Alright. So you’ve been on a few dates with her, and you haven’t made a move yet. That is good. Let the sexual tension build. If you read part 1 of this series, Making The First Move With Women – Build Sexual Tension, then you know that it’s very important. Creating high levels of sexual tension is going to make that first time hooking up so much more powerful, exciting, and passionate. As Napoleon Dynamite says, “That will be awwwwsome.” Well, that first time hooking up will be awwwwsome as well.

Now, there are certain things that you need to do during the first few dates that will contribute to building the sexual tension. Remember, you want to give out the vibe that you are un-needy. To do this, you want to just be yourself, and hang out with her like she’s a friend. Make jokes, goof on her a bit, goof on other people, whatever. This will allow her to feel safe and comfortable around you, which is also key in this whole process.

As hot as you find her, and as much as you want to jump on her the second you see on your dates, you need to remain calm and in control. It’s ok to tell her that she looks nice, or you like her shoes. It’s not ok to tell her that she is the hottest girl you have ever seen.

Women are used to hearing this stuff, especially beautiful women. Getting her to question herself, and what your motives are, is a very confusing and challenging state for her to be in as a woman. Women usually get what they want immediately, and if you deny this, or work around this, it will work to your advantage, build sexual tension, and make her start wanting you to like her. Guys are usually doing the chasing, but if you reverse this normal process, you will have her chasing you, which puts you in the driver’s seat. You want to be a challenge for her

There is one little key element to add here. During this whole process, you want to make physical contact every now and then. When I say physical contact I mean light touching. Every now and then, put your hand on her shoulder or over her hand when you both are laughing about something. If you are trying to get her attention and show her something, take her by the hand for a few seconds and lead her to it.

These touches become way more important and powerful to her when they don’t happen that frequently. I would say to do this 1-3 times per date, however, every date is different, and you’ll need to feel it out yourself. That number could be higher, or it could be lower. The important thing is to do it when it might not be expected. This will give it a more natural feeling as well.

So far you have learned about building sexual tension and why it’s important. You have also learned a few ways to build this sexual tension. In part 3 of this series we will get to the juicy stuff, so stay tuned….

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