There are key points in life that can bring happiness into your life.  The following are what I would call the “key three”.

I often ask myself this when I hear the ridiculous question or statements that people say to each other; whether it be your spouse, fiancée, mother, sister, brother, friend, etc.  You know what I am talking about too.  You just wake up, you feel horrible; perhaps coming down with the flu, you didn’t sleep well and as you walk into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee, your husband says, “Good morning. Oh, honey, you look sick”.  Hmmm, just what you wanted to hear, right???  Why couldn’t he have just said “good morning” and leave it at that??

As I go about my day, it doesn’t matter where I am; The bus ride to or from work, the elevator, waiting in line at the post office or in line waiting to pay for a cup of coffee, it is an endless parade of verbal, pointless statements.  It makes me want to scream.  I encourage all of you reading this to start being aware of this with respect to your words and encourage you to either say something worth saying or be silent.  I am not particularly religious but have studied many dogmas.   Buddhism is one of my favorites, although quite difficult to maintain the principles and doctrines living in the mainstream world.  Probably why Buddhist monks live high in the Tibetan mountains!

Practice silence- I am guilty of blurting out whatever is on my mind.  Sometimes I think it is a mild case of Tourette syndrome (an inherited disorder of the nervous system, characterized by a variable expression of unwanted movements and noises.  Make an effort to stop words and actions when possible.  Start with restraining your thoughts to comment to your partner, friend, or co-worker about something they did or said.  Refrain from commenting negatively on their looks, behavior, or attitude.  Begin to perpetuate positive energy rather than negative.  Silence can do this by stopping your negative thoughts, words, actions.

Putting “silence” into practice is not easy.  It takes conscious effort and work, but the rewards can be great.  You can create better relationships by allowing others to “be” without casting words on them.  Begin a practice of no words by consciously choosing to not commenting about anything during a given period of time.  If you slip up, just recognize it and continue; whether it is for an hour or two hours, just start doing it.  Practice on your partner, friends, family, and co-workers.

Moving toward happiness- I know we all do it. We often blame others for our lack of happiness; often expecting someone else to make us happy too.  It’s a futile path.  As the Buddhist state, happiness comes from within, not without (meaning from inside of us not from some external thing).  If you put your partner down, blame them, argue relentlessly with them because of something they are doing or not doing, you are creating your own unhappiness.   One of my favorite books, “I’d Rather Be Right Than Happy- A Perfect Formula for Failure”, by Dr. Teresa M. Benjamin, details the ideology of blaming others for your lack of happiness and how to create your own formula for happiness.

Human purpose- One theory of human existence and why we are here is to love and be loved, learn life lessons, and awaken.  That’s a whole lot of “stuff”.  To not be aware of your purpose can lead to unhappiness and discontent in everything you do.  If you constantly complain that you are unhappy with your marriage, hate your job, or despise where you live, and do not do anything about it, then you have no one to “blame” (if that’s what you are looking for) but yourself.  Often events happen to steer us in the direction that we need to go.  Instead of looking at it negatively, find the positive in an event.  These events can help you find your purpose in life.  Sometimes it may be something that you have never thought of before; just let it in.  If you are struggling and know you are suppose to be doing something else and need some help, check out Eckhart Tolle’s newest book, “A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose.   It can open your eyes to the things that you have not been able to get a handle on

Final thoughts- You have the power to be happy right at your fingers.  You can have better relationships with others and yourself if you begin to be aware of what you are doing, saying, and thinking.  No one else can make you happy.  So remember to practice silence, move towards happiness, and find your purpose; keys to your own happiness by your own doing!

Cheers,

Robbie Lee, author of The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide To Picking Up a Hottie-Written by a Woman Who Loves Women.

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