“I’m attracted to my boss but I’m completely and utterly confused as to whether or not she is also attracted to me. Here is the brief background. She is single, with a young daughter (5 years old) and I am married with two boys (she is aware of this). Initially when I joined the company, I used to avoid her like a plague, I used to even ignore her calls. I was not at all interested in her. But lately, I find myself looking forward to going to work every morning and I am keen to come with any excuse to see her every time i go to the office. Her office is several floors above my floor. She often comes down to our floor to speak to some of the employees on our floor and every time i hear her voice, i start to panic, and I try to look my best and my heart start beating real fast and my hands become sweaty (Im really embarrassed to admit to this but I am totally attracted to her). … read more
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“I think I might be the father of her oldest son. This is what happened. Around 19 years ago I know I got a girl pregnant. I know she had the child. It was a one time thing. I didn’t step up. I wish I would have. So all these years have passed. And I still don’t know anything. Well awhile back approx 12 years ago. I met a girl through friend who liked her a lot. She told me she didn’t feel the same. Her and I started flirting. It got very hot and heavy between us. But when my friend found out about everything. She cut all ties with me. This was after she accepted intimate items from me. But we had not acted on any thing because of our friend. So she never told me why she did that. I asked her and she said she would never admit it to our friend. I took the blame. Because she was so intriguing and the feelings we had remained 3 months. My friend had a new girlfriend and it was back on between her and I. Even hotter than ever. We both let each other no exactly what we wanted. And out of no where she showed up with another guy at our friend’s house. She was obviously on a date with this guy. She had makeup on and dressed sexy.She asked me earlier in the day if I would pick something up for her. I was under the impression she was hanging out with a girl friend by what she said to me. Then she showed up like I said with the guy.She knew it hurt me. We talked about it the next day. She said he was just a friend. And said she understood why I got upset. She said she would come by and talk some more later. She didn’t come by for several days. No calls or text nothing. I tried to text a couple times and to call her one time. She avoided me exactly like she did the first time. So I knew then what was going to happen and It did. No contact for days on end.when I finally got to ask her through text how she felt about me.she said i just want to be friends like we always have. I asked what she meant by that and got no answer back. That was enough for me to tell her I could not keep doing this because I had feelings for her and seeing her with someone else was not something I needed or wanted. She had items of mine that I asked her to return. With no responses from her and 3 days later she had brought everything except the sex toys and video I left at her house. I was nice and thanked her for the stuff that she had returned. And reminded her that I wanted the personal items back. And it would upset me to think she used them thinking about another guy. Nothing even more time between us than she denied ever receiving any thing like that from a disgusting person like me. I did nothing wrong to be treated like that. And it got worse from their. She denies everything about all of it between us. I Went as far as to say that maybe I read more in to everything. iBut I needed my stuff back because it was hurting me deeply.and nothing. Why would that happen unless you hate another person so bad you set them up to hurt like that to make them pay. iNo other reasons.I think she is the girl I slept with all those years ago now. iBut I’m not sure. iHow can I find out or what can I say or do to finally no for shure. iShe holds all the secrets.can you help me make sense of any of this. iI need closer and answers she won’t say anything.Thank you and sorry about the i s at the start of every sentence. iMark”
– Mark (51, Eugene, Oregon) … read more
“I met a very charming guy on a train , he doesn’t live in the same city as I do though. I totally have a crush on him now though. I go to the city he lives in alot..I asked him for his number but he didn’t call or IMed me or anything. That was like 2 days ago ( I know I should wait more ) but I can’t because he’s leaving the city soon and I wanted to show him around. Should I IM him first ? Or would I be too sticky because after all I’m the one who asked for his number ? Please tell me what to do, I really like him and don’t want to not see him again.”
– Anne (18, Lebanon) … read more
“I have a girlfriend and one before this. Before I was with my current girlfriend, I went out with my ex-girlfriend (after we broke up) and we had oral sex on multiple occasions. It was spread out over the year and I felt extremely horrible about it and am trying to forget about it. Around 5 months into my current relationship I told her about my past. She was heartbroken and felt I lost her trust. I told her it was the last secret I had from her. However, the next day I remembered there was more to it then I remembered but we fought again and she asked us to break up. After much convincing, she said she will think about it again. However, I didnt had the courage to tell her about the part I left out for fear of her breaking up with me. Should I tell her? I know I’m young and maybe she’s not the one, but one or two years down the road and we are still together and she ask me if I had any secrets, I won’t be able to lie to her. What should I do?”
– He (17) … read more
“I’ve posted here before.
I moved in with my ex and his mother because I needed a place to stay. I dated him for 5 years, but we ended it about 3 years ago. I don’t like him at all. Those days are over.
Here’s the thing, we had sex a few times because I still think he’s cute. He still kisses me, holds me and wants to be around me all the time. He would be perfect if I liked him, but I really don’t. He’s wondering if we’re dating and I tried to tell him no, but he gets upset about it. So, I didn’t really spit the truth out. … read more
“Ok, so I have been dating this woman for 8 years now, we lived together for a couple of years, and eve moved out of town with her so she can finish her schooling, when we moved back to our home town she left me and said she wanted to see what else was out there, ok i was fine with that, so come to find out she had already been talking with another man…. Soo a couple of months have passed and they were in a relationship, and she called me and said they broke up,.. So like an idiot i went back to her, she won’t tell her parents about me, she makes up excuses not to talk to me and apparently i don’t have a sutible job making enough money,(even though i make more then 20 an hour).. So i told her if she can just tell her parents about me, and i told her i dont need her to call or text me every 5 mins, just go out of your way for me like i do for you all the time… What should i do?”
– Mike (32, Fresno, CA) … read more
“I have a beautiful but culpable love story, with no exit. We’ve been in love for almost 5 years. From the beginning, I already knew he’s married. I also knew that he’s a good husband and he loves his family a lot. But I still love him blindly. He has never taken advantage of me live other men. That’s why I love him more and more. Our affair was come to light several times, and his wife demanded us to stop it. At first, we’ve tried to break up but then everything gradually been back, we can’t help coming back with each other. Many time he ask me to find another good man and get married, so that we both will be release from this curse. But his image has fill all my heart, there’s no place for anyone else.
He’s so good with me. Sometime, I want to be selfish, I want him to be mine, only mine. But that though fades away quickly because I know I’m wrong. But I’m still not strong enough to let him out of my life.
How to make my heart stop loving and missing him everyday? Which way is the best for both of us? How to stop this extremely painful love? Please give me some advice and help me to be stronger.”
– Lillie (28, Vietnam) … read more
“So i am attracted to my female instructor in my gym.. I’ve never been interested in a female. Ever! I go to her class 6 days/wk. she is married. I don’t know why I get the feeling she may be bi.. She has shown some extra interest with me, more than with others in class. My question is how can I approach her without upsetting her to see if she would b interested in me? How do I find out if she is bi? How do I continue going to class if she shuts me down..
Thank you so much!”
– Sara (35, New Orleans) … read more
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“A guy recently broke up with me when he was busy at work. He said that he does not want to lead me on or hold me back when I can find someone else who can devote more time. He said that he enjoys going to places with me, and wished he could have spent more time with me. He wants to take a break for a couple of weeks, and after that if I’m interested we can be friends and still go to places, but as friends. He said he will contact me. This is a breakup that happened out of the blue, but he has put some thought into this. What’s your expert opinion and course of action to preserve a potential reconciliation. Of course reconciliation means changes from the old relationship.”
– Pauline (25) … read more
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