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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jul 2011 16:00:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maryanne Comaroto</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[500 Words: “If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I&#8217;d want to pass along to others… The first thing I would share would be to stop at nothing to know the truth. Particularly know the truth about who [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-7520" title="500 Words" src="http://advice.lovedetour.com/wp-content/uploads/500-Words.jpg" alt="advice.lovedetour.com 500 Words 500 Words image" width="350" height="280" />500 Words: “If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I&#8217;d want to pass along to others…</p>
<p>The first thing I would share would be to stop at nothing to know the truth. Particularly know the truth about who you are, your relationship to the Divine, real love, life purpose, what you respect, how you treat yourself, and what you stand for.</p>
<p>Next I would offer some pearls of real love and wisdom I have collected from beloved friends and wise persons that have saved my soul and at times my sanity: “There is no competition for my true life’s purpose, so there is no reason to hurry or worry about anything,” “Be who you are, everyone else is taken,” “People treat you the way you treat yourself,” “You are stronger than you think,” “If you can see it, it’s possible,” and “You’re always doing one of two things: creating connection or separation!”</p>
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<p>About children I would beg you: to consider that they need respect, to feel safe and to have an enlightened witness; to understand that being a parent is a privilege; to see your children’s unique selves rather than projecting onto them what you didn’t get; to know that the same God that shines on you shines on them and they can know the truth; and to remember that they chose you as their benevolent servant to help escort them onto their own unique and magnificent path.</p>
<p>On relationships I would offer that: YOU are the ONE; slow down…real love doesn’t have a shelf life; chemistry is a terrible litmus test for choosing a great partner; never, ever, settle; watch what people say and what they do and make sure they match; don’t let anyone tell you sex doesn’t mean anything—your body is sacred, you are sacred and sex is sacred; and, know this…that which you seek is seeking you!</p>
<p>On community I strongly suggest that you find your unique place and serve as though your life depends on it, and assure you that: you have a right to be here too, be who you are and treat yourself well; respect everyone as your brother and sister; there but for the grace of God go I; there is no other; and take care to be the kind of friend you want to have!</p>
<p>On humanity, I know that: The Divine is my source of everything and my life purpose; who I really am is eternal; there is no “there”; everything but love is a projection; healing only happens in the field of love and by the grace of God; I am no-thing, I am no-one, I am that that I am…I am blessed to be and offer you every blessing that you awaken to know the truth and have the courage to stay awake at every turn, even in the face of death.</p>
<p>And a few Maryanne-isms I have enjoyed chanting throughout the years as part of my practice: “Just because your mind tells you something doesn’t mean it’s true,” “People who believe in nothing greater than themselves do damage,” “When all else fails stop, drop, and roll: stop pointing at them and look in the mirror, drop into yourself and seek the truth about what’s really going on, then roll around in your options and choose carefully,” “No one can EVER take God away from you,” and, like I always say, “Great relationships begin within!”</p>
<p>Here are my Seven Essential Truths and their practices:</p>
<p>•	The Human Body Holds Infinite Wisdom<br />
Practice: Listen to Your Body</p>
<p>•	Energy Doesn’t Lie<br />
Practice: Move Your Body</p>
<p>•	A Clear Body Channel Holds the Highest Truth<br />
Practice: Put Good Things in Your Body</p>
<p>•	The Mind is a Wonderful Servant but a Terrible Master<br />
Practice: Put only Good Thoughts in Your Mind</p>
<p>•	You are the Sum Total of the Five Closest People You Associate With<br />
Practice: Surround Yourself with Supportive People</p>
<p>•	Your Life Purpose is the North Star on Your Journey<br />
Practice: Keep Your Eye on the Ball</p>
<p>•	You Have Unlimited Access to a Power Greater than Yourself<br />
Practice: Pray for Guidance</p>
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		<title>Men Who Wear Wigs</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jul 2011 16:00:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maryanne Comaroto</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I was a kid I figured Nature was basically a guy thing, the same way I supposed wearing wigs, for example, was primarily a girl thing. That’s probably because when I was growing up it was men who did things like: hunt, spear, shoot, capture and in some cases kill while the females stayed [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-7486" title="Men in wig" src="http://advice.lovedetour.com/wp-content/uploads/Men-in-wig.jpg" alt="advice.lovedetour.com Men Who Wear Wigs Men in wig image" width="300" height="359" />When I was a kid I figured Nature was basically a guy thing, the same way I supposed wearing wigs, for example, was primarily a girl thing. That’s probably because when I was growing up it was men who did things like: hunt, spear, shoot, capture and in some cases kill while the females stayed let’s say, nearer to the hearth (or shopping mall). And even though the men in my house didn’t necessarily do any of those things, no more than we sat around churning butter, milking cows, plucking chickens, or stirring cauldrons, that doesn’t change my point; that Nature seemed most sanctioned for those less prone to wear wigs.</p>
