The knowledge and skill-set needed to attract and date more women is far different than the knowledge and skill-set needed to have and nurture a serious, monogamous relationship.  When it comes to attraction, flirtation, and dating, women respond to much different techniques than what many men think.  There are a couple major elements that men need to know about when it comes to attracting women.  These elements seem small, but they make a world of difference and will have you heading in the right direction to meeting and dating more women.

First and foremost, it is important to take the shy, introverted, nice guy image, hang him upside down, shake him around a bit, and come out the other side the exact opposite man.  You want to be outgoing, playful, confident, and mysterious.  That is step one.  Now I know you might think that women want that caring, sensitive guy, but they don’t.  Save that for later.  When it comes to initial meetings, and if you are trying to pick up a woman for the first time, that stuff doesn’t work.  Believe me!

It is important to remember, men, that women are approached, hit on, whistled at, and drooled over multiple times a day.  Every single day, this happens to a woman.  It is part of their routine and part of being a female on planet Earth.  Because of this, women have built up defense mechanisms and walls to filter out the guys that have a snowball’s chance in hell, from the men that might be fun to hang out with.  Not only is this necessary to select a mate, but it is also necessary as a time management tool.  Women wouldn’t  get through a day if they had to stop and talk at length to every moron that thinks they can score with her.

Women also operate on emotion, while men operate logically.  Now I am not saying that women aren’t logical, but for the sake of argument I am going to say that they are triggered more easily by emotion, and not logic.  I think many people would agree with that.  The interesting thing about this is that it doesn’t matter what the emotion is, as long as they feel a strong emotion.  So, if you can get a strong emotion out of a woman and harness it, she is going to take notice, and remember you.  Just doing that will give you an advantage over most men.

Women are like roller-coasters, where the highs are highs and the lows are lows.  Getting them to experience these highs and lows through your actions will get her to pay attention to you immediately.  By doing this, you will not trigger her defense mechanisms, and you will get past her wall.  Getting past this wall is a huge step in being able to keep a girl interested in you.

There is another key element in attracting women, and getting past their defenses.  Men, do not, under any circumstance, approach a woman looking for her approval.  You will be shot down instantly!  Women see right past this garbage, and it is a major turn-off to them.  It is also a huge sign of insecurity, and an insecure man is the absolute last thing a woman wants.  If you take the approval approach to meeting women, you are out of the game before the game even starts.

Women are looking for confident men, who have a strong and healthy image about themselves.  This is a very, very sexy quality women find in men.  These type of men are not looking for a woman’s approval, or any one’s approval for that matter.  They create their own world, manage that world, and rarely let outside influences or distractions shake their foundation.  Women long for this type of man, whether they admit it or not.

So men, remember that women build up defense mechanisms and walls as a management tool to filter out the good men from the bad men.  Women love feeling emotions and responding to those emotions, whether they are negative or positive.  Bringing these emotions out in women will get you past their walls, which is a big first step to attraction, and it will give you an advantage over most men.  Lastly, women want secure, confident men, so never approach them looking for their approval.  This is a major sign of insecurity, and they will see right through that.

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