Sue Asked:

“My bf and I have been together 17yrs. The last 7have been great, we get along well and do love each other, we’ve been through a lot. The first 10 were not so great. My bf had upwards of 15 one night stands. Some he had sex with, others oral sex and some just making out with them. I found out about some of them and was mad and hurt and decided I wasn’t enough for him and inturn had 2 full blown affairs back in 2000, both lasted a few weeks. He only knew about one of them and was hurt and that was his reasoning for a few of the girls he was with…after 2001 I thought everything was fine between us and never thought he would cheat again…I was wrong, he had 2 other girls in 2004 and 2005…2005 I got pregnant with our son and my bf said something in him changed and he never again cheated…neither have I (I did however correspond via email in 2008 with one of my affairs, but strickly as a friend)…the past almost 7 years have been fine, we have 2 young kids and we both seemed content…

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He Asked:

“My wife shares our problems with old guy friends and she leaves the house with clothes packed and will call me later to say she is staying with her girlfriend or mom. She jumps when her sons father calls and she has the nerve to get mad at me when she has a moment I dont want to be bothered. Im fed up and am I wrong to think she is cheating whether it to be physically or socially? I feel I am 3rd on her priority list, behind her, her son then me. You cant live in my house when i pay bills, clean, etc and think im gonna sit back with this bs…”

- He (42)

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Madhu Asked:

“i broke up with my bf a year ago. He is in love with other girl too. So i left him. He is my first love.. After him i couldn’t accept anyone. Now he is contacting me with no reason. This keeps me smiling n happy. I know he is still with her, this makes me feel guilty. I don’t know what to do?”

- Madhu (19, TN)

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Oli Asked:

“how to get over lying and cheating, I just can’t stop!

I have been dating my ex for 4 years. it’s always been lol rough with daily arguments and jealousy seens. I truly loved her so we got engaged and I even came to US with her. While here I cought her 3 times trying to cheat but ultimately forgave her, finally she went over board and I had to move out a year ago.

It was really tough hahaha:) I was acting like clingy, deppendent and insecure, but soon started dating. With in One year I dated more than 30 girl, and damn I was on fire, Internet bar party friends, you name it, and so a pain started to go away ( I sound like a looser already lol ) but anyhow I made it.

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Megan Asked:

“if your boyfriend/spouse says he is NOT talking to one of his ex’s anymore, but yet this said ex, still trys to contact him ie i love you, i miss you so much, but he says he hasnt talked to her in quite sometime. i believe him to an extent but wants to write this said ex and ask her to leave him alone, is this wrong of me? or should i trust my instincts and believe that my bf isnt talking to her like he says he isnt?!”

- Megan (25, Dallas, Texas)

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Jasmine Asked:

“me and my ex have been going through this on and off type of relationship for the past four years, during the last year of our relationship he turned into this mean person i dont want to be with him, ive had my ends straw but i feel like the only way i can be happy is to talk to him, hes started rumors and believes that i have had sex with a number of guys. But i got into the relationship a virgin and still to this day its only been him. i just want to know what to do, how to prove i have been honest. My parents dont approve but my thoughts have even wondered as far as calling a talk show host to take a lie detector test so he’ll get off my back and leave my family, my friends, and myself alone. hes honestly ruined my life i want this to end, what do i do ? please help!”

- Jasmine (21, Fort Wayne, Indiana)

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Greg Asked:

“Is she cheating on me and if not, should she be? I am happily married to a great woman who I have known for over 14 years. The only real problem we have is different views about sex. We make love at best once a month – rarely more often and sometimes less, even every two or three month at times. We have discussed this and she knows I would love to be able to do it daily, but she insists that once a month is all she needs, and she almost never initiates. It has basically always been this way, with very rare periods of time as exceptions. We went on a vacation to the island she was raised on and made love every day for two weeks, but when we got home it was back to same routine. I am passionate but no stud in bed, very small cock and a quick trigger if I have not had a bottle of wine. Also have gotten somewhat out of shape over the years, but am working on that. She insists she has no problems with me physically but I find that hard to believe and wonder if she is really getting her satisfaction on the side with someone else. And if not, would an affair maybe renew her interest in sex and be good for both of us? How do I figure this out?”

