Sometimes I feel that there are so many messages flying around my head, with ideas and concepts that can create such magic in my life.

How do I know what to do?

Which ones are the best ones for me? And if I know, when is the best time to pursue them?

When will I even find this time?
We- all of us, are here to open up and expand our genius, allowing us that great feeling of fulfillment that can keep us up at night, with such an appetite for creative abundance!
But when we wake up in the morning, we are so overwhelmed with our daily to do’s, we barely have enough time to make breakfast; let alone make all our dreams come true.
Even the best of multi taskers cannot do everything at once.

And as we are aware, focusing on one thing at a time will get us much further than trying to take on too many things.
Besides tackling our to do’s, we must also take time to take in what is important to us, and what our Heart & Soul was called on Earth to do, too.

We may touch on a lot of different things that could prove to be passionate path for us.

And we may, after contemplating, decide it is not quite for us.

But trying is the best way to find out!

Being open to trying new things, while we are taking on our otherwise prosaic pledges we promised, can not only give us motivation to get up in the morning- but expands our capabilities; gives us the confidence to carry us further in life, and makes for extraordinary self esteem!

Before you dose off to la-la land this evening, take a moment to think of even one thing you always wanted to pursue but never saw through…

Believe me; one moment spent trying something new can give you a lifetime of wonderful.
LoVe,

LuCy sMiLeS

When we make decisions, at any given moment; we can take the uncertainties out of our minds, simply by tapping into our thoughts, and asking “what will best serve my purpose, my passion and my peace of mind?”

Sure, we have to think of the details dependent on what the circumstances, but when it comes down to it, the details can actually take care of themselves, once we have our highest good in mind, with our intentions for authentic greatness.

Our lives are made up of choices.
Day in and day out, we have to make choices, which will then make an imprint on our path.

When we make choices, in the present moment, based on present circumstances; we may get nervous when we see ourselves revisit the same choice, at a later date, thinking we already took care of this situation.

But just as our lives change, moment to moment, our needs and our personal desires, in fact, change as well.

What once was a perfectly sound choice, may no longer best suit our Soul’s vision, and we may make a decision to take a new turn.

The best we can do is to create our life, with living as the best version of ourselves; being the best we can for those around us, at the same time.

Being kind to ourselves, and allowing ourselves to make choices, we feel are best, in the best of times and the worst of times, will take courage and strength.
By believing in ourselves and working toward a sense of wholeness, inside; we will find our exterior circumstances transform accordingly.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Like everything else, relationships go through cycles and phases…sometimes relationships face really long, long, harsh, lonely droughts, or painfully drawn-out intense periods, or perhaps you’re currently enjoying the “pink cloud” effect of a new love! Wherever you find yourself, I am here to help you get ready for Spring, the time to come out of the darkness into the light, renew, fluff up, or just take yourself in a fresh direction! Here’s your checklist so you can get started right away.

Relationships of the romantic kind typically fall into three categories: ME, THEM and WE.

Part 1: ME. (This means YOU.)

Like I always say, great relationships begin within, which means there is no WE without me (YOU). Best to take a look at where we are at with ourselves first!

1. Do you have a daily spiritual practice? Self-inquiry? Meditation? Therapy? Yoga, a moving meditation of some kind? My favorite is my SHOMI® method, a body-centered practice of self-inquiry (click HERE https://www.maryannelive.com/products/cds/shop.product_details/3/flypage.tpl/2.html to get your copy of Thrive).
2. How’s your self-esteem and self-worth? Scale of 1-10. Clue: check in with the last few people you’ve dated and ask yourself what they would say about you, good and bad, and compare it to how you feel about yourself.
3. How’s your psychological and mental health? Are you happy and sound? Depressed, anxious? Need therapy or to go back on medication?
4. How’s your relationship with your sexuality? Do you feel good about yourself sexually speaking? How about the opposite sex or preference? Do you like sex? Want more or less? Need to heal some past stories or painful traumas or unresolved issues?
5. How’s your health and wellness? Do you have a fitness and diet regimen? Listen to your body? Do you drink heavily, use drugs? Smoke, on meds? Are you at your ideal healthy weight? When was the last time you had your annuals?
6. Are you self-sustaining? How are your finances and credit? Do you have a steady income? Do you have a career? A five-year plan? Do you need some additional training, or have you finished school? Do you own a home, have a stable place to live?
7. What’s your purpose? What do you stand for? What are your special gifts and talents? What are you passionate about? How much time do you devote to service?

