I’m sure before you began this last relationship, your inner voice urged you to be a bit more patient, to chill, or maybe even run like hell, but you didn’t heed it. Your feelings overshadowed your common sense. Had you not ignored your inner voice, more than likely that’d be one less heartache you experienced. After today, we aren’t going to do that again. Are we?

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Aaron Asked:

“Well my gilfriend is mad at me and is giving serious thought into moving and ending the relationship. She told me to prove that I love her after when I tell her that i love her she says there just words prove that you love me. I don’t know how to prove that I love her. I need help and help quick.”

- Aaron (26, Kansas City)

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Tatiana Asked:

“Hi My name is Tatiana,Im 14 and I have been dealing with an on going relationship problem for a while & I’m at the point where I dont know what to do anymore. Well, its this guy Donell & I have known him since December 2009 and we met because his step brother and my cousin date. So we first met when he got on my bus and rode to the library. I was just talking and having fun and I turned back around and I saw what looked like the finest creature EVER. But me being the type of female I am I didnt let him know I was intrested but when I was walking up to the front of the bus he grabbed my arm and I just looked at him like he was crazy and sat down. Then he asked to see my phone and to sit next to him. I did and we just started a conversation and while I was talking to him he seemed like the most perfect guy ever. Good GPA, played sports, respectful all of that. When we got off the bus we went to the library and an hour later we were in the elevator and he asked me for a hug and I gave him one and looked up at him and he kissed and we started making out. After the first time we couldnt stop In the library aisles, elevators EVERYWHERE. When I was about to leave he gave me his number and I txted him. After that day we started talking and people were saying we were the cutest couple. We went to sleep on the phone together Christmas Eve and I talked to him ALL Christmas Day & On New Years, Valentines Day & Everyday. In Late January I let him take my virginity because I thought he was the one. But After New Years All the cute good mornings and i miss you’s stopped and I couldnt figure out why. On his Facebook page he was married to some girl that he said was his bestfriend but the had pictures like together forever and stuff on there which was odd but I was falling in love with him so I didnt care. But I askd him multiple times did he have a girlfriend and he said NO everytime. But in March my BFF called me like ” You know Donell has a girlfirend right” and I’m like how you know she was like Facebook I was like was it recent pictures and post she said yeah. SO my other BFF volunteered to message his girlfriend and tell her he was cheating on her & she did and his girlfriend broke up with him and he called me automatically knowing I had something to do with it so for the rest of March and April we werent cool but for some reason everytime I saw him I ignored him but he seemed to want to talk to me. But in Early May he called me and told me to meet him at the park so I did and we discussed everything and we started talking again but nobody could know. But Donell and I have had sex over 6 times and the most recent time I thought I was pregnant with his baby. After I told him I wasnt I havent talked to him since. My real questions are If he has a girlfriend he is “IN LOVE” with why does he continue to mess with me & Why would he still keep me around.??? Truthfully I LOVE HIM and IM IN LOVE WITH HIM and I will ALWAYS be there for him it just hurts to know he’s not mine. Does he really love either one of us or is he just confused.?? PLEASE HELP I THINK ABOUT THIS 24/7 and it only hurts more.”

- Tatiana (14, Detroit, MI)

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Klaudija Asked:

“in year 5 i started a new school and i began to like the most popular guy in my year, and i was the least popular girl in my year. half way through year 5 he found out and asked me out and i said yes and we were going out for a year and a half and i think i fell in love. during the time we were going out he cheated on me once but i forgave him, then at the end of year 6 he dumped me and i was devastated. i don’t remember much but by then i had some friends (whereas before i didn’t have any) and they say that they remember it and that i was crying my eyes out and that a teacher shouted at the guy: “look at that poor little girl, how can you live with yourself after seeing that?!”.

now i am in year 9 and i still like him. i don’t know if it is love but i just don’t seem to be able to give him up. when we broke up we didn’t talk at all until just recently (we don’t talk much but at least it’s more than nothing) and i am scared to tell him that i like him just in case we stop talking again.
i know you probably think i am some stupid little girl talking about love or whatever but i just really don’t know what to do anymore. i don’t want to like him but i just do.

please tell me what to do, or maybe not do.

thank you very much.”

- Klaudija (13, England)

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Your soggy bodies collapse beside each other, too depleted to even wipe away the beads of sweat swelling above your brow and trickling down into your ears. Your lover rolls off to one side of the bed feeling for a light: you turn and watch the embers at the end of the cigarette ignite, then gaze as he takes a long drag and exhales a vapor trail of smoke into the silence. “Ahhhhhh,” he speaks. “That was great!” You dreamily reply, “Yeah…Wow…that was…amazing!” He reaches over and rests his weary hand on your thigh, takes one last drag; you both lie quietly as the smoke disappears into the night. You gaze at his strong silhouette. He falls off to sleep as you drift off into visions of Happily Ever After…until…

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Joe Asked:

“Me and my girlfriend have been dating for only been dating for a week and a day, but i really love her. My brother is already married, and i feel like i should be too. Should i Propose to Julie? If so, how should i do it? were should i do it?

also my girlfriend told me she wanted to ‘play doctor’ with me. but we are both virgins and have promised to be virgins till marriage. how can we play doctor and not have it be too sexual?”

- Joe (20, TX)

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Ever wonder why, when you’re falling in love, you can’t think of anything else? As if you’re addicted to your sweetheart? You are addicted. Dopamine. Adrenalin. Serotonin. When you’re falling in love, your brain produces these hormones by the gallon. Dopamine has the same effect on your brain as cocaine. Adrenaline and Serotonin contribute to the can’t-think-of-anything-else obsession. This flood of hormones is why we’re blinded to the all-too-soon-painfully-obvious flaws of the object of our affection.

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Anonymous Asked:

“What do you say when a woman asks you to make love to her when your not in love with her? In text content. Do you make it clear it’s not love? We have been friends for a while and I keep saying I don’t want a relationship but sex is good.”

- Anonymous (41, Male)

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Kevin Asked:

“My wife and I met when she was 15, and I was 21. I never really talked to her until she turned 17, and then we started dating. I know this is very young, you don’t have to make all the comments I’ve heard before.

At first it was casual dating, seeing each other every other day or so.. then everyday.. then we moved in together, and then became married. All of this within a 2 year span.

We developed some trust issues, because I used to masturbate to pictures of other women online, and I suppose by feeling guilty, I would accuse her of “talking” to or flirting with other guys. However, she was always outgoing, and stuck to exclusively guy friends. (She says she didn’t get along with girls.)

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It has probably happened to each and every one of us – a brief romantic encounter that we carry with us for years. Perhaps you met that person on vacation, or may have met him or her while traveling on business in another area. You may have been twenty or you may have been forty. The point is that the memory of a fling can be powerful.

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