “Sugarbabe” by Holly Hill, an Australian former mistress turned author. Her premise: keep your guy faithful to your relationship by letting him be unfaithful to you. Hmmmm . . .

Call me old fashioned. Call me narrow-minded. But I’m not one teensy bit interested in giving my sweetheart the nod to break a sweat with other women. Ms. Hill postulates that guys will be guys and, thus, we women might as well stop fighting human nature. That’s a bit like saying it’s a dog’s nature to bite so why train your dog to have good manners.

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Listener Question:  Tell me, why does dropping one’s drawers have to be the line of demarcation? Is that really the point of no return? If so, then why do you consider it as such? My studies of aboriginal Polynesian societies have led me to delve into customs of touching in other nearly nude societies, including those of primates, with whom we share 98% of our DNA. These societies have no drawers to drop, yet raised peaceful, sexually wise kids.

Maryanne Answer: Good question: what about dropping one’s drawers creates such a hard line?

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(yesterday)

I wake up from a fitful night’s sleep, glad that it is time to get up and begin my day. While still half-awake, I feel into my dreams to see if there is anything important there, but the dreamscape is silent.Over the past few nights I’ve been working a lot in my dreams, getting downloads of unconditional love, so I suppose it’s okay to have a dreamless night! Still, I feel a little disappointment that I have nothing to mull over.

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