To determine which action would suit your life, perhaps defining each of these words for you would be a good place to start.  Everyone uses these words and knows what they mean in general, but to really understand the words to apply them, requires a more in depth definition and review of them.

Dictionary.com defines each word as follow:

Resolution- a decision or determination to do something

Revelation- an instance of disclosure of something not before realized

Revolution- a sudden, complete or marked change in something or a drastic and far-reaching change in ways of thinking and behaving.

Resolution- I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions personally, but if that’s what it takes to get you to where you need to be, then go for it!!  A lot of people make such resolutions based on bad habits, such as drinking or smoking, or to lose weight or start working out.  How about a resolution to be kinder to yourself, you know, not to be so hard on yourself, or to begin a self-reflection period, so that you can heal your emotion core?  Your ability to love and be loved stems from experiences that occurred when you were a child.  So if you are having difficulty forming intimate, lasting relationships, committing to self work would make a fabulous resolution.

If you are currently in a relationship and feel compelled to make a resolution that involves your partner, it may be more beneficial to you if you just focus on you and your needs.  I realize some people make their partner their “whole world”, especially if it’s new relationship; you know, you don’t do things with your friends anymore, your emails being to pile up, you neglect your animals a little more, you don’t call your parents as often, you stop volunteering or going to your exercise classes, etc.  You could be setting yourself up for a bad situation.  Sure, you and your partner say “we’ll make it through anything or we’ll be together forever”, but you know there are no guarantees.  If you put all of your eggs in one basket, you may end up with a big bowl of scrambled mush one day.  So if you chose to implement a New Year’s resolution, make it about you and whatever YOU need.

Revelation- Perhaps you feel like there is something you need to do; that there is something or you have a “knowing” that something isn’t right.  You feel it deep inside.  Not in your head, mind you, but in your gut, in your soul. It is no easy task to figure out what that “something” is.  I have personally experienced this; most often it has been rather large “somethings”.   Through deep thought and examination at my life with such deep seeded feelings or the “knowing” feeling that I should be doing something else, I have relocated across country several times and changed jobs, effortlessly.  It has come down to the actual “revelation”; the instant disclosure of it that I didn’t know before.  It’s a magnificent experience.  It’s like a light bulb going off in your head and a weight being lifted off of your chest or a knot leaving your stomach.  If you are having such feelings, you need to find away to figure out what it is you should be doing.  You may try looking at various aspects of your life to at least narrow it down; career, relationship, friendships, family, living situation, etc.  It takes work-trust me.  It takes sitting quietly and looking at what is or isn’t working in your life.  Once you find a process to get to the “revelation”, when you have such feelings in the future, it becomes easier to achieve the “ah hah” or the “gestalt”, referring to concept of  ‘wholeness.

Revolution- This is probably the most powerful of the three possibilities to accomplish.  A complete change in how you behave, think, or change!  How intense it feels!!  To experience a revolution within your life, think about something that you know you have wanted to do, wanted to become, or something you’ve wanted to change in your life.  Do you want to change your life, your career, leave a dead relationship?  Do you want to become a doctor, a tree cutter, a teacher, or an artist?  Do you want to move to another city or another country?  Think about how you want to spend the rest of the remaining years of your life; no matter if you are in your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s or 50 plus!!!! You only have one life and remember this very moment, this very second, is your life.  So don’t waste another second of it and start your revolution!!!

Final thoughts- Whether you are in a long term relationship, newly coupled, or single, figuring out what you need for yourself, will make you a better you and thereby default a make you a better partner. And that combination, my lovely readers, will make you have a better relationship; how can you not help but be happy!!

And if you ask why should I take the advice from the author of The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide to Picking Up a Hottie-Written by a Woman Who Loves Women, my response is “because I am living life and I have had both revelations and revolutions that were life changing”.

Cheers,

Robbie Lee, author of The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide to Picking Up a Hottie-Written by a Woman Who Loves Women

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