I know the list seems like a lot but, if you think about it, it’s nowhere near the list you have to screen potential partners! Which brings me to my next point: so many of us have a tall list of things we want but fail to really look at what we are actually bringing to the party! Here’s a secret: If you attend to the first list, the list you’re about to make will be exponentially easier to manifest!!

Part 2: THEM. (The person you want to be with, have been with, or are with now; simply change the tense to suit your purposes if you are in a relationship now.)

1. What do you want? What kind of person do you want to be with? Do you believe you are worthy of this person (If not, GO BACK to Part 1.)
2. Have you made your list? What are your non-negotiables? Preferences? Likes, dislikes? What are their values, interests, temperament, spiritual inclination, personality traits, etc.
3. Have you cleaned up and cleared away your past relationship baggage? Healed old wounds? Made amends? Paid back debts? Or collected things that are due you? Including your POWER!
4. Do you need to forgive someone or yourself? People who you felt hurt or betrayed you?

Part 3: WE: What are you willing to do about creating this relationship? (This is the part where you decide together how the relationship is going to be.)

1. Do you have a relationship plan? A relationship toolbelt? Tools and skills that will help you make this a sustainable and healthy one?
2. Have you done your due diligence? Taken care to make sure this person is who they say they are, does what they say they will?
3. How willing are you to take responsibility for your own happiness?
4. How responsibly do you communicate? Are you a blamer or a victim? Are you a control freak? How will you negotiate difficult or emotional situations or issues?
5. Do you know how to make consciousness agreements? Agreements that set the relationship up to succeed. Will you agree to therapy if things get tough? Will you marry, live together? Share finances? Who will work? What about children?
6. Do you respect and trust each other? If not, why?
7. Are you committed to each other’s growth first and foremost and under all circumstances, even the dark nights of the soul, illness, menopause, miscarriage, loss of job, libido, hair, beauty?
8. Under what circumstances will you leave? SAY IT, better now than later!

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In speaking to many of my close friends, and being there for many of my own experiences, it seems as though 2010 had been quite a chaotic series of events; however, all equally important in the marriage of all the great to be in this new magical year.

Of course, with ups must come downs.  Though we know that we learn best through strong messages being given to us, sometimes, they are not in the most magical of forms.

What is truly amazing, throughout anything that we go through, is that sometimes, going through or living in experiences that truly don’t resonate with our soul; allows us to take a much more motivated stand in jumping up and shouting out in commitment to take life’s passions more seriously, and making a change, for the better, going forward.

What are your goals in 2011? Maybe more specifically, instead of hustling and bustling over what new things you want to experience in your life, you can look at any current living situations that may need tweaking to better improve your state of happiness.

Rather than seeking outward for a happy place, we can take a moment to understand that happiness is a state of excitement.

Excitement comes from listening to what our hearts are telling us, and then taking action accordingly.

The best way to find our true happiness is to stick to something that makes us excited. It is our birthright to be excited about life, and to share with others, all that makes our heart sing.

Make this year a year of taking your life into your own hands, and shifting your happiness into high gear, whatever that looks like to you!

I read a beautiful quote from the very famous and inspirational writer, Paulo Coelho:

“2011: don’t feel guilty. We deserve all good things that will happen to us.”May you let the good things happen to you, and share them with the world!

Love,

LuCy sMiLeS

Here’s the deal; the facts are in. At least 50% of marriages don’t make it—which, if you’re a gambler, is slightly better than a crap shoot – this is what I told RadarOnline.com, when asked for a comment about Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom’s marriage.

And it would seem obvious to many people that marrying someone you have only known a few weeks would increase your odds of failure…among other things. So perhaps a better question to ask is not what are the downsides, but rather…why? Why get married? So you can have a party? Show up your sister on TV because you are profoundly insecure or desperate for ratings? What’s the rush? It’s not like love has a shelf life. Unless one is deeply religious, which is not evident in this case (correct me if I am wrong; I don’t think so), there are so few reasons to rush into nuptials before we have taken time to do a minimum of due diligence.