<p>Let me explain. It’s true I wasn’t socialized in the country (think indoor ferns, Fresca and 70s atriums and you’ll get the picture).  Like most parents in the greater suburbia where I was raised, mine dispensed controlled doses of wildlife: touring Yosemite in a fully equipped motor home, strolling through the aquarium at Golden Gate Park or the occasional trip to the Zoo. I have a picture of me in my stroller attempting to fend off this crazy goat who was trying to eat my favorite blanket, and instead of being encouraged to express my disdain I was coddled and hushed. Unlike my brothers who were alternately encouraged to wrestle and fend, I didn’t even get so much as a pat on the back for my obvious courage. Not once was I ever told to go forth and sow my wild oats, sail the seven seas or explore strange new worlds, seek out new life and new civilization…to boldly go where no man has gone before, etc.</p>
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<p>Nope, instead I was strongly encouraged to internalize my distress, to calm down, that in fact was what really happening was that I needed to be calmed, that I was being hysterical, and that there was nothing to be afraid of. If I showed you the picture of me and that goat you would see for yourself; I was clearly not afraid…I was pissed. Not the damsel in distress I was thusly (and forever more) in training for, who henceforward was cautioned at every turn and snarl that the world was a scary place, that someday someone would come and rescue me and in the meantime to cross my legs and think of Jesus.</p>
<p>If you think about it, associating nature in terms of gender is about as ridiculous as the idea of men wearing wigs, yet remember Thomas Jefferson, George Washington, notable men who fought for and touted individual freedom? Like most lofty ideals, the ideal of gender-equal Nature becoming distorted goes with the territory, or so it seems—hence my skewed “environmental identity.” Instead of being encouraged to explore and investigate my external world I was kept caged like a zoo animal, forced to the confines of my imagination as Nature and the wild life was reserved for those with more brawn (or Y chromosomes).</p>
<p>Though I didn’t always succumb to this gender conformity (I did climb my fair share of trees, wander into a field here and there and even discover an abandoned life-size doll house that I stole away to every chance I got one blissful summer), I unfortunately continued to struggle over the years with the idea that Nature was to be feared and not to be ventured into alone.</p>
<p>Until recently, when I met an unsuspecting group of Nature activists and enthusiasts including Henry David Thoreau, Annie Dillard, James Hillman, and my brilliant, loving teachers and classmates, all helping me “get so that my feeling is in right relation to the world I am in” as James Hillman put it. Helping me realize that nature isn’t a place, it’s not “out there” or separate from me, but actually I am Nature.</p>
<p>What a glorious realization to see that what I have believed for so long, that great relationships begin within, was essentially my guiding light…ultimately illuminating that after all, I am Nature. And while men wearing wigs seems an odd sequitur, I am relieved by the realization that some things in life are indeed inherently natural, while others are just sublimely ridiculous.</p>
<p>I wish you every blessing wherever you find yourself on this journey…inside or out…</p>
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		<title>What Do Sex and Money Have in Common?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 May 2011 16:00:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maryanne Comaroto</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[1) Money makes you more of who you are: meaning, whatever your money issues or beliefs are, you bring them with you into your relationships. It’s almost always the case that whatever values and beliefs you have about money, you will die with—unless you’re willing to do the work and get to the root of them [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-7263" title="Money in Relationship" src="http://advice.lovedetour.com/wp-content/uploads/Money-in-Relationship.jpg" alt="advice.lovedetour.com What Do Sex and Money Have in Common?  Money in Relationship image" width="400" height="267" />1) <strong>Money makes you more of who you are</strong>: meaning, whatever your money issues or beliefs are, you bring them with you into your relationships. It’s almost always the case that whatever values and beliefs you have about money, you will die with—unless you’re willing to do the work and get to the root of them and make some changes! You can start by not pointing the finger at your partner, and taking a look at what <em>your </em>bottom line is about finances. Do you believe that there is enough money for everyone on the planet? Do you believe it’s your partner’s job to manage or make all the money? Do you believe life is hard and then you die? That it’s easier being a man…or a woman? That rich politicians make it impossible to get ahead? That rich people are evil, that you’re just not good with money, etc. You really deserve to take a good look, otherwise you and your partner are doomed to repeat your unconscious material in the relationship! Don’t bother lying to yourself; the proof is in the pudding. I mean that until you get real, you and your relationships will always reflect your true inner values and beliefs. Sex and money cause the most overall stress in relationships. This week’s topic is going to cover some basics about money and relationship and what you can do to manage your stress about it. Once you identify those, you can do something about them!</p>
