After reading parts 1 and 2 of this series, you are aware that it’s important to build sexual tension with women, and I discussed how to do that. Now, I want to give you some pointers on what to do when you actually are ready to make the move. Let’s get right to it.

I am going to assume that the girl has come back to your place. If that is not the case, the steps needed to make the first move will still apply. If she does come into the house, you can give her a quick tour. I like to keep something interesting in the house. A weird book, a funny TV show, something cool and unique. If you play an instrument, than that is a bonus. Women love hearing guys play an instrument. Show them anything that is a conversation piece. Of course, all of this is to take it to the next step. If you are lucky, and do everything right, you won’t have to do any of this and you will be all over each other walking into the house.

Like I said, I don’t go out with a girl on the first date looking to hook up. I think you can get too caught up in that. I believe in sexual tension and making her wonder why you haven’t made a move yet. I have waited a few dates to make moves. The girl was going nuts wondering why I hadn’t done anything yet. She thought something was wrong with her. Each date and each girl is different. As you practice more and go on more dates, you will start becoming more intuitive with women and you will know when and how you can make your first move.

A first move can often times feel uncomfortable to guys. It did to me, and quite frankly, it still can from time to time. We are afraid of rejection as men. We see it as some sort of knife to the heart of our male ego. You need to drop that.

Girls want us to make the move. They are waiting for us to make the move. To them, it is our job. Now, the great thing about making the first move is that you can do little things, get them worked up, and they will end up making the first sexual move, which will most likely be a kiss.

I like making the first move. Whether it’s on the first or second or third date, I do the necessary things to take it to the next step. I have never been turned down for a kiss, which usually is the first move. I approach it the same ways each time. The most direct way, is to look at her and tell her that it has been driving you crazy all night, and you have to kiss her. Simple, not necessarily the first choice, but the most direct, and it usually will end in a positive manner.

The second technique is to start talking about body parts. I know it might sound silly, but it works. You can tell her that she has big hands or small hands or big feet or small feet, etc. Either way, I make it sound like having small or big is somewhat unattractive. I bust on her a bit in a flirtatious way.

At that point, you are usually matching your hands up to see whose are bigger, either because she wanted to or you asked her. Don’t let this part slip by though. If she doesn’t want you to match them up, you have to do it. The slight touching begins. Slide your hand down so her hand looks way bigger. She will laugh at this or give a subtle slap and tell you that you are mean, which is all part of the process.

If that doesn’t lead into hooking up, I will give her a compliment after goofing around with her. I will say something like, “Well you do have big hands, but your hair is really pretty.” As I am saying this, I will run my hands through her hair a couple of times looking at it. I let the tension build a bit more. I will then tell her it smells good too, in a soft voice, and lean forward or to the side and smell it a bit. From there, I will kiss her on the neck a couple of times, slowly and passionately. At that point, I will slowly pull back and look at her face, making solid eye contact. Once you get to this stage, the rest is a cake walk. She wants you. All you have to do is lean in and go for the kiss.

If you want her to make the move, do all of those steps, but when you move in for the kiss, tease her. Get close, and then pull away. Move in again, and give her a small kiss and pull away again. Tease her a few times, and she will jump your bones. From there, the hooking up begins. It is best to let the sexual tension build, then explode. If you like this girl a lot, you don’t want to push it too far too quickly. Taking things slowly is always better in the long run.

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