Emma Asked:
“My son is a well respected physician, whose work consumes him. I have noticed and today his eldest son expressed to me that his dad, “puts him down”; doesn’t care about him; calls him names; I believe this is true, but perhaps not as regular as his son is telling me. (I hope) I would like advice about whether I should talk to my son. Am I likely to do more harm than good?”
- Emma (60, Andrews Farm, Australia)

Traditional psychology thinks of functional families as lacking conflict. A traditional psychologist might label familial strife as dysfunctional but evolution actually predicts- if not demands- a certain level of conflict within families. Every individual in a family has her or his own reproductive interests that have to interact with the reproductive interests of everyone else. A child that helps raise a younger sibling may be passing on part of her or his genes at the expense of being able to mate and pass on the whole package.
