It’s true. A lot of women have a “sexual waiting period” when it comes to a new guy she just met. She doesn’t want to give it up too soon, fearing he might not respect her afterward, or that maybe he’ll LEAVE her once he gets it, etc.

Now, this by ITSELF is nothing new. We ALL know women do this. Heck, you might be a woman reading this NOW who does this. Again, it’s nothing new. However, what IS new, is the information I’m going to share with you in this article. Not only is it TOTALLY DIFFERENT from everything you’ve ever thought BEFORE, but it ALSO raises some brand new QUESTIONS. So read on.

You see, even if you DO make a guy wait 2 or 3 months to have sex with you, he can EASILY be having sex with OTHER girls until YOU decide to do it, AND still DUMP you once he DOES have sex with you — IF he’s that type of GUY. (But you won’t KNOW until you TEST him…)

Consider the following…

Scenario 1: You meet a guy, and you make him wait 90 days. You develop really strong feelings for this guy by the time 90 days is up, so you’re HAPPY to finally give him your body now that he’s waited. The connection is strong, the mood is right, and the sex is fantastic. But then, he dumps you on the 91stday. How are you going to feel? Played, hurt, confused, angry, sad, and bitter. All because he USED you. Now you’ve put a HUGE WALL up for all the DECENT guys to have to break down, all due to ONE man (HIM) and a poor decision, made by YOU.

The Truth: If a guy is a user, he will BE a user no matter WHEN you give it up. Today, tomorrow, three months or ten YEARS from now. If he really wants sex that bad, he will play your waiting game, only to BEAT you at it once it’s over, and leave you looking stupid. So DON’T LET him! Instead, play it smart. Have sex when YOU’RE ready.

If you want sex with this guy after a week, HAVE IT! If you don’t, FINE! If you want to wait 3 months, WAIT! However, if you DO want sex with him, and you DELAY it to live out some silly fantasy that he’ll RESPECT you more, you’re only hurting YOURSELF in the end.

You see, if you have sex with a man too early, and he stops talking to you, you’ll be mad at yourself, saying “Ugh! I should have made him WAIT!” But in REALITY, that’s not true. Because if he’s the type of man to STOP TALKING to a girl over something as SMALL as acting on her sexual DESIRES (the same way HE did, I might add) is he REALLY the type of man you want to deal with ANYWAY? Probably not. So why deprive YOURSELF of what you want, because you’re worried about what HE’S thinking? You’re letting HIM control your ACTIONS without even REALIZING it!

Scenario 2: You make a guy wait 90 days. You want to seem respectable, and you don’t want him to leave after “getting what he wants.” So you keep him on a string so that he’ll STAY until it’s time for sex, as if that’s the ultimate prize.

(The ultimate prize SHOULD be your HEART, dear…NOT your vagina. But we’ll get to that a little later.)

In any event, the time finally comes for you to have some real good lovin’ with this man, and…he’s TERRIBLE in bed. That’s right, his stick isn’t magic, and he doesn’t know how to wave it. So NOW you’re stuck wondering IF it’ll get better, how long you’ll be able to deal with his horrible sex if it DOESN’T get better, whether you should cheat or stay faithful, whether you want to stay with the guy at ALL, and HATING the predicament you’ve now found yourself in. ALL BECAUSE, you just HAD TO WAIT, thinking it was “the best decision.” Well, maybe you should’ve taken this car out for a TEST run first…

The Truth: If you’re worried about a guy not sticking around anymore after he has sex with you, that tells me that SEX is all YOU think you have to OFFER a man. Otherwise, why would you think he’d LEAVE you AFTER sex? Don’t you have OTHER things worth staying for? Such as your MIND, or your HEART? Shouldn’t THOSE things be valued a lot more than SEX is? And if you’re saying “Yes, but men don’t CARE about those other things”, then you’re messing with the WRONG MEN. Because a REAL man will stick around even AFTER you give him sex. Why? Because he LIKES you, and is in it for MORE

Now, am I suggesting you have sex with every man you meet on the first day? Of course not!

But ask yourself this question: If your HEART is truly more precious and VALUABLE to you than a “good time in the sack”, why is SEX the thing that you WITHHOLD from men, while giving him your HEART so EASILY? Think about it…

This issue is just ONE of the many issues covered in Jason’s Love’s “Rulebook” (which can be purchased for only $5). Other issues include, how to spot a liar or a cheater before he manipulates you, how to tell the difference between a man and a boy, how to stand up to a guy who treats you badly, in a way that makes HIM feel stupid, and much more.

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