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<p>2) <strong>Lay it on the line: </strong>Most of us are afraid to look at the facts about our money situation. We don’t want to know what the bottom line really is, so we stay in denial and bumble along hoping things will change. The truth is, they won’t unless you change them! I say YOU CAN HANDLE THE TRUTH and need to look at it. Take back your power: pull your credit report, make a list of how much money you have in the bank, how many credit cards you have, and what you owe. Spell it all out. No one is coming to rescue you but you, so suck it up, take a deep breath and look at it. Then (here’s the great part) you can choose what you want and what you’re willing to do to make that happen! We all know now that energy flows, so make an investment in getting the facts on your financial pulse.</p>
<p>3) <strong>Get on the same team:</strong> If you are in a relationship, fighting about money is pointless, whereas negotiating about it isn’t. Take the opportunity in this economy to get clear whose team you are on and what your goals are together. When you and your partner are on the same page there is nothing you cannot do, but if you’re constantly at odds I guarantee it will cost ya!</p>
<p>4) <strong>Be adventuresome and creative</strong>: Everyone is affected by the stress of survival on some level, and unless you want to be a perpetual stress victim you’re going to have to change your attitudes. You can start by seeing the world of finance and money as a game, and one you can both win. Get out there and see what you can do, and stop wasting time fighting about what you can’t. Find ways to achieve your goals together and it will bring you closer in the end.</p>
<p>5) <strong>Map out your next 5 years.</strong> My husband and I love this because first we look at what happened the previous five years; what worked, what didn’t, etc. Then we sit with paper and crayons and a tape recorder and off we go. What do WE want! And then we create the map on how to get there.</p>
<p>6) <strong>RITUAL ROCKS!</strong> Another thing I highly recommend is ritual in relationship. My husband and I sit together regularly and pull our Divination cards to get clarity on our work or issues at hand (go to <a href="http://www.freebeginwithin.com/" target="_blank">www.freebeginwithin.com</a> for a free reading). We also set new moon intentions throughout the year: on the new moon we write out our intentions for that month and it really creates a sense of unity and shared vision.</p>
<p>7) <strong>Everyone’s in the same boat</strong>: Try not watching so much TV and letting the images brainwash you into thinking everyone’s is rich and perfect EXCEPT you! It’s just HOGWASH! And, incidentally, not real or the truth about what’s happening on the planet right now. WE are all trying to make ends meet and ultimately THRIVE, and so often the media unconsciously undermines our efforts. Don’t waste time feeling like you are the only ones because you are not: take the three hours a day you spend in front of the idiot box and invest them into your relationship, yourself and your dreams!</p>
<p>8) <strong>Gratitude as the portal</strong>: By the way, the average person on the planet makes a whopping three dollars a day, so let’s start with some gratitude&#8230;it’s a fabulous portal when times are tough. Plus, it’s an instant way to feel great about the gift of simply breathing in and out and being alive. Make a list of everything you are grateful for right now, and watch your life change as a result!<br />
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		<description><![CDATA[Nowadays, there are millions of online dating sites all over the world. It makes it so hard to choose the right online dating site. We&#8217;ve made it easy and narrowed down a few online dating sites that are our top picks. Here is our list of best online dating sites in the market today. Match.com [...]]]></description>
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<p style="text-align: left;">Nowadays, there are millions of online dating sites all over the world. It makes it so hard to choose the right online dating site. We&#8217;ve made it easy and narrowed down a few online dating sites that are our top picks. Here is our list of best online dating sites in the market today.</p>
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<h3>Match.com</h3>
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<h3>Chemistry.com</h3>
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<h3>Cupid.com</h3>
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<h3>BeNaughty.com</h3>
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<h3>Flirt.com<br />
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		<title>Can you have too many friends?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 Apr 2011 16:00:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maryanne Comaroto</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have wanted to write this blog for weeks, its answers pressing on me as I sit sneezing, coughing, with an achy, stuffy head, Kleenex feverishly strewn about in a trail from my bed to my computer. So I sit Indian-style in my favorite jammies, gurgling, nursing my tea, missing dancing with my beloved friends [...]]]></description>
