Forgiveness. It’s a topic we hear a lot about when it comes to marriage and relationships. Lord knows there’s plenty to forgive and I, for one, am grateful for a partner who has a generous and forgiving heart. But I ask you, for all the talk and hoopla about the “virtue” of forgiveness, why isn’t there more said about the conditions under which one is forgiven? You, in return, might ask, “Isn’t forgiveness supposed to be unconditional?” Well, according to idealistic gurus it is, and that would be just dandy if we were perfect human beings. We’re not.
The truth is that forgiveness is conditioned on better behavior in the future. It chaps my hide that so many people think saying, “I’m sorry” is a cure-all that entitles the transgressor to immediate and unconditional forgiveness. That may have worked in kindergarten when you grabbed another kid’s crayon and were forced to give it back with an equally forced apology, but it doesn’t work in grown-up life.
I have great advice for everyone who needs to get control of their love life. Ready? You need to…forgive. That’s right, to have a successful love life after a break up or divorce, you must forgive your ex. Before you protest, read these 7 tips to help you forgive. Forgiveness will not only free you of your ex, but benefit you and your future relationships.
