Let me ask you this; why are you single right now? Whatever the truth, the answer to this question is no small matter, and is of great ultimate consequence primarily because why you start the process of attracting and creating a healthy relationship is maybe even more important than how. It’s definitely where most of us go wrong when we first meet someone we are attracted to.

So, let’s say you are ready; your past is in check, you’re in a great relationship with yourself and are now sincerely looking to find that special someone to share your life with! Let me remind you, there are 1.45 million potential partners out there for you, so not to worry; you get to relax and enjoy the process. I know, I have been single, and even under the best circumstances it can be anxiety-producing to put yourself out there, so let’s set you up to succeed! Which is why I was to share part of my tried and true inner-view process that will help you navigate your way through the many potential dates and mates, helping steer you towards those whom you feel might be a good fit and away from those you don’t!

So here’s your mission, should you decide to accept it:
1.Remember who you are and what you want
2.Do not compromise your non-negotiables
3.Lead with your authentic self, not your seduction routine
4.Go for it!

Plan B: The Inner view
It takes time and work to get to know people, so select your candidates carefully. One way to make the initial process easier is to continue to deepen and use your inner navigational system, your intuition! Never underestimate your hunches and gut feelings; 97% of all our communication is made pre-cognitively, which also means the body NEVER lies. Learn how to trust this mechanism.

Let’s start out with a few reminders about GREAT relationships:
Love does not have a shelf life, it’s an energy field which emanates and is generated from and by you, therefore no one can give it to you or take it away.
Intimacy grows as a result of trust and respect!
Take as long as you like. You don’t get to have your first kiss twice, making love is sacred and a privilege, and taking your time to get to know a person is healthy. Waiting as long as you need will be respected by anyone truly interested in a real relationship!

Three essentials to ascertain before you give out your contact info and why;
1.Who is this person and who do you know that knows them? In this day and age keeping this boundary, at minimum, is ESSENTIAL. Do they live nearby, where do they work or shop? You need to establish some basics before you go handing out your 411 so you don’t need a 911. I always recommend that until you have firmly established someone you have never met before as a member of some community or organization ask for their name and then Google them!
2.Are they single? Many people make the mistake of thinking because someone acknowledges them, is paying attention or flirting with them, they are single. NOT ALWAYS!
3.Are they available? Just because someone isn’t married or in a committed relationship doesn’t mean they are available. They could be sleeping with someone or several other people, have a girlfriend, don’t want a relationship, are just looking for casual sex, or are simply yanking your chain.

Where do they live? Finding out if someone is GU (geographically undesirable) is important, as the average person who truly is ready for a relationship doesn’t want the added hassle of relocating, long distance relationships or the stress it brings.

Asking these questions shouldn’t be too hard—after all, what have you got to lose? Bottom line, anyone will respect you for taking care to take care of yourself. By the way, this information right here not only could help prevent you getting your heart broken, it could save your life!

Stay tuned for the next blog report which reveals the top 5 questions you should ask every man on a first date and the number-one thing you should know before you do.
For more info about Maryanne’s tv/webinar series on inner-viewing, In the Ring with Maryanne, www.maryannelive.com.

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