Want to know a secret? Believing in scarcity may be holding you back from getting the love you want.

How many times have you heard “There are no good men left,” “All the hot girls are taken,” “You’ll never get married after you hit 35,” or  “You’re going to be alone for the rest of your life if you don’t give me a chance?”

One big cultural myth we all face is that there is a shortage of available partners out there in the world. And when you’re single and looking to make a connection, it can be easy to forget that there are others who want to connect with you as much as you want them. It’s easy to fear that you will be left out and ‘miss the boat.’

Don’t believe the hype! There are lots of people out there who want to have fun. New love experiences are always available. There is more than enough love to go around. There are an abundance of people want to connect with you as much as you want to connect with them. Remember that many available, loving people are currently waiting for you right now.

As a matter of fact, statistics show that today there are more single people in the world than ever before. Scarcity is simply not realistic. You have the chance to pick with ease. There are more than enough potential life-mates out there and many wonderful potential partners who would love to connect with you.

And there are a lot of great ways to meet them. One way to gather your courage to interact with people in the world is to re-conceptualize socializing as a low-pressure activity. Take some of the pressure off. Many social clubs exist which are forums for low-pressure interaction. Sports teams, civic minded organizations, and spiritual or religious communities are also excellent places to meet people for conversation and activities. And of course there’s LoveDetour.com!

Another option is to pursue activities you love, areas you may be waiting to explore until that “someone special” comes into your life. I’ve seen this over and over. I had one client who wanted to sail. He got into it and was having such a great time that he almost didn’t notice two amazing women who were trying to get his attention. Smart guy—he finally got the message and is dating one of those ladies today. Another client of mine is a big fan of fine wine and she is having a great time attending social events. She even started organizing fundraisers and getting wineries to contribute pricey bottles to auction off for charity. Not only is she giving back but she tells me she’s met a whole crew of fun, single guys. Most importantly, she feels empowered and is doing something she loves.

My point is, don’t wait to do things that titillate you. Mingle, explore the world about you. Have a blast. When you take low or no-pressure action to get out into the world, you will see the abundance of healthy, warm, loving partners who are available to you.

And remember, the big secret to the hornof plenty is belief. Don’t buy what our society tells you. If you believe there are a lot of potential partners and love available on this planet, then there are. Let yourself play. Give yourself a chance to interact with an abundance of people. Not every person you meet will be a good fit for you. You may have to ‘kiss a lot of frogs.’ But every time you get out there and interact with people, you are proving to yourself that it is an abundant world. And when you trust that there are many loving individuals available for you right now, there are.

Also see article “Where are the Singles at in America”.

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