John Asked:

“Hello I am from the US
I have this bestfriend who i really starting to like.

Since her sort of bf broke up with her she keeps giving me more attention.(We used to talk like 1-2 times a week but now its every day )
This happened not to soon ago.

Everyday she starts a convo on msn & she always finds new things to keep it going. She also came to my place to watch a movie, but we didn’t cuddle or anything just laughed a lot like usual.
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Claire Asked:

“Hello everyone…i just need somebody to talk about my most painfull experience ever…i met this guy last year in foreign country where we both worked…since i saw him i felt for him..so as him…the main problem was that i had only one week to go home..so we end up being intimate..we became friends on facebook…and i went home thinking i will never gonna see him again…

One year later call it destiny or not in May we got same job again in foreign country..i couldn’t bealive it..so i send him msg on facebook telling him the news…i was so exited that finnnaly i will have chance to know him much better….his reaction was kind of like great but i told him that we gonna be friends with benefits as i knew it that he is a player…so as me..i mean i’m like party girl i don’t want nothing serious with anybody…

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Sush Asked:

“My story started on Jan 2010, she was working with me in my office and I liked her very much but she was just make me friend first time, but after some time on 1 day she called me after our office time and ask me to meet her in urgent, I meet her and I found something really heart breaking, she was crying and I ask what happen she told me that she was in love with 1 of our office mate and he told her that he is gating married with other girl to whom he is loving, it was heart breaking for her and me also I was never aware about that and she never told me about that, ok  Then she told me everything that night and cried so much,, that boy was never been liked by me and he just broke her heart, she told me everything because in my office I was only person who was her good friend that time because I helped her in her need,,, ok ,,
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Hamilton Asked:

“I’ve known this girl for 2 months now. We are both taking the same Biology class and we are both international students from Nigeria. She’s very pretty and has a wonderful personality. About a couple of weeks ago, we had a personal conversation and I asked her if she was seeing anyone, she said she had a boyfriend back in Nigeria and that they are trying to make it work. Some of her attitudes makes it seem like that is not true. In an attempt to avoid the “friendship zone” I told her that I really like her and I’m not trying to break up her relationship but it is what it is. She said she doesn’t see us ever being together. We had gone out to have lunch a couple of times together from school, to the movies a couple of times or to the mall, just to hang out. In all occasions, she’s the one asking me out, but she makes it clear that its just “hanging out” and not a date. I really like this girl and I might even be falling in love with her. I wouldn’t want it to end up being just as she had predicted, I want it to work. Please, help me out.”

- Hamilton (20, Arlington)

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Pablo Asked:

“Need bottom-line opinions…

Basically, I’m on exchange in Switzerland as a latin american student coming from a Swedish University. Since the first night of my ongoing party week here (kind of a freshman week), I met a cute German girl who also comes on exchange from a Swedish uni. I have to say that I am a really good looking guy used to superficial hookups; Yea, one night-stands, and I’m not proud of it. I’m just used to get drunk and keep it simple, but for some reason, this girl added me on facebook, talks to me all the time, and invites me to events (again, a busy party introduction week in this small Swiss town).

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Leena Asked:

“I have this guy friend. He is a good friend of mine and we’ve been quite good friends for about 13 or 14 years. Which is one of the reasons why I don’t want to bring it up first. I wouldn’t want to mess up our friendship. It’s complicated because he lives in the US. I never thought about it until recently when I got in touch with a guy I went to high school with… just trying to reconnect with old classmates or whatever. My old classmate said that guys don’t stay best friends with a girl for that long unless they’re interested and did I ever think that maybe I broke his heart?… but this was in reference to another guy friend that was one of my best friends since high school that has stopped talking to me, but he’s not the one I’m interested in. This other guy has always been a really good friend, but not one of my best friends… I never even thought about him this way until my old classmate said that about my other friend and I wondered if it might apply to this friend as well because I could definitely be interested in this guy… it would be complicated to get together but I would like to take the first steps in this if he’s interested. We talk regularly and he is always sweet to me. He acts like he genuinely cares about me. He’ll stay on the phone with me sometimes for more than an hour. I always phone him, but he doesn’t have an international contract and I don’t blame him because it’s expensive and besides it’s free for me to phone him. The only thing that makes me think I really am just a friend is that I texted him the address of my blog and he hasn’t looked at it yet in over a month, but maybe he’s just busy or doesn’t like reading blogs? I don’t know. One thing about him, though, is that he’s never mentioned girls to me except once and it was that when he has a girlfriend other girls always say to let them know when he’s single again and when he’s single they don’t want to know… That’s really all I have to go on… As far as I know he’s single at the moment… he never talks about that stuff with me…”

- Leena (33, United Kingdom)

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Vlad Asked:

“Hello. I’m not sure if someone can really help me right now but it’s worth the shot..