What I do know about these two people is they know something about success. It takes discipline, skill and focus (and perhaps a little luck) to turn your desire into reality. Hence my concern, again, about their haste. I am not convinced that these two people understand the game they are in. I feel whatever their motivations for wedlock—“looks good, feels good,” ratings, or whatever—they would benefit by focusing on the fact that the same commitment, discipline and skill that supported their success is needed to enjoy a successful relationship; particularly a healthy, fulfilling, sustainable one.

With all due respect, if these two people love each other, or feel a strong connection and want to jump into marriage (which I likened to jumping out of a plane, considering, well…that they have just barely met), they should strap on a parachute. Which is to say, they should strongly consider checking under the hood to make sure they have what it takes to make the journey before Sunday. Many things are very difficult, if not nearly impossible, to re-negotiate after they say “I do.”

While celebrity marriages may seem qualitatively different than the average boy-meets-girl scenario, all relationships thrive best when they rest on a solid foundation. In some ways, the celebrity relationship needs to pay even greater mind to this, as their relationship is subject to stresses, pressure and scrutiny that on a good day most of us cannot even fathom.

So I would say to this couple, go for it! IF they have managed in this three-week period to establish the following, at minimum:

Their top three non-negotiables.

If this person is worthy of their unconditional devotion and respect.

A strong “out” clause or good consciousness agreement.

If they themselves are a strong, loyal, devoted, trustworthy partner.

They have revealed all their deep secrets or habits that have the potential to destroy the relationship if not revealed and healed.

They have cleaned up all their past relationships.

Have the capacity to tell the truth despite the consequences, and see the value of truth as a cornerstone of their relationship.

Love each other’s friends and current daily lifestyle.

Have agreed upon children and child-rearing responsibilities.

Understand and are in alignment about money.

They are confident in each other’s ability to negotiate their feelings and concerns responsibly.

Know what each other values most in life.

Have shared and are in alignment and support of their 10-year plan.

Have agreed to see someone (either within the family or outside) to act as an unbiased counselor, to help support the relationship should they get stuck or feel they cannot resolve any matter that has the potential to end the relationship.

This, I believe, would afford them a good start. While relationships are a great breeding ground for personal development, chemistry as a litmus test for the potential of a relationship is too often a crash-and-burn method & can be quite painful. Rather than each failed relationship being a lesson learned, the pain becomes either fuel for the next one or a barrier to intimacy.

In our 20s we are at a peak in some ways, in terms of learning about who we are and who we are not, and oftentimes get into relationships based largely on chemistry—without having acquired some essential relationship tools and turned them into skills. Life will teach them soon enough. The good news is, if they really want a healthy relationship they are in a position to develop these skills, provided they have interviewed each other and revealed their shadows and non-negotiables to each other. Some of these deal-breakers, like infidelity or drug or alcohol addiction, are things that you want to know before you get married, not after!

Hard to establish trust when you have had so little time to see if the person’s words and actions match up. If you are in a rush, and clearly Khloe and Lamar seem to be, I’d advise them to take some time before Sunday to drop in with each other, because having a success plan is important! Bottom line, at least half of marriages end in divorce. If you want it to work, make sure you are prepared and have what it takes to make that happen.

To re-cap:

Hard to negotiate your needs after the marriage ceremony; double check your non-negotiables, you two!
What do you want and expect from each other & the marriage: do you both want kids, how will you share your money, or not? I call this a consciousness agreement.
What kind of relationship skills do you bring to the table? Do you have issues with commitment and intimacy, do you have a track record of being able to stay and hang in there when things get tough? “Looks good, feels good” isn’t going to cut it when things get sideways…these things are very difficult to negotiate after you already have established a pattern. Talk about it. What are you committing to?
Happily Ever After is not a place, and chemistry is not enough to keep a relationship together. They say that, in unconsciousness, the thing that brings you together in a relationship will be the thing that pulls you apart. What is your foundation for your relationship? I recommend spirit, God or the divine, and having a real practice.
Love is a choice and a privilege, not a sentence, so act like it!

