As I said in a recent article “Getting Past Women’s Defensive Walls – The First Steps To Attracting More Women” Women put up walls as a time management tool. If they spent time on every dude that hit on them, they wouldn’t be able to leave their own homes. Because of this, it is important to have a few tricks up your sleeve that can open her up, and let you into her world. This is not always easy, and quite frankly, you will face some rejection, but it you implement these techniques, you will be light years ahead of most men.

When a guy spots an attractive lady, he tends to make some serious mistakes right off the bat. First of all, he waits way too long before he approaches her. For this story, I am going to call our guy Dan. Dan tells his friends to check out the hot blonde by the bar, and immediately 4 drunk dudes are ogling her. If he’s unlucky, she will see all 5 of them staring at her like dorks.

Dan then ponders when he should approach her, and what he should say. This is very bad. Not only are you taking too much time to talk to her, which will only make your head spin trying to think of the perfect thing to say, but you are also leaving the door open for someone else to talk to her. To make matters worse, the longer you take, the more she will see you and your friends drooling over her like dogs. If this happens, say adios to the pretty blonde.

So, what can you do to actually approach and talk to a girl and have her enjoy it and not run for the hills?

1. Approach her immediately. Don’t give yourself time to think about things, and don’t allow enough time for her to see you staring at her 25 different times. I think you should approach a woman within 5 seconds of spotting her, but absolutely no more then 10 seconds. And, if the first time you see her, she happens to be looking at you too, she will think you are extremely confident when you walk up to her so quickly. This will be a turn-on to her, which will also immediately get you one step closer to getting past her wall.

2. Approach with strong body language. Women are far more perceptive than men, and they read body language very well. Way, way better than us guys! If you walk to her with your head down looking like you just got beat up by a little boy, then you have canceled out step 1.

Walk to her with purpose. Keep your head up, looking right at her with a small smile. This smile can almost be a sly grin. If she is looking at you, do not break eye contact. If anyone is going to look away first you better make sure it is her. Stand tall with your shoulders rolled back and your chest out. Walk at a medium pace, not too fast but not too slow. A nice, cool stroll will tell her that you are in control.

3. Don’t get too close to her. When you finally get to her, don’t get too close and invade her space. This will make her really uncomfortable. A couple feet is great.

4. Don’t seek approval or use pick-up lines. If you try and seek her approval, she will think you are insecure. No woman wants an insecure man. Don’t use pick-up lines either. I can’t believe that guys are still using these dumb things. They don’t work!

5. Greet her uniquely. Going up to her, shaking her hand, introducing yourself, and asking her what her name is, is totally boring, and clumps you right in with all the other dudes that have tried to talk to her. Make yourself stand out. Be unique. You want her to experience some emotion when she meets you. This is an attractive quality. It might feel weird or awkward at first, but in the long run, and as you become more comfortable with yourself and your technique, it will pay off.

There are various things you can do. one thing you can do is go in for a “high five.” Use your left hand too. As you are giving this unique greeting, say “What’s up?” or “What’s happening?” Draw it out too. Say “Whaaaaaat’s happenin?” or “Whaaaaaat’s up?” You can add a nickname to this as well. Whatever that is. Say your unique greeting and add a piece of clothing she is wearing, or the purse she is carrying. Not only is this unique and fun, it is showing women that you are noticing details, and women appreciate this. They don’t try and look nice for nothing.

So, you can say something like “Whaaaat’s up Louis Vuitton?” or “Whaaaat’s up great shoes?”

It might sound silly to you, but it’s a far more effective opening than what women normally hear.

Please stay tuned for part 2 of GREAT TIPS FOR APPROACHING WOMEN.

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