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<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I have wanted to write this blog for weeks, its answers pressing on me as I sit sneezing, coughing, with an achy, stuffy head, Kleenex feverishly strewn about in a trail from my bed to my computer. So I sit Indian-style in my favorite jammies, gurgling, nursing my tea, missing dancing with my beloved friends this Sunday morning, torn between caring for myself and showing up for the rest of life.</span></span></span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">I know it is my practice to listen daily to my body and follow its wisdom: sometimes to sweat my prayers and celebrate freedom of being, sometimes in stillness and at other times alone. Then I picture my husband dancing among my friends, churning about, his eyes closed, people spinning past him, hugging onto him, sharing their beauty and authentic presence with him…when I realize the gift of friendship that I find on that very dance floor lives inside me no matter what state I am in. I exhale and relax into my healing, comforted by this truth.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Because it wasn’t always so. When I first arrived in my dance community many years ago, I had two intentions: 1) To be free, totally free in my body and to have my insides match my outsides and celebrate, “I am that, that I am.” And 2) To attract a group of friends that I would grow with, perhaps get old with, that cherished my same core values and shared a deep commitment to the path of higher consciousness.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">I knew very little about such a community or this freedom. What I knew was a world where people pretended to be people they were not, said one thing and did another and valued money, power and prestige above all. People who were stiff, stuck and dying inside. But I was determined to find that community or bust.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Which is probably why this place found me: given I had no idea people like this existed, I wouldn’t have known what to look for. It doesn’t really matter who found who because a bridge burst forward from my heart and planted itself in this place that I now call home the moment I stepped on the floor. I was greeted like a long-lost friend, swept away by their genuine care though not a word was spoken. Whatever I had they were ready for, they didn’t even flinch. I screamed and cried and stomped and spewed and then magically, little by little, unraveled and melted. They just loved me.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Finally I had found a place to</span></span></span> <span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><em>live</em></span></span></span><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">, a real live place where people connected the inner spirit world to a place big enough to hold everything, a place where love IS the answer instead of a metaphor. Where no matter who you are, where you come from, or what you left behind, you are welcome and included, all the way out loud! A place where friendship is a way of life and spirituality is synonymous with reality and valued above everything.</span></span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">So for me the idea of too many friends seems mutable until we understand what it is we seek and why. Primarily because friends, the kind that I am speaking of, cannot be had, accumulated or acquired. Friends are gifts like the sky and the wind. Spirits that flow in and out of your awareness and life, magnificent reflections that dance in and around you offering opportunities to heal, prosper or bless.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">And like all gifts, friendship is a gift that we must be open to receive. An unfolding paradox that invites us to feel deal and heal as we peel back the layers of false self, tenderly, respectfully, carefully revealing what is most high and splendid in reverence of each other.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Today I can truly say my life is filled with friendship. And who I have become in the presence of each one is unique as it is plain; someone who treasures the courage it takes to stay on the dance floor, moving in and around each other as gracefully as compassionately as possible. No longer wondering how many friends are too many as I have come to find that you have a friend in me and that is enough.</span></span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: ArialMT, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Blessings to you Gabrielle and Kathy, my teachers and beloved friends always!</span></p>
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		<title>Online relationships- Pleasures, Pressures and Pitfalls</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 31 Jan 2011 16:00:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Amateur Expert</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Online relationships have got a pretty mixed reputation, with good reason. Some online relationships are absolute disasters, others are triumphs of communication and love. It’s important to take a realistic view of any online relationship before you start shopping for travel insurance. Online pleasures The great side of online relationships can be the utterly unexpected [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-6753" title="Online Relationships" src="http://advice.lovedetour.com/wp-content/uploads/Online-Relationships.jpg" alt="advice.lovedetour.com Online relationships  Pleasures, Pressures and Pitfalls Online Relationships image" width="350" height="292" />Online relationships have got a pretty mixed reputation, with good reason. Some online relationships are absolute disasters, others are triumphs of communication and love. It’s important to take a realistic view of any online relationship before you start shopping for <a href="https://www.travelinsuranz.com.au/" target="_blank">travel insurance</a>.</p>
