Comments on: Fantasizing About Someone Other Than Your Partner http://advice.lovedetour.com/smeyers/fantasizing-about-someone-other-than-your-partner.html Expert advice to get your relationships back on track Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:32:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Brandon Grittini http://advice.lovedetour.com/smeyers/fantasizing-about-someone-other-than-your-partner.html/comment-page-1#comment-103 Brandon Grittini Mon, 06 Oct 2008 14:38:14 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=539#comment-103 Dr. Seth- Nice article. I love the topic because so many people wonder if it's okay to fantasize. I think you tackled the issue nicely. To the other comment- I believe it's still cheating by bringing in a 3rd person. Are you bringing in men and women? You are disrespecting yourself and the relationship you have by breaking the intimate bond with your spouse and letting another enter into your sexual life. Dr. Seth-
Nice article. I love the topic because so many people wonder if it’s okay to fantasize. I think you tackled the issue nicely.

To the other comment-
I believe it’s still cheating by bringing in a 3rd person. Are you bringing in men and women? You are disrespecting yourself and the relationship you have by breaking the intimate bond with your spouse and letting another enter into your sexual life.

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]]> By: LoveLoveLove http://advice.lovedetour.com/smeyers/fantasizing-about-someone-other-than-your-partner.html/comment-page-1#comment-101 LoveLoveLove Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:42:02 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=539#comment-101 I understand why people may fantasize about someone other than their partner if he or she has been in a monogamous relationship with the same person for some time. However, if this fantasizing happens every time the couple makes love, I think there is a possibility that the fantasizer will eventually look to fulfill the fantasy by cheating on his or her spouse. I believe there is a solution to this that can be quite positive, fun, and satisfying for all involved. So long as husband and wife are respectful and completely honest with each other, I think opening the relationship up to include another in the lovemaking could add an element of excitement for both partners. My husband and I tried this a few months ago. There are a few ground rules. We both must be attracted to the third party and we cannot have any emotional connection to the third party. We don't go looking for a third person regularly, but the inclusion of someone new every now and then adds an element of excitement. Now, when only my husband and I make love, we are completely focused on each other and our lovemaking is more passionate then ever. Allowing ourselves to live the "fantasy" every now and then eliminates our need to fantasize. I understand why people may fantasize about someone other than their partner if he or she has been in a monogamous relationship with the same person for some time. However, if this fantasizing happens every time the couple makes love, I think there is a possibility that the fantasizer will eventually look to fulfill the fantasy by cheating on his or her spouse.
I believe there is a solution to this that can be quite positive, fun, and satisfying for all involved.
So long as husband and wife are respectful and completely honest with each other, I think opening the relationship up to include another in the lovemaking could add an element of excitement for both partners.
My husband and I tried this a few months ago.
There are a few ground rules. We both must be attracted to the third party and we cannot have any emotional connection to the third party.
We don’t go looking for a third person regularly, but the inclusion of someone new every now and then adds an element of excitement.
Now, when only my husband and I make love, we are completely focused on each other and our lovemaking is more passionate then ever.
Allowing ourselves to live the “fantasy” every now and then eliminates our need to fantasize.

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