Alicia Asked:

“My boyfriend watches ALOT of porn, which doesn’t bother me at all. My problem is that he is somewhat inexperienced and seems to think real sex should be like it is in porn movies…multiple and uncomfortable positions, lasting for hours, etc. How do I tell him that I don’t like this without damaging his ego? I’ve tried using guidance in the bedroom but he just goes back to what he thinks is good.”

- Alicia (31)

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Oli Asked:

“how to get over lying and cheating, I just can’t stop!

I have been dating my ex for 4 years. it’s always been lol rough with daily arguments and jealousy seens. I truly loved her so we got engaged and I even came to US with her. While here I cought her 3 times trying to cheat but ultimately forgave her, finally she went over board and I had to move out a year ago.

It was really tough hahaha:) I was acting like clingy, deppendent and insecure, but soon started dating. With in One year I dated more than 30 girl, and damn I was on fire, Internet bar party friends, you name it, and so a pain started to go away ( I sound like a looser already lol ) but anyhow I made it.

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Jasmine Asked:

“me and my ex have been going through this on and off type of relationship for the past four years, during the last year of our relationship he turned into this mean person i dont want to be with him, ive had my ends straw but i feel like the only way i can be happy is to talk to him, hes started rumors and believes that i have had sex with a number of guys. But i got into the relationship a virgin and still to this day its only been him. i just want to know what to do, how to prove i have been honest. My parents dont approve but my thoughts have even wondered as far as calling a talk show host to take a lie detector test so he’ll get off my back and leave my family, my friends, and myself alone. hes honestly ruined my life i want this to end, what do i do ? please help!”

- Jasmine (21, Fort Wayne, Indiana)

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Jordyn Asked:

“I work 6 days a week and pull at least 12 hrs a day and now that I started working my boyfriend has started watching porn. We have a son and have been togeher for 3 yrs. He knows I hate porn but here lately when I go to bed if we dont have sex before I go to bed he watches porn. What should I do bc it makes me insecure bc of it.”

- Jordyn (20)

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April Asked:

“my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now and i love him more than anything but he always tells me he doesnt want kids and doesnt believe in marriage i love him and im hoping one day hell change his mind but i dont see it happening i dont want to leave him hes the father to my first son (lost him in a miscarriage) but now he barely even touches me anymore and our sex life is dwindling all we do is foreplay and have sex no more than once or twice every few months and its horrible it makes me feel like he doesnt care enough to touch me anymore and when we first got together we had sex all the time and when we moved in together lil over a year ago he just treats me like im diseased (which im not) and hardly ever touches me but when its convenient for him i love him more than anything please i need your help.”

- April (21, Oklahoma, City Oklahoma)

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Greg Asked:

“Is she cheating on me and if not, should she be? I am happily married to a great woman who I have known for over 14 years. The only real problem we have is different views about sex. We make love at best once a month – rarely more often and sometimes less, even every two or three month at times. We have discussed this and she knows I would love to be able to do it daily, but she insists that once a month is all she needs, and she almost never initiates. It has basically always been this way, with very rare periods of time as exceptions. We went on a vacation to the island she was raised on and made love every day for two weeks, but when we got home it was back to same routine. I am passionate but no stud in bed, very small cock and a quick trigger if I have not had a bottle of wine. Also have gotten somewhat out of shape over the years, but am working on that. She insists she has no problems with me physically but I find that hard to believe and wonder if she is really getting her satisfaction on the side with someone else. And if not, would an affair maybe renew her interest in sex and be good for both of us? How do I figure this out?”

- Greg (44, Brooklyn, New York)

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Becky Asked:

“I have a question regarding my husband and his disinterest in sex. We have been married for 7 yrs and have a 2 yr old child. It started almost immediately after we got married…on our honeymoon to be exact…where I started noticing a change in my husband. He was very disinterested in sex and almost made it feel like a chore. Since then it continued…he only wants to have sex on the weekends after he has been drinking or when we go out of town for a night away. We end up having sex maybe 1-2 times a month and absolutely never during the week. I have tried many times to spice up our sex life and he always acts like I am crazy to even suggest that.

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Confused Asked:

“So here is my dilemma, I have been married for 4 years and our relationship is not perfect but for the most part it has been great, except for my wifes low sex drive, she seems to enjoy it when we do have sex but does not want it for months on end, she is 27 yrs old. The other problem i have is with her lesbian co-worker who clearly has a crush on her, and my wife loves to hang out with her and her other work friends, also i am never invited. It always seems that hanging out with this group of friend is always the highest on her list, for example the oher day she came back from a 3 day conference and the same evening she tells me she wants to hang out with those friends ( they were not at the conference) I tell her i rather have here with me, she tells me i can come too but obviously does not mean that, and when i put my foot down she still goes. Now this causes a huge fight, when we start talking about it, she finally says that she wants to hang out with these people by herself, i ask her why can i not be invited and maybe they can be our mutual friend, she has no answer, just keeps repeating these i my friends and if u were with me then it would not be the same. I have had no problems with this in the past with her other girl friends she having girls night etc. But with this group of people it is a no no, Makes me even more suspicious about the nature of her relationship with her lesbian friend. She assures me there is nothing going on and that she is not interested in girls, but when push comes to shove she always goes to bat for her over me!! Please tell me i am not crazy for thinking what I am thinking. Also I should mention that they usually hang out at a friends house, not the lesbian friend’s but another guy from the group. Also i recently lost my job so I have been home a lot. Also i did read her text messages from this lesbian girl and they were very flirty when i asked her about this she said she is like this with everyone, and now has started deleting all her texts from her.
Please help me, i need to know if there is anything going on here and should i be worried in her sudden need for exclusiveness.”

- Confused (31)

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V Raj Asked:

“I have been married 2 years now. We knew each other for about 8months before we got married and moved in together after our marriage. My husband is very honest, helps me with our daily chores, we go out for dinner, shopping and movies together. But I do not find him romantic. I find his sex drive too low. We never had sex before marriage. Ever since we got married, we have sex utmost 3times a month. I feel like he is not attracted to me anymore. I am definite he is not cheating on me, but i do not get enough attention from him. He travels a lot and I anticipate his return, excited for him to be back home… but he is always in the same neutral mood. I find that a big turn off. I love him, but coz of the way things are I am starting to doubt myself. I do not know how much longer I will be able to hold on to this relationship. My question for you is – How do I make my relationship healthy? What can I do to improve the way things are?”

- V Raj (30)

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Francis Asked:

“hi all. in december last year, i had a bad fight with my girlfriend and later on reconciled. we had been in fights before but this particular one was so bitter to me. during that period, we tried making love but i lost my erection. since then, i have been very nervous about sex with her. we have reconciled but most times i worry that i may not get an erection and indeed i dont get one. we have problems but we sort them out but i feel good sex will also go a long way in cementing us. she recently told me that the low sex in the relationship is worrying her.how can i fix this?”

- Francis (27, Nairobi, Kenya)

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