<p><strong>Online pleasures</strong></p>
<p>The great side of online relationships can be the utterly unexpected people you meet. Friends can be made all over the world. There’s no lack of these good quality relationships, whatever else may be said about the perils of online romance. These are the healthy online relationships, and, not at all coincidentally, they’re also the ones most likely to lead to productive results.</p>
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<p>There’s one caveat- These are real relationships, with no strings attached. There’s nothing forced or fake about them. They can go on for years until both parties are prepared to take further steps. Ironically, they’re also often more honest relationships than the standard “social norms” of people in constant contact in daily life. There are no peer group issues, usually, which also helps produce a much less stressed relationship.</p>
<p><strong>Online pressures</strong></p>
<p>There’s another side, and it’s not too pleasant. Some online relationships are a bit too public or too much within a group to have a chance to flourish. Online bullying can create issues where a person is more likely to back off than get into a serious relationship. Some online environments are too “social”. They’re more like a nightclub where you can’t even hear each other speak most of the<br />
time. Relationships of this kind can be mirages.</p>
<p>Then there’s the absolute nadir of online relationships- The manipulative, too-enthusiastic approach from a total stranger. Few people fall for this these days, but it still happens, mainly to the people deliberately looking for someone online. These relationships are fake from the start. Some are deliberate set-ups, others are simply created by malicious people.</p>
<p>It’s understandable that people looking for relationships would naturally encounter the negative side of online relationships more often. After all, that’s what usually happens when people go looking for relationships in traditional social venues. It’s a way of setting yourself up for disappointment.</p>
<p><strong>The pitfalls</strong></p>
<p>The risks are real enough. People in online relationships which have gone sour have got into practically every known possible sort of trouble.</p>
<p>The usual results are pretty grim:</p>
<p>• Terrible disappointment</p>
<p>• Loss of money</p>
<p>• Fraud</p>
<p>• Fake marriages, annulled almost instantly</p>
<p>• Sexual assault</p>
<p>• In some cases, injury and death</p>
<p>Not very encouraging, is it? These things do happen. They&#8217;re real risks. However, in all fairness, these are also the minority of cases. The most likely result of any online relationship is just that- A relationship.</p>
<p><strong>Now the good news</strong></p>
<p>All relationships have ups and downs. That’s actually one of the great advantages of online relationships. People can get to know each other on a level which they might never have in “real life” relationships.</p>
<p>Living with someone is done by the clock. An online relationship is based on directly interacting with that person, not a domestic situation or outside work hours dating basis. You can spend more time with someone online than in person, in many cases.</p>
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		<title>Keep The Flames of Love Burning Hot in Your Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Jan 2011 16:00:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Patty Ann</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We love our partner and we are committed to our relationship with them. Deep down in our heart and soul we know we truly want to be in love with them forever. In spite of this yearning to be close to the one we love, there are some common mistakes we make – sometimes on [...]]]></description>
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<p>We love our partner and we are committed to our relationship with them. Deep down in our heart and soul we know we truly want to be in love with them forever. In spite of this yearning to be close to the one we love, there are some common mistakes we make – sometimes on a daily basis – that prevents our dream relationship from coming true. Below are three common intimacy mistakes you must stop now to keep the flames alive in your relationship.</p>
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<p>1. Criticizing and Belittling. People do not realize how often they criticize their partner (and people in general) throughout the course of a day. We might criticize the clothes they wear, the type of movies they like to watch or the music they listen to. Or we may criticize their opinions on anything and everything. Whatever it is you are criticizing your partner about – you must stop this now if you want to keep the flames of love alive in your relationship.</p>
<p>Think about this for a moment. Would you want to spend an extended amount of time with someone who is constantly criticizing you? Of course not! When we constantly criticize our partner, we are, in fact, belittling them. Whether that is your intention or not, belittling your partner is the consequence of criticizing them. So if you are hoping to spend many passionate days and nights with your partner, stop the criticizing and begin accepting them for who they are!</p>