- Greg (44, Brooklyn, New York)

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Amanda Asked:

“I have had these strong Intuitive thoughts for 3 years that I have known my husband. I am beginning to question his sexual preference. I met him while he was in the military and he had this friend that was very touchy towards him but he always said he didnt see it. One night particulary that I can’t get out of my head was when I was staying in the barracks with him and he left his room and went to his male buddies room. He left me and stayed gone for a total of about 2 hours. During that time I went to his buddies room and kept banging on the door and the door was locked and neither one would answer. We had not fought or anything previous. He later came back his buddy was carrying him and said he had passed out in his room. I totally didnt believe any of it but blocked it out of my mind. He continued to hang out with him, not to mention he worked with him and was in Iraq with him before I met him. I had asked him numerous times if my husband was gay or had ever done anything with him and he would always answer no. Which I truly know he wouldnt admit to it anyway giving the fact he is from a very christian home. We fought one time about it and I ended up leaving to stay with a friend and when we rode by my house I noticed this buddy was there. I never did go in, probably to scared to know if anything was happening. We later got married and he has been out of the service for 2 years now. His buddy still tries to contact him but to my knowledge they dont speak. Other friends of his that were in the military have seen the same things of how his buddy acts and believes he is gay also. Ever since he got out of the military he has not been the same. We do have an 18 month old son. I noticed after he got out, our sex life has not been the same and we are much more distant than ever. I will go some time without thinking about it but it continues to flare up in my thoughts. I can’t let it go mentally even though we have a life in a different state and have a child now. I still feel as if something is not right. His parents would die if they knew their son was gay and I feel as if im just a cover up. There are just so many little things that have happened on why I believe he is gay. Is my intuitive gut feeling right? I really need some advice on what you think. Thanks,”

- Amanda (24)

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VJS Asked:

“I’ve been married for 13 years and together with my wife for 15 years. I thought we had a wonderful relationship until recently I found some texts and Facebook postings to other Men, one happened to be her ex. I saw some hurtful postings, like “I married a nice guy but just not my type.” or he’s boring and too routine”. When I found these they were about 6 months to a year and a half old. She told me she was confused but wake up and realized what she had within our relationship was not worth throwing away and stopped. We have 2 kids. I believe that the death of my father has brought here back into loving me, but I don’t think she is still 100% in love anymore. I think she’s afraid because we have kids and she has no money or place to go. Plus doesn’t want to hurt me anymore. She has denied any affairs although i do suspect one happened or was very close to happening. We are intimate but it’s very basic. She says she loves me but there are things that make me wonder. Like one thing is I’ll find small information through one of her family members instead of her telling me. She always says sorry but we’re so busy I thought I told you. We are in a very stressful situation with having to take care of my adult brother who is blind. Plus our money is very tight also. She always says this is not how I imaged my life to be and if we ever have fights she always wants to leave. I love her dearly and losing her would mean my life is over. How do I get her to be 100% in love with me again.”

- VJS (42, New Jersey)

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Tony Asked:

“I been with my wife over 23 years we had two kids my daughter 23 and my son 17 maybe I am over reacted or jealousies she work for casino her shift end at 2am sometimes she don’t get home until 5 am she don’t answer my call I came to her work her car still in the parking lot I waiting for her to show up after an hour she pull up with her coworker she told me they went out get something to eat, after few weeks go by she enrolled in some acting class I call but no answer accidentally her phone call me I heard she was talking to some guy I was listening to there conversations when she got home I was so angry when she saw me waiting in front of the house and jelling she drove off to her sister house she never explain to me who she with but I forgive her last week I came to her work and her coworker walk her to her car and they were hugging in the parking lot when she got home I confront her but told me I am over reactions and last night there both walking out I pull up in front of them she say he just walk me out, I want to catch her in the act and find out is she really cheating or I am just too jealousy and over reacting please help what should I do?”

- Tony (43, Torrance)

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