A few months ago I met a girl, who has a boyfriend.. We got to be really good friends.. We hang out every day after school / work with the same group so we kinda had to see each other everyday.. My feelings for her got stronger and I started to fall in love with her.. She is just that loveable type of girl.. I kept everything for myself.. but I started to act differently around her.. I was quiet, I didn’t laugh so much as before and stuff.. So she kept asking me everyday what’s wrong.. But I thought I couldn’t tell her.. because I really respect the fact that she has a boyfriend.. But one day, around a month ago.. she and her boyfriend had a huge fight.. He left and she started crying.. I asked her “what can I do to see you smile again?” and she said: “tell me the truth, what’s wrong with you in the last weeks or so..” So I told her.. I told her everything. How I love her and how I dream of her every night.. How her happiness is the most important thing in the world to me.. And how I would give anything just to see her happy.. But I also told her that we should stop seeing each other.. That we should stop talking because she has a boyfriend and I really don’t think I could be just her friend.. So the next day I didn’t go out with my friends.. but she called me, just like the day before.. She kept texting me everyday, she kept messaging me on YM.. I told her many times that we should stop talking about my feelings.. before is like she is emotionally cheating on her bf.. But it’s like she doesn’t understand.. She told me she wants to get to know me better, every time I told her we should break all contact she starts crying.. And I just can’t stand that.. She also told me “can’t you see I’m not kissing or hugging my boyfriend so much when you are around? I don’t want you to get hurt..” So to this day.. she keeps calling me, texting me everyday, asking me to hang out with her and our friends.. So what should I do? Should I just ignore all of her messages and find some new friends for a while? Or what should I tell her? There’s nothing I would want more in the world than to be with her.. and make her happy.. But she has a boyfriend.. even if she isn’t as happy with him as she should be.. I must respect that.. She is out of town for 2 days.. 30 minutes ago she texted me asking me what time do I get off work today.. because she get home at 5 PM and she wants us to hang out.. I replied “I don’t think I’m coming today.. lots of work”.. she texted me “why do you do this? It breaks my heart knowing you’re not going out because of me.. Please come.. I won’t even talk to you if you don’t want to.. but I miss you”.. What should I say? How do I continue from here? Next days, nxt weeks.. I really can’t stand it anymore.. Please, any advice would be great.. Thank you for your time..”

- Vlad (25, Romania)

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Emi Asked:

“Last year, I changed universities and ended up living abroad. I was a little insecure and not looking for a relationship, but I developed a very close friendship with a boy I shared the dorm with. I was reluctant to get attached to him, as I knew from the beginning that he had a girlfriend.

We spent every day together, hiking or just hanging out in his room. He taught me how to drive. On the days I didn’t see him he would show up at my room, wanting to know where I was. It was always just us, as we were both new to the area. I started to develop feelings for him and I was very confused. I was definitely getting mixed signals (either of my own invention or from him). He’s a very touchy person and I always saw physical feedback (touching, leaning, hugging) as an indicator of interest, but I guess that’s not always the case. In any case, I was sure that he liked me back.

Anyway, he had been having issues with his girl, and I had been advising him (as a friend would…urging him to work it out rather than break it off). But when he told me that another girl had “shown up” (he had been crushing on her from afar for several years), I decided to mention it to him that I had rather strong romantic feelings for him. I thought the act would allow me some closure and help me to move on if he didn’t like me back.

I got no feedback from him (I chickened out and emailed him…he answered but ignored my statement), and so I decided that I needed to get over him (as if I would a boyfriend, though we never dated). But he has still been sporadically in touch. Every two or three weeks he will call or email, wondering how my family is, or wanting to know if he can come and visit (although he lives quite far away). I have largely been ignoring this, but it stings every time I hear from him. He is still very friendly, but I can tell that he is hurt that I have not contacted him at all.

Also, we picked out housing together next year (an apartment). So I need to remain civil without renewing my attachment to him. I was very preoccupied with him, and absolutely heartbroken when I found out that he was taken.

(also, obviously, I haven’t slept with him or kissed him or anything).”

- Emi (22)

Ramy Asked:

“actually i was in love with a girl and i was feeling that she loves me back but i wasn’t sure , and once I sent her a message told her i will miss you and i was like to know her answer to just be sure if she has any feelings towards me or not , and she replied to me i’ll miss you too . then i asked her if she said i’ll miss you too with feeling or it’s just because i told her i’ll miss you, she answered that she meant it in a friendly way , what should i do now , i still love her , and i want her to love me back , is there any way ???”

- Ramy (21, Egypt)

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David Asked:

“i am in love with one woman and she is also in love with me. I always pretend normal friend like person in front of her. We havent commited to each other and i dont want to rush into the relationship. I future will it create problem for me if i take too long in commiting? and most importantly what she will think about me as? Will she come forward to first to commit to me ?”

- David (23)

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