Ria Asked:

“I Broke off with my boyfriend an year back as he moved abroad for his studies and moreover he said he was getting very serious for me but was sure that we cannot have a future as our families would never approve our relationship. Just after our break up he nearly begged to be friends with him. We decided to be friends. After two months he himself told me that he was in a relationship with some other girl and that was also a long distance relationship.

We were in continuous contact after that. We even met once after that and we kind got intimate in that meeting(intimacy of not a very high degree). I told him that I was not over him. He said he was thinking about me but he also accepted the fact that he was in a relationship with some other girl and called it a “sin” to think about me.

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Jim Asked:

“For the past two years I have been in love with a 34 year old woman in my office I am 47 but the age thing is unimportant to her. She has been living for the past five years with her boyfriend who seems abusive to her. On several occasions she has said to me that she would love to move out but due to her salary she can’t. She basically told me one day that she falls in love with the wrong kind of guy like the “bad boy” type. She is divorced because her ex cheated on her. I too am going through a divorce and she was my moral support. As of yet it has not been finalized.

We started out like anyone else communicating. We seem to hit it off right away. We must have spent our entire days together. I would ask her if she would join me for coffee and we would spend an hour together just talking about the days events. She even asked me for my cell number. On special days like her birthday I would take her out to dinner. Last year I literally fell in love with her on her birthday. It struck me like a ton of bricks. I began to e-mail back and forth. First it was general e-mails then they grew more intense and more personal. She would share personal stories about herself as far as her visits to the gyno are concerned and when she felt bad on her time of the month. I would write to her love poetry and the like. Last Valentine’s Day I went overboard by writing a beautiful love poem with a red rose. She freaked out and didn’t know what to do so she called me on the cell phone and said to me we are only co-workers right? I said yes.

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Michelle Asked:

“My ex and I broke up in April citing reasons not feeling the same way as me amongst other things as the cause. We’ve gradually gotten back on speaking terms recently.

It’s the anniversary of his mother’s death this month and being that I still care about him and his family, I sent him a little message stating that I hoped all was well and that my thoughts were with them all. From then on and for the past week, the emails have been full of reminiscing, remembering and flirting. Although this wasn’t what I intended to happen, I find myself wanting more again. The truth is I’ve no idea what he’s thinking.

We’re so completely right for each other it’s painful. I wouldn’t be this concerned if it was just a passing thing, but we had and still have a genuine spark and connection and it just works.

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Nestor Asked:

“Me and this girl who is a close friend to one of my friends had a attraction to each other that we did not let each other know. But one night at a friends place we lied next to each other in bed talking but eventually made-out.
After this we spoke everyday about how enjoyable it was and how much we were attracted to each other and contemplated starting a relationship. The thing is though, after one week of this kind of communication she says now that she think she is not ready for a relationship. Her main concerns are what if things dont work out between us how will she ever be able to feel comfortable hanging out with us (the guys) knowing that i would be there too.
I really had grown to like this girl in one week and shared alot of personal things with her too. She recently came out of a bad relationship as well but says that she is okay now.
Please shed some light on this for me ……thanks !”

- Nestor (34, New Jersey)

“Hi guys , i just want to say a great thanks to you all for your honest opinions and answers to my question. This will indeed help me in the decisions i make in the future when it comes to matters like these.

Again , so much thanks to you all !”

- Nestor

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Michael Asked:

“so i have this friend. met her two years ago. she was the pretty girl in class that was kind of shy but you couldn’t help but look at. one day i ended up asking her out and go so scared about her reaction i actually ran away. well we started talking on facebook. then talking on the phone and i went up and see her at work and such. she was throwing hints pretty hard my way. but i wasnt catching them and she was still living with her “ex” at the time so i was a little put off. anyways after a few months of talking i found out she was pregant. not a big deal but she was living with the father so i kind of backed off for a while. she had her son in febuary. didnt talk much till july then we started going out for drinks about once a week. just friends chating and everything at this point she was back with the father trying to have a family and we were just friends. then college started and i lived in town and she did not so on her breaks she would come over and visit. hang out for the night have dinner. well she was coming over i was getting off work early started with chats back rubs then oh god we had sex. it was good i felt speical. we talked we were ok with it. so we kind of started seeing each other in that sense about 2-3 times a week. i even started babysitting her son 2-3 days a week. things were great i developed feelings for her. then thanksgiving hits and we were snuggled up one night and she said those three words that make you feel amazing. things were great that week visited her at work had lunch a few times. then she got weird and was very distant and told me to “stop being confusing” we had a rought month and then a big fight at xmas. stopped talking for a month.

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Nathaniel Asked:

“I am very close to a friend. We have spent a ton of time together in the past 6 months and started to have romantic feelings for each other. Early on she told me that she did not know herself enough to be in a relationship. I respected this and settled for being friends. However, a month ago she told how much she liked me and that she has never been so comfortable with a guy before. We started dating and things were going great. A couple weeks ago she left for Mexico and has suddenly said that she does not think she is ready for a relationship. What can I do to help her? I just want her happy even if it is not with me though she seems to really like me?”

- Nathaniel (19)

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Brandy Asked:

“How do I know if my guy friend likes me?”

- Brandy (35, LA)

For those of you who have moved passed Myspace and graduated to the more sophisticated of the social networking sites (Facebook), there is a time and place for it; just like everything in life for that matter.

Status Updates- Do your friends need to know every minute of every day about what you are doing?  Do they need to know you are in the backyard, or relaxing, or just got your nails done, or are hungover?  Maybe. Do your friends constantly need to be reminded that you and “the love of your life” just bought a Christmas tree together?  If they are that amazing, how is it you are spending that time updating your status about it?  Although, I do recognize that with the Iphone and Blackberry, it is pretty convenient.  I am fortunate that in between all the silly updates, I gain some amazing knowledge from my “friends”.  And yes, all 272 of my Facebook friends are people I actually know. Ok, except for Kim Kardashian, but it is really a “fans” page. Either way, I am not deleting Kim and would like her for a “real” friend.

Do I want to find out that someone died, had a heart attack, or was in a car wreck through a status update? No, I do not; perhaps an email would be a better communication tool for such traumatic news.

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Nathan Asked:

“The girl I’ve liked for a while came over yesterday. She told me that she’s liked me, too. I don’t want to ruin our friendship, and neither does she. We smoked a little weed and made out. It went a little further (third base) and now I’m wondering what to do. She told me that she doesn’t want a relationship, which is fine with me, but should I move on or continue the “friends with benefits” route?”

- Nathan (16, Simmonsville, SC)

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Jackie Asked:

‘How do i know if my guy friend really likes me when he has another female friend?’

- Jackie (Hattiesburg)

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