Tony Asked:

“I been with my wife over 23 years we had two kids my daughter 23 and my son 17 maybe I am over reacted or jealousies she work for casino her shift end at 2am sometimes she don’t get home until 5 am she don’t answer my call I came to her work her car still in the parking lot I waiting for her to show up after an hour she pull up with her coworker she told me they went out get something to eat, after few weeks go by she enrolled in some acting class I call but no answer accidentally her phone call me I heard she was talking to some guy I was listening to there conversations when she got home I was so angry when she saw me waiting in front of the house and jelling she drove off to her sister house she never explain to me who she with but I forgive her last week I came to her work and her coworker walk her to her car and they were hugging in the parking lot when she got home I confront her but told me I am over reactions and last night there both walking out I pull up in front of them she say he just walk me out, I want to catch her in the act and find out is she really cheating or I am just too jealousy and over reacting please help what should I do?”

- Tony (43, Torrance)

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C.J Asked:

“Last year my best friend moved to Nashville from Michigan. She ended up meeting a man a few months ago and recently announced she’s engaged. We were very happy and excited for her up until this week.

Allow me to backtrack slightly. I’m in my 40′s as is my friend. Though she is a lady, I’m a guy. We’ve been best friends for years to the point where she’s closer than my own sister. She was best person at my wedding and her kids (boy and girl both teens) were ushers. She and my wife are extremely close friends. We’ve watched her kids grow up (their dad is not in the picture), have babysat the kids on a multitude of occasions when my friend had to go out of town on business.

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Pamela Asked:

“im in a relationship with a guy for 5 years now. he was my best friend before and we were so close. we still are so close and tell everything to each other. i trust him and im sure he will never cheat on me, however we always fight over stupid things and most of the time its because he makes me jealous!!im so sensitive, in love and really jealous sometimes..maybe i overreact and do crazy things but i think its normal to be jealous specially when it comes in relationships..however instead of being less jealous, he’s making me every other day more and more jealous…and everytime he makes me angry with his JOKES(that’s how he likes to call it) for example, when im with him he tries to make me see that he’s looking at a girl or when i ask him where was he he tells me he was with a girl or i don’t know stupid things. bottom line: HE ALWAYS TRIES TO MAKE ME JEALOUS.. i just wanna know how can i stop him do that??what should i do???cuz it really makes me angry!!i think we cannot call these things JOKES since they’re not funny!!!why the hell is he going to joke about girls every time??he was with a girl, he saw a girl, he studied with that girl, the girl called herrr.. etc..why?? i just wanna make him stop making me jealous.. howww? help me

ps: there’s no specific girl!!”

- Pamela (21, Lebanon)

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Jamie Asked:

“Hey! I need as much advice as I can get. It’s kind of about my relationship with my boyfriend and my problem with jealousy.
Well, we have been going out for a year and I love my boyfriend dearly. however, I find myself getting very jealous quite easily. I get jelous when he hangs out with other people and when he talks to other girls, I even get jelous when he goes out but won’t tell me what he’s doing. I don’t pry into every part of his life, or address my jealousy with him because I feel that it is stupid. but, no matter how stupid or pointless I know my feelings truly are, I can’t help but get jealous. I hate it! I just want to know how to overcome it!
Is there any advice that you can give me that could help me with this? I would greatly appreciate any advice given!
Thank you so much for your time!”

Jamie (18, Pittsburgh, PA)

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Leo Asked:

“hello! I (age 30) broke up with my ex girlfriend (age 30) almost 2 moths ago. we were together for a year. She really loves me and she wanted to marry me. I just wasn’t that warm because of some personal things. When she asked me to break up i agreed but we still had contact. She broke up with me because I was not as warm as she was. I was wrong not to ask her to wait and open up and tell her i’m just not myself now because of some problems. very fast she got involved with a new guy (maybe a rebound?) and made it clear to me it’s over. Anyway, i told her how i feel about her and showed her my love, told her im ok now (she sees that also) and we can be everything we wanted to be. I even showed her the ring I bought her and was planning to give to her. And that was all. I didnt persue her at all. We met a few days ago and spent 5 hours together doing silly things and having fun. We spoke a bit about us but she says she is now somewhere else and the usual that she loves me and all. I encouraged her relationship telling her i want her to be happy. We met again today for an hour and i flirted a tiny little bit with her and she did seem open to it. I can tell she loves me and still is attracted to me. She even tells me I look hansom. She now thinks I am getting into something new and i can tell she is a bit jealous. I love this girl and I am ready to give her what she wants. I just dont know how to act now. We do have fun together a lot but should I keep meeting with her and flirt with her or shall I maybe go no contact for a bit and make her miss “us”? I do make her laugh a lot and that makes me happy! Thanks a lot!”