I recently explained my take on the Khloe/Lamar situation at a booksigning. You can watch it here

The problem—or, should I say, one of the many challenges— with being human is knowing the difference between who we are and who we are not. Making the all-important distinction between our unconscious persona and our authentic, healthy, whole selves. Until we have addressed this process it is likely that our wounded little kid has a hold of an adult tool, waving it around like a toy, and then BANG! somebody gets hurt. Our Mate-dar, when operated by our 5-year-old wound, can get us into a lot of trouble—as would any part of ourselves we have not made peace with, healed or become aware of on some level.

In the case of seeking a great partner, when we are seeing through the eyes of a wound we are less likely to see clearly! This can show up in different ways (boy, can they be tricky, slippery and subtle all at once), most of them falling under the guise of denial or rationalization.

Here’s a great story to illustrate how elusive accessing our very own truth can be.

My husband, David, got on the scale this morning. I could hear the clang and distinct argh. “How can that be? I gained four pounds? I have only been eating lettuce all week, for crying out loud.” I tried to comfort him by saying that muscle weighs more than fat, and then burst out laughing, realizing that’s what I told myself last time I got on the scale. After we lavished one and another with a few more excuses, we decided that the scale was broken and we needed to get a new one. One that told us what we wanted to hear! That we were not fat!

I have learned it’s one thing to sit around and bitch and moan wishing things were different, and another to do something about it. So I went for a run, then later we went to get the scale. Apparently doing a little of both.

“It’s never a good idea to weigh yourself late in the day, sweetie” I reminded him as he stepped off the fancy glass scale in Bed Bath and Beyond, that seconds before had held such promise. “Yeah, but this one says I weigh even more than the one at home—did I gain four more pounds since we left?” I wasn’t laughing, as I was about to climb on. Mind you, I don’t make it a habit to get on scales—I know all too well they are not my friends, because I almost never feel better about myself as a result! How bad could it be? I thought. I run and eat well and anyway I would know if I… “What the…? A hundred and…? Wow, I don’t know what to say, except …that scale can’t be right!” I leapt off like it was a bed of hot coals.
“Oh, look, here’s one that tells you how much muscle versus fat you have, and it will show us how much water we are retaining! Let’s try it. You go first!” I said. David placed the Ferrari version of a scale on the floor, took his flip-flops off again and stepped on. “Uh oh…uhhhh… Wait, try that one, that’s just a regular old scale,” and quickly pointed to another. He put the Ferrari one back, put the next one on the floor and hopped on. We both waited as it calculated. “Well, this one says the same thing as the one at home does,” he shrugged. ‘Which means—uh…we’re fat, right?” We both laughed, let it sink in for a minute, and then decided that since we were ready to admit the truth, that we weighed more than we wanted to, we might as well buy the really cool one that told us in great detail all about it.

What the heck does this have to do with relationships? That’s a very good question, and if you answered “Everything!” you are definitely smarter than the average bear!

Pay attention, ‘cause this is some heavy. It doesn’t get any more real than this kind of reality. A huge contributor, if not a top ten reason so many of us don’t have a GREAT relationship, is—we don’t tell ourselves (or others) the truth. It’s an exact proportion, as a matter of fact! Think about it. Let’s say I asked you right now to write down your name, how much you weigh, how much you make a year, the color of your eyes, hair, your shoe size, how tall you are, where you live. Nine out of ten of you would lie about at least half. The rest of you would at least exaggerate or minimize.

Don’t believe me, go grab the next person you see and tell them how much you really weigh. How tall you are, to the centimeter. What color your hair really is. How old you actually are. Go down the list; if you are honest with yourself, you will see how often we lie about the most mundane things. Why? Because of what we make it mean:

I weigh X = I am fat = no one will want/love me
I am X years old = I am too old = no one will love me
I am five feet X = too short (or tall) = no one wants that = no one will want me
My real hair color is X = I am unattractive = no one will love me
I make X amount of money = I am poor = no one will want to be with me/love me

So we do what my husband and I tried to do. We slip right into the old river called Denial. We begin with some simple rationalizations, adding or taking away a zero here and there. What harm can it do? we think, Who cares? If I don’t care, why should anyone else? Well, that’s the problem. You do care, or you wouldn’t bother lying—especially to yourself!

