Here’s the deal. Most of us approach relationship like drunken sailors, intoxicated with the ideas and fantasies we have about relationship as opposed to the sobering reality of them, and desperate (or lonely, as the case may be) like your ship has just come in—or is about to leave port. Not a great strategy if you want a great relationship.

So, get a piece of paper and write these things down:
1)First, what do you want? (spell it out)
2)What are you willing to do about it?

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Here’s the deal; the facts are in. At least 50% of marriages don’t make it—which, if you’re a gambler, is slightly better than a crap shoot – this is what I told RadarOnline.com, when asked for a comment about Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom’s marriage.

And it would seem obvious to many people that marrying someone you have only known a few weeks would increase your odds of failure…among other things. So perhaps a better question to ask is not what are the downsides, but rather…why? Why get married? So you can have a party? Show up your sister on TV because you are profoundly insecure or desperate for ratings? What’s the rush? It’s not like love has a shelf life. Unless one is deeply religious, which is not evident in this case (correct me if I am wrong; I don’t think so), there are so few reasons to rush into nuptials before we have taken time to do a minimum of due diligence.

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So, whatever the reason, you’re on the prowl for a significant other. Maybe you feel you’re ready for a commitment. Maybe you’re looking for companionship. So you feel like your “Mate-dar” (your ability to suss out a great mate) is in full force, turned up top notch. But the truth is – even if you have the purest of intentions for seeking out a relationship – nobody’s Mate-dar is perfect.

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Relationship Rescue

by Phillip C. McGraw, PhD.

Introduction:

A book that clearly demonstrates the lack of understanding of the successful relationship is Relationship Rescue by Phillip C. McGraw, Ph.D. What is so sad about this book is that he is so close to the answer yet still unable to understand. Today he is the highest profile psychologist in the industry but that doesn’t mean he comes close to really helping troubled relationships.

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“If you try looking back to see if your opponents are nearing you, you have already lost the race.”
Love LuCy

Not only do we wonder if we can get all million things done in as little time as possible; we seem to wonder if we are up to speed in our lives, as compared to others.
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“If you are wondering? It’s Possible!”
Love LuCy

POP!
(Problem or Possibility)

Several times in our lives, we will go through something pretty problematic, it may be hard to believe that in it, there is a blessing, somewhere underneath it all.
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I went to a memorial this week. A friend passed away suddenly; a shock to us all, but to none more than to his bride of twenty-some years. My heart went out to this brave woman and her three children who watched her life change dramatically without any warning. She told me that it was all so surreal—that one day he was laughing and telling her a story that made her laugh so hard she was crying, and the next day she was watching him curl up in a fetal position, and then he was gone. Just like that.

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“Sometimes it just takes that one extra step to make a world of difference.”
LoVe LuCy
Our lives, made up of so many moments, can have us flustered, as much as feelings faithful that all is well.

We know, from personal experience, that when we have days where we worry of the “what ifs”, the next will come where we feel we just seems to effortlessly “know it all!”

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Why do women love bad boys? We constantly complain about men who never return phone calls, flake on dates, and treat us like red headed step children, but we continue running back into their arms or become giddy when they actually do decide to call. Is it because we love the chase? When in actuality these men aren’t spending much time chasing you if they barely give you any attention. Why do we live in a world where drama is easier to find in a relationship than plain ol’ happiness? More importantly, why do we love bad boys so much?

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All couples fight. This is only normal. The ability to maintain a happy, healthy relationship however will be lost if you fight to be “right”. What do I mean by this? We have all heard the expression: “You can win the battle but lose the war”. Well this is what happens when we fight with our eye focused on winning the battle at all costs. We are relentless in the heated exchanges with our partner until we get them to admit we were “right” about whatever issue we are arguing about – and they are “wrong”. And now you think you have won, right? Not so fast.

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