Success in anything we do requires commitment, effort and investment of time and energy. The same is true for your relationship. Take a moment and think about how much commitment effort and energy you invest in your relationship. Be honest with yourself. Have you put the kids, your job, housework, your hobby, etc. before your relationship? Have you, albeit unintentionally, neglected your relationship – assuming it will always be there for you?

It is really easy to get caught up in “life”; especially in today’s world of multi-tasking and rushing around all over the place going from activity to activity. But doing all this running around often leaves our most intimate relationship simmering on the backburner – and if we spend too much time ignoring this relationship – we are bound to get burned.

Following are Dr. Patty Ann’s 3 Simple Emotional Investments which will triple the Love and Intimacy in Your Relationship! These investments are easy, simple and very effective!

So you two have made it past the dating, initial courtship, first & further physical intimacy, agreed upon exclusivity and monogamy, and now you’re ready to settle into the care, feeding, and nurturing of your nascent relationship. Cool. Happiness and fulfillment await you. That is, the odds are good if you’ve both done your homework, laid some groundwork, and made some preparations. Good relationships are not a result of carefully drawn plans and blueprints, but they don’t just “happen”either.

Some things you would think go without saying, but they don’t. It’s easy for us objective observers to see the red flags in others’ relationships, and we scratch our heads and wonder why the principles involved can’t see it. In the initial stages of a relationship we feel great, the sky’s the limit, and we don’t want to entertain the notion of pragmatism or practicality because anything like that might diminish the euphoria. And there’s nothing wrong or unnatural about feeling that way. Hell, the human race could never have gained a toehold on this planet otherwise. But those primal human responses that populated the earth seldom resulted in healthy, mutually satisfying relationships (emphasis on the mutual part). Relationships are like Harley-Davidson motorcycles: neat, wonderful, fun things, but maintenance-intensive. If you’re not prepared and joyfully willing to spend the time & effort and make the physical and emotional investment necessary for a healthy relationship, then you, and especially your potential partner, are better off not taking the plunge.

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While this is certainly not a new idea, it is definitely worth discussing. When dating, we often try to put our best foot forward. We are zipped up – showing only those traits we believe that our partner will appreciate while holding back the traits we think they may not approve of. Essentially, we are trying to be the person that they want to date rather than being who we actually are. This is natural instinctive behavior that is all too easy to slip into without even realizing it. … read more