You can see how easy it is to miss cues, red flags and warnings or signs from another person that they really aren’t interested. Our agenda for love can be so strong, our wound-ology so ingrained, that it actually distorts reality! Here are some recommendations to help develop or adjust our Mate-dar.

1. One of my favorites is to interview people who have the kind of relationship you want. If you can’t interview, at least pay attention and jot down some features that stand out for you!
2. Date yourself seriously. Yes, seriously…date yourself. Make a date, get ready for it, pick the place you want yourself to take yourself, the whole nine, and do it. How do you like your own company, what do you notice about yourself?
3. Interview yourself. Yeah, why not? Who are you? What do you want out of life? What’s your five-year plan, what is your relationship history? Ask yourself all the questions you would ask of another, and see how you react or what comes up for you.
4. Have a few practice dates with real people to see how well your intuition is working. Yes, a date where you actually try and work on your weakness. Maybe you even ask the person for feedback about you and see how your perceptions compare. Could be very enlightening, if you have the courage!

Look, if you don’t take care to do these things, or things like this, for yourself, why would you expect anyone else to? Awakening to consciousness is not for lightweights—it’s hard work, and you got to want the good stuff! Like I always say, great relationships begin within. Don’t kid yourself!

Not only do we wonder if we can get all million things done in as little time as possible; we seem to wonder if we are up to speed in our lives, as compared to others.
 Do we know as much, or enough?
Do we have as much, or enough?
Have we offered as much, or enough?
 
In life, we seem to be trying to beat the clock, on all these levels, whether in our personal lives, or our career accomplishments.
 
There is not enough time in the day, we are ready for bed, from exhaustion before dinner gets on the table- if we even take time to sit and eat…
 
It is not surprising the amount of stress, strain and serious health issues that are taking place for so many people who are trying to burn the candle at both ends- they are at wits end with everything that must be taken care of, now.
 
But what about taking care of ourselves along the “race” way?
 
What are you doing for you, that allows you balance in your life, when you are rushing around with kids, laundry, bill paying or all around life fretting?
 
I know, it sounds ridiculous!
Right?
 
Imagine slowing down the pace of your race,
 to the pace of grace?
 
Sometimes, to come to a healthy and serene space, this must be the case.
 
Love,
LuCy sMiLeS

POP!
(Problem or Possibility)

Several times in our lives, we will go through something pretty problematic, it may be hard to believe that in it, there is a blessing, somewhere underneath it all.
Life in itself is a series of lessons, and experiences that allow us to look closely at ourselves, and how we are doing.
No matter what the experience, there is always more than one way of looking at it.

Either as a problem, or as a possibility.
Take any situation that you have ever gone through.

It can be traumatic, trying, or testing of your patience and tolerance of life, itself.

But, if you can look at it with a positive outlook, and in some way find that you have learned something special, or grown in an amazing way because of it, you can allow life in, rather than resisting its presence.

So, take note of all the possibilities in every experience as much as you can, and take the opportunities to grow because of what you go through.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Yet at the reception after the memorial, instead of drowning in her tears (which we would imagine is what most of us would do), she wanted to talk about what a great, loving father and husband he was. How funny and generous he was. How many people’s lives he touched, and how blessed she was to have had twenty years with him. And while yes, her eyes were puffy and blurred with mascara, as sad as she was, she was genuinely grateful and proud to have spent this chapter of her life with such a man. You could feel it was true.

On the ride home tears spilled down my cheeks, as the truth of her words about her husband were also true for me, in a smaller yet significant way. This man has indeed touched my life, his generosity and beautiful spirit has definitely made a difference to me and my family. And then I felt this wave of inspiration fill my heart. A reaffirmation of why I do what I do and do it with such passion. To help people find what my girlfriend found with her beloved husband, however long they were blessed to share that together.