<p>2. Resentment. Resentment acts like carbon monoxide in your relationship – it is an invisible silent killer that destroys all those who come in contact with it. If you and your partner hurt each other, which is inevitable in any relationship, the ability to forgive one another is paramount if you want to go the distance. The inability to forgive our partner creates resentment in our relationship. Forgiveness is the antidote to resentment and will go a long way to secure romance and intimacy in your relationship.</p>
<p>Unchecked resentment builds up and acts like an emotional wedge that comes between our self and our partner. Be willing to give to your partner what you will ask for someday – forgiveness. Sooner or later you will seek it from your partner too! And remember, you cannot ask from your partner that which you are not willing to give to them!</p>
<p>3. Unappreciated. It would be impossible for me to count the number of times I have heard people complain they feel unappreciated by their partner. As we become more comfortable with our partner, we sometimes forget to acknowledge the things they do for us.  Couples who are able to increase their sense of intimacy and commitment to each other know that it is important to show your appreciation to your partner for the love they give to you and the things they do for you.</p>
<p>Appreciation can be shown in small every day acts of kindness. For example, bringing your partner a cup of coffee in the morning, or their favorite newspaper to read in bed are two very simple, but effective ways to show your partner how much you appreciate them. Remember, actions speak louder than words – so don’t forget to show your appreciation in your deeds as well as your words!</p>
<p>This article has provided you with three common mistakes you might be making that are preventing you from achieving the love and intimacy you crave in your relationship. Think about the ways you may, unwittingly, be criticizing your partner and stop it immediately! Building up resentment because you refuse to forgive your partner for past slights takes up more energy than it deserves – and zaps the romance out of your relationship. Neither you nor your partner is perfect so give it up already and let it go. Life is too short to hold onto past hurts. Finally, remember to show appreciation to your partner for the love and joy they bring to your life.</p>
<p>It you avoid these three common mistakes you are guaranteed to keep the flames of love burning brightly for years to come!</p>
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		<title>When Quirks Become Annoying</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Nov 2010 16:00:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[By Keith Makenas Compromise is a huge part of a successful relationship, but there’s another thing that is even bigger and that’s tolerance. In the beginning of relationships there’s usually “cute quirks” but those “cute quirks” quickly turn into, “what is wrong with you” quirks. Once it gets to that point, you may think, what the [...]]]></description>
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<p>By <em>Keith Makenas</em></p>
<p>Compromise is a huge part of a successful relationship, but there’s another thing that is even bigger and that’s tolerance.  In the beginning of relationships there’s usually “cute quirks” but those “cute quirks” quickly turn into, “what is wrong with you” quirks.  Once it gets to that point, you may think, what the heck am I doing with this crazy person?  You need to accept it and don’t expect your partner to stop those quirks.  They won’t stop chewing loud, clearing their throat with a nasty forced hack, picking their nose and putting the snots on the bottom of the couch.</p>
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<p>Little things are tolerable, but when you experience them over and over, it seriously can annoy you.  For example:  Your partner is one of those people that plop down on the couch.  After the millionth time they plop down and throw you in the air like a circus acrobat, you lose it and go off on a massive tangent about how they can’t sit like a normal human being.  Of course they’ll get defensive and then the quirk battle is on.</p>
<p>* Why can’t you close a door, cabinet, or drawer without slamming it?<br /> * Can you not put the dishes in the dishwasher upright so they just fill with soapy water?<br /> * Seriously, why are there only two chips left in the bag? Oh right, so you can say you didn’t finish the bag.<br /> * Stop moving your feet, I’m trying to sleep and you keep kicking me.<br /> * Settle down on the hand talking, you hit everyone walking by you.<br /> * Gee honey, I love when you talk with a mouthful, I clearly understand you (Note: a mouthful is acceptable when in the bedroom).<br /> * When you stretch in the middle of the night, do you have to grunt like a caveman?<br /> * Yes honey, I love when you talk on your cell phone screaming in my ear while I try to watch the news.</p>
