“Ok my fiancee and I have been together 3 yrs.  Im divorced because of domestic violence, I have been through many traumatic experiences throughout my life..I have adhd, ocd and ptsd and Im hypothyroid.
It took my fiancee a while for me to trust him. He comes from a marriage where he was cheated on…he got separated and met someone else. He feels guilty about not being able to be physically there for his kids like he would like…that is our background. Now, we recently had a daughter and 1 1/2 months after giving birth I found out he had been looking at personal ads on craigslist…I forgave him since he admitted its an addiction and he told me I could go through his email and phone whenever I wanted.

BUT he keeps responding to ads and even sending pictures and saying he is married. It just hurts so much specially since he knows what I have been through since we have a daugher and that didnt stop him. He has talked to his therapist but I wonder how he tells him. My fiancee says he failed me and doesnt deserve me and I feel that’s part of the issue: his insecurity. He opened a whole new world of hurt on me and Im angry since he got me to trust him…for this?? Even my family gave me their back because Im not married to him. He is an ex felon maybe thats where his guilt comes in also? Since we have been together he received a call (in my presence) where he was told he had a love child (well he was separated at the moment the child was conceived separation confirmed by his older daughter) which adds to his guilt and my fear now . But my fear is even though he was separated he might cheat on me w her bcause he keeps contact with her because of their child I dont like that they talk about things other than the child (emails) again because of the personal ads. He says he has never actually met anyone in the ads…but he keeps hiding and erasing the emails. I truly love this man and he is loving and caring…just great in every other aspect. What do I do?”

- TrustingHeart (32, Nevada)

“I lke this girl with whom i am friends from past 3 months. now i have developed a feeling for her and i am feeling like i shold have her as my girlfriend. we talk for almost everyday via phone or text. now the problem is she says that she is not interested in having relationship with anyone and wants to focus on her carrier. now i am plannig to propose her next week. I know that ultimately she ll b Saying NO! But i really dont want to lose her. So ultimately my question is, “what should i do make her say Yes, after she had already said NO?”

- Prat the Brat (21, India)

“I have been with my boyfriend for over Five years and we just recently got engaged. Now there is another guy I am interested in and the other guy is not at all what I will usually go for. He has a wife and a one year old child back in his country. He tells me he is having problems with her and I feel like I might not be ready to wed yet due to the fact that I have kissed this guy more than one in my engagement.I feel like I am stuck. I can’t stop thinking of this guy and when I see my fiance I think of this guy. I dont know what to do. Please Help!”

- Brenda (23, Florida)

“I have found myself unable to stop making abusive comments to my girlfriend, I used to think that she was being over sensitive and it was only my way of being playful. However on reflection I do not think this was relevant because essentially I do not want to hurt her.  Also I used to think that I was seeking her approval by trying to make her laugh but this does not make sense and now I feel that I am a bully because I could not stop myself from belittling her, ultimately like an addiction. I have parted with my girlfriend to reflect and figure out what I need to do to change my behaviour, that because being a recovered alcoholic I firmly believe is possible.”

- John (33, Flagstaff, Arizona, USA)

“we been talking for a year. Things were complicated because it seemed as if he had a issue moving foward with me. He claimed he really liked me and didn’t want to be friends 0. Never has he made an effort to spend time with me. I talked to him about it and now he claims he doesn’t want me to move on,but needs sometime to think. He says attracted to the person I am.he agres to finish our convo when he calls back but then I don’t hear from him in a month. He recently calls I ignore then call back a day later and its been a week and hasn’t called back.”

- Lauren (22, Dallas)

“So i met this girl. I saw her in passing a few times but I never had a real conversation just a few hi and passing. One day she asks for my number and from there we were off. She let me know she was unhappily married and had some other things going on and didnt want to involve anyone else in her problems. however we talked constantly, always flirting, she tells me I’m the first thing she thinks about and how she thinks im cute. Well we were suppose to go out for drinks on her day off and she waits until the last minute to tell me that she’s not putting drinking and spending time with me over skyoing her husband. Ok fine so I told her she should have let me know that earlier. So I stop by her room at like 1 in the morning just to make sure we were ok. She told me we was and then the next day messages me and tells me dont show up at her door anymore and basically to stop talking to her. What happened and what should I do from here?”

- Cassidy (21, Dover, DE)

“Im caught in a intense love triangle with a girl ive been with for three years, and a girl i met years ago and we fell off,but just a few months got back in touch. The girl ive been with for three years i love to death but things have been rocky for the past couple months, from lies,and just pointles arguements. The other girl lives in another state now but ive see her a lot and she treats me so good,and i have caught so much feelings for her. My girl and i now just argue,and i mean i love her truly but i dont know what to do. I dont want to string either of them on..any helpful advice? Thank you”

- Leshawn (21, Bloomfield, CT)

“okay nd my bf now ex well he had been cheating on me and it was the whole relationship but he told me wen he goes to parties he gets drunk and ends up doing something stupid and well he cheated on me and brokeup with me cause he realized wat he did the next morning and the day after he wanted me back and i dont know whether i should give him a second chance or not and its been stressing me out cause i love him and i wanna be able to give me and him another shot.”

- Gabbie (17, Opelousas, Louisiana)

“My story is complicated. I currently have a boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 2 years. There is this other boy I’ve know since a little girl but began to like each other and develop love 9 years ago. We never got to establish a real relationship due to distance. But we were madly in love. My problem is that right now I’m loving him and my boyfriend at the same time. I think of him every single day and we barely talk because now he has a child and girlfriend. I feel that he still has feelings whenever we chat to see how life is going and so on. I just don’t know what to do? Do I tell him I still love him? Do I just stay with my current boyfriend and continue being tormented by the thoughts of the other guy in my head every single day? HELP. I don’t want to wonder for the rest of my life what if’s.”

- Anon (20)

“This guy i met trough internet, and now we are having s long distance relationship. But nothing goes right… sometimes he is good to me sometimes he is not…he says he wants to be with me and he only wants me…but we keep fighting around little and stupid stuff…he keeps coming back and apologizing and i keep taking him back… ever time we talk on the phone he says that he is crazy about my voice and that he cant help his self and he masturbates everytime he hears me talking…i dont know what to do, how to handle this situation? sometimes i think he loves me but sometimes i feel like he is just using me?”

- She (21)