People ask me all the time how to have a great relationship, how to date successfully, or meet someone and start a healthy dating pattern. I usually ask them the same two questions: What do you want, and what are you willing to do about it? Then I direct them to my Relationship Aptitude Test, or RAT, which helps you smell a rat—or find out if you are one. It’s multiple choice. Take your time.

Q 1 When is it okay to date someone who is already in a relationship?

1.Human beings are not monogamous creatures
2. As long as they don’t really want to be with that person
3. I’d rather wait until they are available

Q 2 How long should you wait before you get sexually intimate with someone?

1.It depends on how well I know the person
2.If it feels good, do it
3.Two or three dates, unless it’s love at first sight

Q3 Does it matter how someone’s relationships have ended in the past?

1.Some people just bring out the worst in each other
2.That was then and this is now
3.I am attracted to people who keep their side of the street clean

Q4 Does God matter in a relationship?

1.Not believing in God doesn’t make you a bad person
2.I think it’s key to a relationship to be spiritually compatible
3.To each his own

Q5 When you should bring up marriage or commitment?

1.Be upfront about what you want; you both deserve that
2.You should just go with the flow
3.Not until you’re sure it won’t scare them away

Q6 At what point do you talk about kids or birth control?

1.Love me, love my kids; and know that whatever I do, I am responsible for
2.If you have ‘em, wait to bring them up; if you don’t, wait until they mention it
3.Have a condom and don’t say anything you’ll regret later

Q7 When and how do you talk about STDs?

1.I would assume someone would tell me if they were sick or had some disease
2.ASAP and gracefully
3.You can tell when people are clean and healthy—and always bring a condom

Q8 Does it matter if someone you are with has been incarcerated?

1.Everyone deserves a second chance
2.As long as it wasn’t murder
3.Depends on what for

Q9 Does everyone need a purpose in life?

1.I just want them to be happy
2.Absolutely—or in sincere pursuit
3.As long as it isn’t me

Q10 Do you believe in Happily Ever After?
1.I don’t need to anymore
2.I believe in the pre-nuptial agreements
3.Sure, who doesn’t want that?

Tally up your points with the key below and mail your score to info at maryannelive dot com, and we’ll send you the results. Find out if you need an X-termination, need to lay off the cheese, or if you are a cheese connoisseur. (Be sure to include on what site you took the quiz!)

Key:
Q 1: 1) 2 points, 2) 1 point, 3) 3 points
Q 2: 1). 3 points, 2) 2 points, 3) 1 point
Q 3: 1) 1 point, 2) 2 points, 3) 3 points
Q 4: 1) 1 point, 2) 3 points, 3) 2 points
Q 5: 1) 3 points, 2) 2 points, 3) 1 point
Q 6: 1) 3 points, 2) 1 point, 3) 2 points
Q 7: 1) 1 point, 2) 3 points, 3) 2 points
Q 8: 1) 1 point, 2) 2 points, 3) 3 points
Q 9: 1) 1 point, 2) 3 points, 3) 2 points
Q 10: 1) 3 points, 2) 2 points, 1) 1 point

We know, from personal experience, that when we have days where we worry of the “what ifs”, the next will come where we feel we just seems to effortlessly “know it all!”

When faced with testing fate, or feeling a little flustered, we can rest assured that we still have all the capabilities to make it even just a bit better, than before, simply by taking one extra step, even if we may feel it impossible to move, let alone move out of this dark moment.

It doesn’t have to take much to make ourselves feel better.
We don’t even have to do something for “ourselves’ for this to take place.

Even the simple act of buying someone in front of you, their coffee, or sending out a cute greeting card in the mail, to someone, will make us feel better about ourselves.

Sometimes, it just seems that we don’t want to get up, or take a stand in our lives, let alone take a chance and risk doing things that scare us.

But, by going above and beyond, in any which positive fashion, we make a difference not only in our lives, but in the lives of those around us.

If you are feeling like you are not sure about which way to go, or what to do to feel better about any situation;
Be kind to yourself knowing that you don’t always need to know…
But “do” know that a kind gesture to yourself or others, will make any situation better.

And you will feel better because of it.

Love,
LuCy sMiLeS