500 Words: “If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

The first thing I would share would be to stop at nothing to know the truth. Particularly know the truth about who you are, your relationship to the Divine, real love, life purpose, what you respect, how you treat yourself, and what you stand for.

Next I would offer some pearls of real love and wisdom I have collected from beloved friends and wise persons that have saved my soul and at times my sanity: “There is no competition for my true life’s purpose, so there is no reason to hurry or worry about anything,” “Be who you are, everyone else is taken,” “People treat you the way you treat yourself,” “You are stronger than you think,” “If you can see it, it’s possible,” and “You’re always doing one of two things: creating connection or separation!”

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When I was a kid I figured Nature was basically a guy thing, the same way I supposed wearing wigs, for example, was primarily a girl thing. That’s probably because when I was growing up it was men who did things like: hunt, spear, shoot, capture and in some cases kill while the females stayed let’s say, nearer to the hearth (or shopping mall). And even though the men in my house didn’t necessarily do any of those things, no more than we sat around churning butter, milking cows, plucking chickens, or stirring cauldrons, that doesn’t change my point; that Nature seemed most sanctioned for those less prone to wear wigs.

Let me explain. It’s true I wasn’t socialized in the country (think indoor ferns, Fresca and 70s atriums and you’ll get the picture). Like most parents in the greater suburbia where I was raised, mine dispensed controlled doses of wildlife: touring Yosemite in a fully equipped motor home, strolling through the aquarium at Golden Gate Park or the occasional trip to the Zoo. I have a picture of me in my stroller attempting to fend off this crazy goat who was trying to eat my favorite blanket, and instead of being encouraged to express my disdain I was coddled and hushed. Unlike my brothers who were alternately encouraged to wrestle and fend, I didn’t even get so much as a pat on the back for my obvious courage. Not once was I ever told to go forth and sow my wild oats, sail the seven seas or explore strange new worlds, seek out new life and new civilization…to boldly go where no man has gone before, etc.

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1) Money makes you more of who you are: meaning, whatever your money issues or beliefs are, you bring them with you into your relationships. It’s almost always the case that whatever values and beliefs you have about money, you will die with—unless you’re willing to do the work and get to the root of them and make some changes! You can start by not pointing the finger at your partner, and taking a look at what your bottom line is about finances. Do you believe that there is enough money for everyone on the planet? Do you believe it’s your partner’s job to manage or make all the money? Do you believe life is hard and then you die? That it’s easier being a man…or a woman? That rich politicians make it impossible to get ahead? That rich people are evil, that you’re just not good with money, etc. You really deserve to take a good look, otherwise you and your partner are doomed to repeat your unconscious material in the relationship! Don’t bother lying to yourself; the proof is in the pudding. I mean that until you get real, you and your relationships will always reflect your true inner values and beliefs. Sex and money cause the most overall stress in relationships. This week’s topic is going to cover some basics about money and relationship and what you can do to manage your stress about it. Once you identify those, you can do something about them!

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Nowadays, there are millions of online dating sites all over the world. It makes it so hard to choose the right online dating site. We’ve made it easy and narrowed down a few online dating sites that are our top picks. Here is our list of best online dating sites in the market today.

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I have wanted to write this blog for weeks, its answers pressing on me as I sit sneezing, coughing, with an achy, stuffy head, Kleenex feverishly strewn about in a trail from my bed to my computer. So I sit Indian-style in my favorite jammies, gurgling, nursing my tea, missing dancing with my beloved friends this Sunday morning, torn between caring for myself and showing up for the rest of life.

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Online relationships have got a pretty mixed reputation, with good reason. Some online relationships are absolute disasters, others are triumphs of communication and love. It’s important to take a realistic view of any online relationship before you start shopping for travel insurance.

Online pleasures

The great side of online relationships can be the utterly unexpected people you meet. Friends can be made all over the world. There’s no lack of these good quality relationships, whatever else may be said about the perils of online romance. These are the healthy online relationships, and, not at all coincidentally, they’re also the ones most likely to lead to productive results.

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We love our partner and we are committed to our relationship with them. Deep down in our heart and soul we know we truly want to be in love with them forever. In spite of this yearning to be close to the one we love, there are some common mistakes we make – sometimes on a daily basis – that prevents our dream relationship from coming true. Below are three common intimacy mistakes you must stop now to keep the flames alive in your relationship.

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By Keith Makenas

Compromise is a huge part of a successful relationship, but there’s another thing that is even bigger and that’s tolerance. In the beginning of relationships there’s usually “cute quirks” but those “cute quirks” quickly turn into, “what is wrong with you” quirks. Once it gets to that point, you may think, what the heck am I doing with this crazy person? You need to accept it and don’t expect your partner to stop those quirks. They won’t stop chewing loud, clearing their throat with a nasty forced hack, picking their nose and putting the snots on the bottom of the couch.

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Ah, life can surely be sweet.  There are moments of highs and lows and typically these moments, we as humans, label “good” or “bad” thus releasing emotions based on our given label to it.

What does this have to do with relationship advice?  Everything.  Our whole life is really based on the relationships we have with other humans.  The first relations we have are typically with our parents or if not, someone who fills the role of a parent.  These early, formable days expose us to experiences that shape who we are as adults.  It is these experiences that cause us to have mommy or daddy issues, anger issues, inadequate social skills, and on the positive side, encouragement to pursue education, the ability to love, and experience overall happiness.  Usually it is a mixed bag of positive and negative experiences.  Many seek out therapy to bridge the gap of our “dysfunctional” behaviors that affects our ability to have relationships with our parents, children, and future and past partners.

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Let me get right to the point. “What’s stress got to do with sex”? Everything!! What? “Everything”! Absolutely!!! Stress is pretty high up there as on one of the top reasons for why couples are not having sex! So I thought it would be important to identify some stressors in our lives that might be getting in the way of, or actually completely killing, our sex drive.

Some people are capable of doing many things well while under stress; but being in the mood for sex and/or feeling sexy usually isn’t one of them.

So enough jabbering here and let’s get on with identifying 5 common stressors that decrease or eliminate one’s sex drive. (And remember, some of these sex drive killers have nothing to do with how you feel about your partner – what a sense of relief!).

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