Unknown Asked:
“i have a 9 month old son with my boyfriend that i currently live with. i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. he never says i’m pretty like he used to. he’s always sneeking into myspace. he say i’m a whore, cunt, bitch fat, ugly. he’s really jealous. he treats me really bad. he hits me at times, he grabs objects and throws them at me… he often says he wants to kill me.. but this is the thing. i have no family nor friends to turn to or live with.. so i’m stuck with him.. i go to school full time but don’t work.. i want to leave but dont know the first move… how do i get out of my situation?”
- Unknown (20)
When you are married and you are looking into either separate or to actually divorce, that’s a big step, not only for you, but for the rest of the family as well. When you have kids together, it’s even a bigger decision then if you are just married without children. You have to take look at how it will effect the kids and if they are close with both parents and such. Then you still have to talk about custody and visitation. In some cases, the other parent might not matter as much as some. Sometimes one of the parents will give in and just let the one have the kids and see them whenever they can or not at all. Other times there are going to be ugly custody hearings. Sometimes parents should agree to disagree on things and each should give a little. Either way with a divorce or a separation it’s going to be hardest on the kids. So make sure that you talk to your kids and somewhat let them know what is going on and that things will be changing and let them know that the both of you still love them unconditionally but that you two just need a break.
Traditional psychology thinks of functional families as lacking conflict. A traditional psychologist might label familial strife as dysfunctional but evolution actually predicts- if not demands- a certain level of conflict within families. Every individual in a family has her or his own reproductive interests that have to interact with the reproductive interests of everyone else. A child that helps raise a younger sibling may be passing on part of her or his genes at the expense of being able to mate and pass on the whole package.
