Sheila Asked:

“My fiance and I seem to have a bit of communication problem, when he does something that I dislike and talk to him about it. He makes me feel like im overeacting. But thats not the issue, on thanksgiving me and him went to a friend house and out of nowhere he was like “hey take me home very rude like in front of everyone, when the girls ask him why? He was oh u girls are having fun and im not so needs to take me home( no descretion) so feeling ambarass and disapointed I broke up with him.. So since then ive tried to call & txt him.. He has ignore every attempt I made to talk about so two weeks later he sent me a message on facebook saying whats up, I didnt respond because I didnt respond to him whitin 20 minutes he delete me of facebook.. I feel like thats childish.. All the while I attempt to try to work things out..on his only attempt he behave that way. That also make me feel like he never really truly care about us or the lifetime commitment that we talk about…what should I do if do decide to come back?”

- Sheila (28, West Palm Beach, FL)

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Nesha Asked:

“Yesterday my ex and I had a long conversation abt crossing boundaries and I had been nothing but good to him but through it all I feel I still love him even though he constantly did me wrong I need help sorting through this. Help me?”

- Nesha (23, Spartanburg, SC)

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Rawr Asked:

“I want to love him.
I dated this guy for 11 months, things on my end just started going sour in between, certain things he did just started to annoy me. Whenever I’d try to talk to him about things he’d focus on one bad thing I said and wouldn’t look at the big picture. I no longer wanted to have sex with him, sometimes I didn’t want to be around him. Eventually we broke up, I wasnt ready but he kind of forced it out of me, I couldnt honestly tell him I still wanted to be with him. I can still see a future with him its just that he’s so immature at times I can’t stand it. He also acts like he has no common sense. He’s always blaming me for his sexual frustration, we’re trying to be friends, but he’ll get mad at me and say that he doesn’t want to be friends anymore and he wont talk to me anymore and I have to talk him out of it. He acts like I have no feelings at all, I wish he was the one. He can be very sweet and would never cheat on me or abuse me, but its just his mentality that bugs me. I have all hopes out that hell be the one in the end, he just needs to grow up. Am I foolishly thinking?”

- Rawr (18, SC)

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Kristin Asked:

“My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years. We recently hit a, very rough spot. I allowed my best friend to stay with us for 5 months. My boyfriend and her became close ( not that close). My boyfriend then started breaking up with me every fight we had, this happened for the final time about 30 days ago; my best friend left and I made plans to move, home ( in turn quitting my job and dropping out of school).

I love my boyfriend and best friend. If I give my boyfriend another chance my best friend will hate me and if I don’t I could miss out on something special.”

- Kristin (22, Iowa, US)

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Tiya Asked:

“Well i dated this guy for 4 and a half years. things went smoothly for the 4 years but he started going out alot with his friends and this girl. he eventually broke up with me 6 months later so that he could be with her. it was hard but i let him go because she is what he wanted. but although he was dating her, he still kept calling and texting me to check how i am. recently he told me that they have been having some problems and that she controls him too much. it was not my place to tell him what to do with his relationship.

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Confused Asked:

“So I met this guy last july and he lives a couple towns over. We have talked on the phone and in person a lot. We both fell in love. Then I find out he has a gf still even though he said they broke up. I was upset he lied and broke my trust but he said he only did it because he didn’t want to lose me and that he was being selfish. He doesn’t want to be with her and hasn’t since we started getting serious. But he feels he can’t break up with her yet because her father JUST died. He doesn’t want to crush her anymore but I feel so bad that he’s with her. I love him and he loves me but should I wait for him or what? Idk what to do.”

- confused (16)

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SubhagatoDutta Asked:

“I am writing this mail to you in a state of great mental distress. I am 21 yrs old, a final year student of IIT Kharagpur. I have a girl friend from the age of 17. she too studies in my batch. We prepared for IITJEE together and everything was fine until 3rd year when some of my friends told me that I was wasting my youth by being after 1 girl. they said there was no harm in having online sexual relationships with other women. And I felt this was true. Before this I should mention that I studied in a boys’ school and have extreme curiosity about women and sex. So, I started talking to some girls (some I knew previously, some I got to know through friends) And to my surprise I found all of them (without knowing me or knowing very little about me) were very free to talk about sex and share their sexual experiences. I enjoy such talks a lot (especially sometimes when I am frustrated but my girlfriend is too busy with her studies- in fact this this happens a lot). I know she loves me (dont get me wrong) but sometimes it is just not possible for her to give me enough time (and its not her fault). But the problem is the above chats have happened with 3 girls and my girlfriend does not take them well. After the first incident, she became paranoid and started checking my mails. She never agrees to keep my email address personal. I have to give her password to keep her trust. She feels the fact that I do all these humiliates her, especially in front of my friends. But I feel that she is being too outdated. She feels having loose sexual morals is a negative quality but I feel promiscuity is a sign of modernity. She thinks being modern and being promiscuous are totally unrelated. I really don’t know how. She asked me to regain her trust by stopping all sort of communication with all the girls. But i could not stop communication with these girls- so could not regain her trust. I think I love her because I care for her. I give her highest priority and I do whatever I can to please her, even if she does not ask for it. I go to dates with her. We spend some good times together. She is good looking. But I think its not necessary to stop communication with other girls. She feels that she should break-up with me but I love her and dont want to lose her. She gave me a choice- a relationship with her or loose talk with those girls. I dont understand why I have to make a choice. Cant I have both? Dont you think she is over-reacting? She calls it self-respect but dont you think it is her ego?”

- SubhagatoDutta (21, Kharagpur, India)

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Hanna Asked:

“well me and my BF broke up for like 7 months now and it was hard on us i tried to forget about him and he kept on trying to get us back together but i refused ( NOT THAT I HATED HIM I JUST NEEDED SOME SPACE & TIME TO THINK IT OVER) and i kept in touch with him most of the time but he was like “No we have to get back together” .. to tell you the truth i was afraid for some family issues and college matters and i didn’t want him to get involved and stuff .. PLUS! he was having a hard time him self and he put his anger on me without noticing! many many reasons pushed me to ask for the technical break up BUT now i want him back and he refuses : he says i’m over you , though i know he’s not ! ((

I WANT HIM BACK <<<”

- Hanna (19)

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Ryan Asked:

“So… I’ve been with my girlfriend for 9 years. It was on and off for the 1st 4 years because she cheated and lied. There have been other problems the other 5 years with her chatting with other guys online. I don’t care that she chats, but these chats were clearly sexually. One instance was with a guy she met at a friends wedding. If I hadn’t found out she probably would have “hooked up” with him since she was even asking her friend about him. She always says the same thing when she gets caught… that she’s sorry and she would have never gone through with it even though she has in the past, like the 1st 4 years.

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Sush Asked:

“My story started on Jan 2010, she was working with me in my office and I liked her very much but she was just make me friend first time, but after some time on 1 day she called me after our office time and ask me to meet her in urgent, I meet her and I found something really heart breaking, she was crying and I ask what happen she told me that she was in love with 1 of our office mate and he told her that he is gating married with other girl to whom he is loving, it was heart breaking for her and me also I was never aware about that and she never told me about that, ok  Then she told me everything that night and cried so much,, that boy was never been liked by me and he just broke her heart, she told me everything because in my office I was only person who was her good friend that time because I helped her in her need,,, ok ,,
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