Ivana Asked:
“You’re a guy, very egotistical, narcissistic, have been hurt before, and meet a girl who blows you away. She’s not perfect, has emotional problems, and brings a lot of agony for you but it’s the moments you hold her and kiss her that you know you could never let go and she’s the girl you can really see a future with, you actually love her beyond the emotion. The girl ends up pregnant and you don’t know how to handle all of this stress. In this stress, a girl who’s been chasing you for a whole year consoles you because your current girlfriend becomes hormonal and mean. You finally can’t take your girlfriend’s insecurities and hormonal behavior which you consider “abusive” so you break up with her and have sex with the girl who wanted you for a year. You’re officially dating this girl. Would you pretend to be happy and love this girl to spite your ex? To the rest of the world, you’re the good guy. The good person who helped her. The good guy who is compassionate and loves to help other people while your ex-girlfriend and mother of your child knows the truth. Probably explains the hatred I will be speaking about later.
Why I ask is because I’m in a similar situation, I’m the first girl. I know for a fact he felt vulnerable becoming close to me because he admitted this when we were just becoming FRIENDS. “Being close to you makes me feel vulnerable” and I swear to God he loved me. Now he’s so hateful, wishes death upon me and says the most mean things, like he wishes his current girlfriend would father his child. First he still prays for me every night to find peace, and wants to be friends. The next he hates me and I have to obey him. Wtf? He also criticizes me because I tell him he obviously doesn’t care and never did out of anger, maybe to get that he did out of him. But, I will also admit that when he’s that evil to me I said “how can you do that to someone you supposedly cared about?” And he responds “WELL WHICH ONE IS IT, YOU SAID I HATE YOU, PICK A.”
- Ivana (18, Brooklyn. NY)