<p>One way I’ve learned to tolerate quirks, is to joke about them.  Here’s a long winded recent example.  My wife and I went to a bar and often she’ll leave a drink in a location that her or someone else is guaranteed to knock over.  She put a glass of water next to her on a bench and I said, “It’s going to be knocked over.” Of course I got the typical, “No it won’t!”  As if she said, today I am turning over a new leaf and not going to knock over this drink even though I have been doing that throughout our ten years of marriage.  Anyway, I went up to the bar to get us a drink and moments later saw the girl sitting next to my wife jump up and start wiping her side and my wife looking around in a panic to find napkins.  The bartender offered me a towel to bring her, I just smiled and said, “not this time” and enjoyed my drink before bringing her two tiny cocktail napkins to clean up a full drink spill. While driving home I could have snapped at her or threw out the “I told you so”, but instead I joked about it and told her that spilling drinks on people is one of the many reasons I love her.  We both laughed and there was neither yelling nor acts of violence and we were desperately in love, for about one minute, until another car cut me off and somehow that was my fault.</p>
<p>We all struggle with our partner’s quirks.  You just have to convince yourself that everyone has quirks and you should accept your partner’s.  Unless that quirk is sleepwalking while swinging a machete at you, in that case, pack your bags and get out of that relationship, unless you’re into a kinky machete fetish.</p>
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		<title>The Key to Life and Relationships</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Sep 2010 16:00:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Robbie Lee</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ah, life can surely be sweet.  There are moments of highs and lows and typically these moments, we as humans, label “good” or “bad” thus releasing emotions based on our given label to it. What does this have to do with relationship advice?  Everything.  Our whole life is really based on the relationships we have [...]]]></description>
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<p>Ah, life can surely be sweet.  There are moments of highs and lows and typically these moments, we as humans, label “good” or “bad” thus releasing emotions based on our given label to it.</p>
<p>What does this have to do with relationship advice?  Everything.  Our whole life is really based on the relationships we have with other humans.  The first relations we have are typically with our parents or if not, someone who fills the role of a parent.  These early, formable days expose us to experiences that shape who we are as adults.  It is these experiences that cause us to have mommy or daddy issues, anger issues, inadequate social skills, and on the positive side, encouragement to pursue education, the ability to love, and experience overall happiness.  Usually it is a mixed bag of positive and negative experiences.  Many seek out therapy to bridge the gap of our “dysfunctional” behaviors that affects our ability to have relationships with our parents, children, and future and past partners.</p>
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<p>In college, most students have the opportunity to take a basic psychology course.  This in no way prepares humans for anything other than obtaining credit in a general education requirement for graduation.  Humans are not given the right tools to have healthy relationships.  It’s like learning how to swim by being thrown into the water with no instructions or life jacket.  Good luck.  The key comes down to you.  You are responsible for your own happiness.  If you can be happy with yourself and own the choices you make, this is the road to healthy, overall happy relationships.  However, it is likely you will have to self learn and self teach to truly succeed.  There are tons of books on such subjects and many shy away from “self helpy” type books.  It is much less costly than seeking face-to-face therapy and based on my own experiences, a great place to start.  For those of you who have read some of my other articles, you know that my favorite book to get to the key issues of who you are and why you chose who you chose, is Beverly De Angelis”s book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Are-You-One-Me-Avoiding/dp/0440506700/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1284235832&amp;sr=8-1">“Are You The One For Me”.</a> It gets to the point and gives you tools to identify and change the behaviors you need to address to have healthier relationships.</p>
<p>Finding out who you are and what you truly want is essential.  Being able to figure that out and be who you are in the world is exhilarating and freeing.  Ultimately, you need to learn how to communicate what you want to those you are involved with.  You need to learn to trust yourself and love yourself.  If you can do that, then you can learn to trust and love others.  The first step is being self aware and ask yourself “who am I and what do I want”?  This will help you be an active participant versus passively reacting to life’s daily occurrences.</p>
<p>If you are more enlightened or advanced and what to approach your issues at the &#8220;soul&#8221; level, or from a more spiritual place, read Eckhart Tolle&#8217;s,<a href="http://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1284237965&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank"> &#8220;A New Earth-Awakening to Your Life&#8221;s Purpose&#8221;.</a></p>
<p>Cogliere la vita (Seize Life).</p>
<p>Cheers,</p>
<p>Robbie Lee, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Pocket-Guide-Picking-Hottie-Written/dp/0615203914/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1284236754&amp;sr=1-1">The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide to Picking Up a Hottie-written by a woman who loves women.</a></p>
