Hopefully you read part 1 on GREAT TIPS FOR APPROACHING WOMEN. If you did, then please read on for more great information. If you haven’t, please read the article which you can find in my profile area.

When we left off, you saw the best way to approach a woman, and break the ice for a conversation. I feel the hardest part of trying to approach and talk to women is the initial approach. Being able to go up to her, make her feel comfortable right away, while not triggering her defense mechanisms that I have talked about before, is the hardest part. When I say the hardest part, I mean the scariest and most nerve racking. It’s like anything in life. Step one is always the hardest step to take.

So, what do you do now? What are you supposed to say? You want to say the perfect thing. You don’t want to seem nervous. You don’t want to seem silly or dumb. AHHHHH!!!! Your head feels like it’s going to spin right off your body!

Well, don’t worry because I am going to give you a few quick tips on what you should say and how you should act once you start talking to her.

1. Ask her an opinion question/gender specific question. Asking a good question normally leads to good conversation, unless you are dealing with a complete dud. I find that women love giving their opinion on any topic, especially one that involves getting a female perspective.

I’ve also realized that women love talking about sex. Guys, believe me, they are more comfortable talking about this than you realize. Try and keep up on current events that involve women and sex. These are great topics to talk about. Scandal is never a boring topic either.

You can say something like the following.

“Hey, I have a quick question for you. My friend and I were having a conversation and we would like a female point of view. Did you know that a recent poll indicated that 98% of men think they are the ones with the upper hand in a relationship? What do you think about that?”

Now, that stat isn’t even true, but it is exaggerated enough where it can really get someone worked up quickly. Most women will jump all over a statement like that, and the conversation will take off from there.

2. Remain a bit mysterious. Men try too hard to sell themselves to women right off the bat. This is a major turn-off to women, and I talked about this a bit in Part 1 of this series. There is no need to tell her every detail about yourself in the first 10 minutes. She doesn’t want to know about all your great connections and all the cool things you have with all that money that you have earned.

Instead, keep the conversation playful and light. Joke around. Continue the gender related conversations. You need to move one step at a time. Leave something to her imagination. Make her want more. This will benefit you greatly.

3. Don’t push things. If you are talking to her, and things aren’t going well in your opinion, then don’t push it. Chalk it up, and move on to the next one. If you feel like doing it, try and get her phone number. It can’t hurt at this point.

If you are sensing that things are going really well, just take it to the next level. If you are talking for a bit, end the conversation. Tell her it was nice meeting her, but you need to get back to your friends. As you’re getting up, tell her you would like to have another debate sometime on gender differences, or whatever you were talking about with her, and get her phone number.

Don’t say, “Can I have your phone number, please?” Instead, say, “What’s your phone number?” It’s far more powerful, and you are not giving her the ability to say no. She can say, I don’t want to give it to you, but she can’t simply say no.

Also, by ending the conversation, you seem independent, and not too clingy. Women respond to this type of behavior. Most men sit there and talk to her all night, trying to get into her pants the whole time. By ending the conversation a bit sooner than most, you will have her wondering and thinking about you, and that is what you want.

Lastly, remember that you just want to move forward one step. Men tend to jump forward a few steps because they’re always looking to close the deal that night. Although that works at times, I don’t suggest it as a long-term game plan.

For more information, pick up a copy of the “Dating Savant Playbook.”

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