- Leo (30, Greece)

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Aliyah Asked:

“Well I have been dating a guy since last year and we were meeting only for sex and he did have already a girlfriend and they were supposed to get engaged but they have break-up after.That guy keep on meeting me sometimes and we do keep in touch via messenger and I began to really like him,he cares for me and we talk as frineds and even we met only for sex he has never make me get any problem.But the last time we have meet we have gone to lunch only and my friends were around that day,and he has finally be friends my friends (both girls and boys)also,I did not tell my friends that we were dating each other because I knew that he meets me only for sex,but I became jealous when I find out that he meet my friends even I was not there.I have later tell my friends about us by lieing a bit by telling them that he was my ex.but I wanted to get into relationship with him because I like him very much. He was angry when I told him that I have told my friends that we were together before.He told i should have never told them about us and we did have a big fight. And he has really hurt me because he told me that I was cheap and he never love and never will. But after some week later he has call me and we chat a lot on messenger more than before in fact quiet everyday now. He has not yet talk about that fight between us, he is making as if nothing has happend,But the last time we chat he told that he wanted to meet me, I have ask him why, he told me because that he like me and he has like me since long. if he wanted me only for sex, he could have taken advantage of that he like me and he always want my good. So I have ask him about getting into a serious relationship he told me we will be together at any time the issue about his girlfriend can arise in his family and that they can force him to get engaged. He said that he really does not want to give me hope and like we are, we will always support each other.

I really don’t know what to do as I am confused, I want to get into something serious with him else I will leave him coz I don’t want to get hurt. plz advice me.”

- Aliyah (23, Mauritius)

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Crystal Asked:

“Hi,
One question.
There is this guy who is 3 years older than me, goes to my college and i can tell he likes me. I see immaturity. But if he likes me, why has he been acting weird, it’s complicated. He’s texting me almost everyday and wants to know what i’m doing and what i’m upto. He want’s to constantly take me out for lunch. Yet, I can see that he acts weird as if he is jealous asking me who i am texting when i was merely looking up music one day when i accepted. I told him that i have to know someone very well for at least more than a year to see if there could be something more and he replied Hm.. i think it’s worth it.

Okay.. so i think he is a jerk because it seems he is playing games with me as of stating “I’m going to my friends house she’s my coworker” and texting me at 1250am “just got home.” and so forth when i have turned him down softly because i had plans. Yet he still constantly keeps wanting to go out with me, I told him as “friends” and he told my girlfriend it was sort of a date. Eh… so much to say. But i wanted to ask why is this guy playing ? I believe he’s trying to make me jealous because he is ? It’s weird though i’ve only met him 5 times. I don’t know. But jealousy games dont’ work with me they only piss me off and make me want him stop talking to me. I’m not that type of girl that plays games. What do you think of this situation?”

- Crystal

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10. Bad sex
This seems to me to be the most preventable one of the 10! See my entry on are you a dead fish? I once had bad sex and that relationship lasted about a week! However to be really honest I have often put up with bad sex to be with someone I loved. It eventually led to a break up because I was too unsatisfied in this area. Here is where the problem lies… I didn’t tell her. I broke up with her instead of making my needs clear. Could you be in the same boat? Is your boy hiding his dissatisfaction from you?

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Bobani Asked:

“Me and my boyfriend have been together only for 3 months now, we work together and he was engaged twice before and his 2 ex-fiances also work at the same company and we have common friends, however since our relationship started I’ve been hearing bad things about him (things that made his ex-fiances leave him ) such as; he’s not a responsible man and he’s spoiled and he knows a lot of girls, he doesn’t stick to his word and stuff like that. Anyway, I ignored what i heard and judged him only according to my relationship with him not according to what others say! Anyway, at the beginning, he’s been very nice to me, say nice things , bring me gifts, flowers, chocolates and all the things that any girl loves. He’s a gentleman too and that was what made me fall for him in the first place; he opens doors, walks between me and the street, calls me a lot to check up on me but 2 weeks ago something changed.. I don’t know what it is but I know that he’s involved in an important project at work and very stressed up but he began to do things that really made me angry. For example, we don’t go out together coz my parents don’t allow me to. Anyways he told me that he has a lot of female friends and he told me that he wanted to go out with them as he used to and just have fun in a group but I totally refused, I’m a very jealous woman and he’s a handsome guy!! How can I let him do that!! relationship started

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Across the board, one of the most insidious elements to contaminate a relationship is jealousy. When you think of jealousy, you may instantly think of teenage love and soap opera-type shenanigans. However, for most people, jealousy is not a thing of the past. In fact, some degree of jealousy lurks in most romantic relationships – in dating, short- and long-term relationships, and marriage.

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