Amrita Asked:

“My boyfriend and I study in the same college. Since it’s summer, he’s moved back home and we’re going to be apart for two months. Neither of us believes in long-distance relationships but we’re giving it a shot because we’re extremely serious about each other. It’s been two weeks since he left. We’re both pretty busy during the day and either speak or IM in the nights, Lately (through facebook posts) I’ve noticed this other girl who’s constantly flirting with him and while he doesn’t respond flirtatiously, he is extremely friendly with her. I’m not generally a possessive girlfriend and i know he would never cheat on me. Still, I ended up spying on him by logging into his account and reading their chat history. They have long conversations everyday and lately he’s begun telling her that he misses her when she’s not online and has started using some of the lines he used on me before we became official. I’ve discreetly asked him about her and he swears its all clean, but he doesnt know that I’ve read his conversations with her. He’s a great boyfriend and I know he loves me deeply and his behaviour towards me hasn’t changed at all. But now, when we talk, I secretly am very upset and we end up fighting. I’m scared because his ex and he were in a long-distance relationship that wasn’t working out when we met and really hit it off. He didn’t break up with her for me, though, they broke up for other reasons. But with us fighting I’m worried that history may just repeat itself. I know the way i’m acting just might push him away, straight into her arms but I can’t stop.
Am I being paranoid? Over-possessive? I can’t even tell him that I know about the conversations because i don’t want him to know I was spying on him. What do I do?”

- Amrita (20, Bangalore, Karnataka, India)

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Has Face book and MySpace Become the New Excuse for Couples to break up?
Social websites such as Face book and MySpace have reportedly been referenced as reasons of divorce and breakups within relationships.

•Are these sites really too blame?

•Is the accessibility of these sites too much temptation for people to handle?

•Or, are we allowing ourselves to blame our partners bad behavior on the sites rather than their level of self control?

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For those of you who have moved passed Myspace and graduated to the more sophisticated of the social networking sites (Facebook), there is a time and place for it; just like everything in life for that matter.

Status Updates- Do your friends need to know every minute of every day about what you are doing?  Do they need to know you are in the backyard, or relaxing, or just got your nails done, or are hungover?  Maybe. Do your friends constantly need to be reminded that you and “the love of your life” just bought a Christmas tree together?  If they are that amazing, how is it you are spending that time updating your status about it?  Although, I do recognize that with the Iphone and Blackberry, it is pretty convenient.  I am fortunate that in between all the silly updates, I gain some amazing knowledge from my “friends”.  And yes, all 272 of my Facebook friends are people I actually know. Ok, except for Kim Kardashian, but it is really a “fans” page. Either way, I am not deleting Kim and would like her for a “real” friend.

Do I want to find out that someone died, had a heart attack, or was in a car wreck through a status update? No, I do not; perhaps an email would be a better communication tool for such traumatic news.

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