She Asked:

“This guy i met trough internet, and now we are having s long distance relationship. But nothing goes right… sometimes he is good to me sometimes he is not…he says he wants to be with me and he only wants me…but we keep fighting around little and stupid stuff…he keeps coming back and apologizing and i keep taking him back… ever time we talk on the phone he says that he is crazy about my voice and that he cant help his self and he masturbates everytime he hears me talking…i dont know what to do, how to handle this situation? sometimes i think he loves me but sometimes i feel like he is just using me?”

- She (21)

Krisna Asked:

“I’ve been in a long distance relationship with a guy while on vacation in Turkey for about 1.5 years. At first, I was totally against it and he wasn’t even my type and I rejected him but as I got to know him, I saw that he was a good person, career oriented, and really seemed to like me. He comes to visit me in the States and I visited him a couple times in Istanbul. The problem is, I am due to move to Turkey to live to be closer to him, as his job is more lucrative and I can easily relocate and work. However, I am having doubts about the relationship. He comes from a traditional family and he is keen to marry and have lots of kids. I’m not even sure if that is what I want right now. We don’t have a a ton of stuff in common and I feel like I”m just settling for him because I think I’m 27 and should be getting married soon. I broke up with him once before but we got back together after we talked about it. Whenever I express any doubts he always says he will do whatever he can to make me happy, and I know he is not lying, but I just have a feeling there may be someone better for me but I am afraid to break up with him and be alone. I don’t know if it’s the distance creating these problems (when I’m with him, things go well) or if I’m not just in love with him. any advice?”

- Krisna (27, US)

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Sofia Asked:

“I met my bf on net and he’s from florida and i live in philipines, we are 2 far from eachother, i really want to see him and he told me that he loves me, we both believe in our relationshp.
But were 2 far and everythngs complicated, he’s older than me he’s 17 and iam 13. I get scared that one day he may nut love me anymore cause he mght find other girls. I’m scared to loose him. Cause ilove him, i can feel it and i want to hold his hands and hug him, i dont knw what to do to my life. What am i going to do?”

- Sofia (13, Phillipines)

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Aly Asked:

“My boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years. We see each other pretty much everyday. He told me he plans on move in about 8 months for school. We have not been apart for longer than a week and i feel like an LDR would be way too hard for me but i love him. I think about the move everyday and I cannot help but feel like this move will tear us apart. I offered to go with him but he shut me down and told me that he is not ready to move in together so he made our only option an LDR. I feel like I am being forced into this and I dont know what to do. Not to mention i feel like we are on two separate pages because i am ready to move in together. How can I be okay with an LDR? How can i make this relationship work when i so desperately want to avoid an LDR? Are we just on two different commitment levels that this just wont work?”

- Aly (19, Miami, Florida)

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Kyle Asked:

“Im in a long distance relationship and we are both in the military. Im going to visit her for christmas and new years. We have been together for 7 months and she says she “loves me” but “not in love” with me. I love her to death and everything, and respect her decision. I was wondering if theres anything I can do to to go from not in love, to in love. Thank you for your time and response.”

- Kyle (21, Maui, HI)

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Jasmine Asked:

“I was having an internet relationship right now, me and my bf are almost 8 months now talking everyday and sharing all of things even if we dont meet in person,only at camera,one day I feel he hide something on me then, I ask how many times then finally he told me that he love someone, so I try to let him go but he doesnt want cos he still love me and he was still waiting for the girl to love him cos the girl loves her bf very much,but her bf is a stupid ,and thats what my bf wants to see that the girl will loved him too.its hurt but its true I really want to get out of this but I loved him, and he feel same way too ,what will I do ? Will I get over him even he dont like? I look like hanging but I accept I am really hurt but I have to decide please help me?”

- Jasmine (33, Philippines)

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Dee Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. We are in a long distance relationship, she lives in Washington I live In NY. We met online on a blog site..instantly connected and had so many things in common and fell madly in love. We met each other in person over a month ago and things went great. She stayed for about two weeks..but after I saw her leave for home I just got so depressed and everything and now it just seems going back to Skype and the telephone its harder. We have been fighting a lot lately and I have been having these doubts that it won’t be the same as we first saw each other a month ago. I plan on going up there at the end of the month I just don’t want to keep arguing..and we usually make up in the same day but its just taking a toll on both of us emotionally. I love her so much and I want to be with her I just want some advice on how to keep a distance relationship going and how I can get rid of these doubts I am having? Also how to deal with jealousy, I have real bad jealousy issues and its not like I don’t trust her..I just don’t trust other people plus they get to see her all the time. Please I want to keep this going. Thank you!”

- Dee (18, NY)

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Lola Asked:

“I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year and 6 months now.he’s perfect he’s funny,loving,respectful,he cares about me and he’s always there for me when I need him. Only problem is……..we’ve never met!…I live in maryland and he lives in new york…I’m falling in love with him but I don’t know if its a waste of time or not. I’ve met his brother and cousin in person and I’ve seen him on msn messanger so I know he’s real.. I just don’t know what to do please help!”

- Lola (19, Maryland)

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Tyler Asked:

“I’m in a long distance relationship with a gal from Tennessee while I’m from Indiana (2 States away). We’ve been together for approximately 6 months now without a visit, which concerns me. Overall, I feel our relationship has been going well with the exception of a phase of seeing other people for maybe a 2 week period and everything seems to be going back on track now. We are both the same age, 20. She has told me several times she would make the trip here in Indiana and has never shown up which bothers me, but at the same time we mutually call eachother several times daily and have a normal day to day conversations as any other relationship would. We get along perfectly fine and still have our “Spicy” phone calls regularly. I don’t understand why she hasn’t came as promised several times. I plan on making a trip there in the very near future, but I’m afraid I’m getting my hopes up too high at this point. I need honest advice please. Thanks!!!!”

- Tyler (20, Indiana)

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Annabelle Asked:

“I have been in a long-distance relationship for a year. I’ve known him for two years overall, and before the relationship, we were great friends. We met online initially. We made our relationship work by talking on skype, webcamming on msn, texting, talking on the phone, 8 months ago, I started to feel a disconnect. He started becoming less available, and after his friend moved in with him, it became near impossible to get a chance to talk to him. At this point, we didn’t talk at all on skype or on the phone, or even on msn. He used to tell me he loved me everyday and reminded me of how much he loved me, and vice versa. but now, not a single word. I tried to deal with it by reminding myself that we both need space from each other and I tried not to seem desperate. One day, I wrote him an email telling him how i felt, and essentially, he replied telling me he tried not to think much of us because it depressed him (like it did me) and told me it was up to me what I wanted to do. I’m not sure how I feel about that…he’s purposely trying not to think about me so he won’t have to feel heart ache, But if he never thinks of me, will his feelings for me fade? I already feel doubts about how he feels, considering how seldom we communicate. And when we DO talk, it feels less natural and more forced, and whenever I tell him I love him he seems not to acknowledge it. It’s so hard for me to let go of him when I still love him so much and I want to make it work so badly. I can’t imagine my life with anyone except him, but I can’t continue like this for the next however many years before I can even see him! I don’t know how to confront him about this without seeming aggressive and accusing. Any advice would be appreciated.”

- Annabelle (18, New York City, New York)

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