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		<title>5 Sex Drive Killers</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Sep 2010 16:00:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Patty Ann</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Let me get right to the point. “What’s stress got to do with sex”? Everything!! What? “Everything”! Absolutely!!! Stress is pretty high up there as on one of the top reasons for why couples are not having sex! So I thought it would be important to identify some stressors in our lives that might be [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-6041" title="Sex Drive Killers" src="http://advice.lovedetour.com/wp-content/uploads/Sex-Drive-Killers.jpg" alt="advice.lovedetour.com 5 Sex Drive Killers Sex Drive Killers image" width="321" height="374" />Let me get right to the point. “What’s stress got to do with sex”? Everything!! What? “Everything”! Absolutely!!! Stress is pretty high up there as on one of the top reasons for why couples are not having sex! So I thought it would be important to identify some stressors in our lives that might be getting in the way of, or actually completely killing, our sex drive.</p>
<p>Some people are capable of doing many things well while under stress; but being in the mood for sex and/or feeling sexy usually isn’t one of them.</p>
<p>So enough jabbering here and let’s get on with identifying 5 common stressors that decrease or eliminate one’s sex drive. (And remember, some of these sex drive killers have nothing to do with how you feel about your partner – what a sense of relief!).</p>
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<p><strong>Stressor #1: Prescription Medication &#8211; Many prescription drugs have the side effect of decreasing one’s sex drive, </strong>especially the commonly prescribed anti-depressant medication Prozac. Other classifications of drugs that have loss of libido as a side-effect include: chemotherapy, antihistamines, blood pressure medication (Lipitor) some oral contraceptives and ant-HIV medications.</p>
<p><strong>Solution: Talk to your prescribing physician and ask them if they can change the medication you are on for one that offers the same benefits – minus the loss of libido side effect.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Stressor #2:</strong> <strong>Parenting – the kids are exhausting you!</strong> If you have a new baby in the home, that sweet little bundle of joy requires what feels like 24/7 attention. Or maybe you have toddlers running around who possessed an inordinate amount of energy – or school-aged children that need to be chauffeured around – everyone – causing you to run out of steam by the end of the day!</p>
<p><strong>Solution: Get a babysitter or family member and get out of the house for a day, an overnight and/or long weekend. Do it – even though you might be feeling too exhausted to arrange this – consider it to be like exercise. You don’t usually feel like doing it, but once you do, you are so glad you did.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Stressor #3: Poor Body Image</strong> – <strong>Most of us don’t look like we did when we were 21 years old anymore</strong><strong> </strong>– but we lament this fact and let it get in the way of how we feel about not only our bodies but our selves as well. In other words, poor body image promotes poor self-esteem. Poor self-esteem makes us feel unlovable – and feeling unlovable lowers our sex drive.</p>
<p><strong>Solution: Your partner fell in love with you – your heart and soul.</strong> A few pounds gained throughout the years do not diminish the value of who you are in the heart of your lover. (Chances are they don’t look 21 anymore either). If you have gained a few pounds over the years, (and who hasn’t?) you might consider adding exercise to your daily routine – even if it takes the form of simply walking the stairs in your office instead of riding the elevator. <strong>Do whatever you need to do so you can begin to feel better about your body image.</strong> And whatever you do &#8211; please remember – the images of the models on the cover of all those magazines are air-brushed and touched up until the cows come home. Please don’t think “real” women look like that. I sure don’t know any that do!!</p>
<p><strong>Stressor #4: Alcohol &#8211; Yes, alcohol has a reputation for reducing one’s inhibitions when it comes to sex</strong>, but alcohol is also a common cause for numbing your sex drive. (FYI &#8211; your partner might not be in the mood for getting it on with someone who is intoxicated).</p>
<p><strong>Solution: Keep the alcohol to what is considered to be a reasonable amount for you.</strong><strong> </strong>A slobbering drunk isn’t sexy any where –including the bedroom. Hey, I’m not saying you can’t have a drink or two – just don’t imbibe to the extreme.</p>
<p><strong>Stressor # 5: Lack of sleep</strong> <strong>- whether this results from worry, insomnia, or sleep apnea, sleep deprivation creates body fatigue.</strong> And fatigue zaps the energy you need for sex – interfering with your sex drive.</p>
<p><strong>Solution: Make it your priority to get enough sleep.</strong> If you have a medical condition that you think might be interfering with your sleep, see a physician. If you are sleep deprived because you love to watch late night TV- tivo your shows and watch them another time.</p>
<p>So as you can see,<strong> </strong><strong>a low sex drive might be the result of stressors outside your romantic relationship.</strong> Please make any changes that are necessary in your life style to insure you are doing everything within your means to increase your sex drive so you can …</p>
<p>Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,</p>
<p>Dr. Patty Ann<br />
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