Negotiated infidelity. That’s the subject of “Sugarbabe” by Holly Hill, an Australian former mistress turned author. Her premise: keep your guy faithful to your relationship by letting him be unfaithful to you. Hmmmm . . .
Call me old fashioned. Call me narrow-minded. But I’m not one teensy bit interested in giving my sweetheart the nod to break a sweat with other women. Ms. Hill postulates that guys will be guys and, thus, we women might as well stop fighting human nature. That’s a bit like saying it’s a dog’s nature to bite so why train your dog to have good manners.
Listener Question: Tell me, why does dropping one’s drawers have to be the line of demarcation? Is that really the point of no return? If so, then why do you consider it as such? My studies of aboriginal Polynesian societies have led me to delve into customs of touching in other nearly nude societies, including those of primates, with whom we share 98% of our DNA. These societies have no drawers to drop, yet raised peaceful, sexually wise kids.
(yesterday)
I know you have all heard of foreplay, but how many have heard of sexual post play? Well, I am here to tell you if you follow my suggestions for post play; you will become a hero in the bedroom. You will be talked about by your wife or girlfriend. That’s right, women talk about us and how we do in the bedroom as well. They just don’t tell you about it. They also talk to me in my job as a marriage, relationship and sexual coach. I hear that you guys just roll over and go to sleep leaving your women too often unsatisfied and unable to sleep and feeling ignored and left out.
One night while with my girlfriend, we decided like most couples to try something new to spice up our love life. There are so many shall we say educational tools as well as new techniques to discover and explore. I think it’s a healthy part of any relationship because as two consenting adults everything at the very least should be open to discussion. It doesn’t mean that it has to be done but at least ladies, let your imagination run wild from time to time and talk about your fantasies with your partner. Now of course having a healthy sexual appetite and living a BDSM lifestyle are 2 different animals. I believe if you are open to trying new things? You will find a wonderful buffet with a variety of flavors and spices to discover.
We can learn a lot about human sexuality by studying humans; however, it is important to keep in mind that humans are just one animal species among the millions of species with whom we share our planet. To fully understand human sexuality, we must therefore examine it against the broad context of animal reproduction in general. In other words, the stories told to youngsters about the birds and the bees are far more germane and relevant than the people telling them might care to admit. Let’s take a look at some of the many ways that life on this fantastic planet keeps itself going from generation to generation.
As I said last week, we need to get past our myriad customs, taboos, social mores, etc., to look at the physical human animal if we want to truly understand how men and women relate to each other and why. To do this, we need to look at how the human animal evolved and how those evolutionary pressures continue to affect our daily lives. If you think we’ve moved beyond our evolutionary history, think again: 99.99% of our 5.5 million year history took place before civilization. We may live in cosmopolitan cities and enjoy luxuries unimaginable to our ancestors but our brains remain wired for the primordial African jungle.
