If you’re a guy in your early 20′s, who’s dating a girl 17 or 18, thinking it’ll last, due to the love you two share, think again. The fact is, it MIGHT last, but many times, it won’t.

I’m sure everything feels perfect. You’re happily in love, planning a future with her, she thinks you’re her dream man, you’ve been together for a couple of years, and everything seems to be going in the right direction. Things couldn’t be better. Then: disaster strikes. Let me explain. It’s NOT in the way you THINK it will. Well, not at FIRST, anyway. Because it’s not DIRECT. This disaster will happen over TIME.

The problem occurs when the woman, nearing the end of her teenage years, begins to wonder what else is out there. She’s been with you, but she hasn’t REALLY had a chance to experience LIFE yet. She wants to go out, she wants to party, she wants to drink, meet guys, go to the club, have sex, etc. No longer is she so sure that she wants to be tied down to you so young. It’s NOT that she doesn’t LOVE you, but the LURE of EXCITEMENT is just so TEMPTING, that it’s pulling her AWAY from you. Only SLOWLY at first, though. She wants to spread her wings and experience things that most young women her age eventually want to experience.

The BAD part is, YOU ARE sure of what you want. YOU don’t NEED to “see what else is out there”, because your GIRL is all that MATTERS to you. You two are in love, talking about your future together, maybe even getting engaged, so you’re not even THINKING about ending things due to some crazy desire to be single out of nowhere. YOU’RE thinking that all will go according to PLAN.

Unfortunately, that’s not normally the case. The sweet young girl you’ve been with since she was 15 or 16, is now on her way to college, being tempted by all kinds of wild things and people she’s being INTRODUCED to while THERE. She’s being influenced by everything and everyone. From her ‘slutty friends’, to the lure of frat parties and ‘sexy guys’ she’ll encounter there. Combine that with alcohol, and the situation doesn’t look good for you.

It starts off with your girlfriend trying to balance both. She probably feels that she can have fun with her friends, WITHOUT affecting the relationship. After all, she’s young, she’s in college, and she wants to enjoy her freedom during this time away from home. She’s not doing anything wrong (at least not YET). She’s just going OUT a little more. She’s MEETING people. Nothing wrong with that.

As time goes on, however, she’ll slip up. She’ll end up sleeping with a guy at a frat party, or she MIGHT even start LIKING some guy on CAMPUS. Then she’ll think “Uh oh. I made a mistake. What about my bf?” So, she’ll talk to you like things are normal, but the guilt will make her not want to talk to you as much. She won’t be available as much anymore, because she doesn’t know how to FACE you now, after the ONE slip up, OR, even WORSE, the NEW guy she’s met, and has recently become INTERESTED in.

And with YOU not BEING there, it’s the PERFECT EXCUSE for her lack of fidelity, and loss of interest. She’ll apologize, of course, but the damage is still done. You’re hurt, you’re shocked, you’re devastated. Not expecting this recent turn of events to occur AT ALL. You’re in disbelief. After all, YOU two were supposed to be building a lifetime of loving memories, not pain & hurt. How could she DO this to you? How could it HAPPEN? How could she LET it happen? How could some “new guy” just come in between you guys, when your love was so strong? Well that’s just IT. Your love WASN’T so strong. Because when it was TESTED, it BROKE.

You two were on your way to having a LIFE together. And instead, a little distance, along with a woman’s curiosity, has led to a SPLIT between you two, that, at THIS point, your girl doesn’t even WANNA repair.

So now, your whole LIFE has been turned upside down. Meanwhile, your (now EX) girl is moving on with her young life, and will eventually be hurt by one of the guys she dumped you for. It’s a continuous cycle of vicious karma that will never end.

So in the end, be careful. Because sometimes, love is just not enough, and LUST often PREVAILS.

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