Sometimes we don’t see it until we are much older and have a clearer vision of life, but some past loves had to happen in order for us to evolve into who we are today. Even those that may have evoked thoughts of suicide, because the loss at the time was greater than we thought we could endure? Would your life really be any different today? If you were the dumpee or the dumper? A heartbreak is a loss and sometimes unimaginable to overcome, but yet we willing try again. I’ve been out for more than 25yrs; I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen from the greatest heights of love. Only to once again getting up to dust myself off and trying again, “But for another Chance at Love.”
We are creatures of habit, though we grow and change into more analytical beings the need to be loved remains the same. People can often lose themselves in a relationship, why we do it remains a mystery. It often can happen over and over again, but even with eyes wide open, we will invest ourselves with the hope that this time will be the last time. This sums up the feelings of many lesbians who have loved and lost, Yes! It happens to everyone, it is not exclusive to lesbians, but to every man, woman and child. I can respect some ladies opinions, who have been the victims of heartbreak, and become hesitant in responding to someone’s advances by not wanting to react without thinking. But without reaction, how will you gauge the possibilities for love? If it is accurate in stating that in evolving my dear ladies, that you are no longer allowing your heart to rule your head, but vice versa. Then, you will have managed to do something that remains elusive to the masses of hopeless romantics. Our heart will always yearn for the chance, our minds can over analyze the chance, but it remains inherent to every living being.
I find that you cannot live your life through other people or romantic partners, we each have our own fate, our own destiny. The connection between you and your loved ones should be one of nurturing, acceptance, unyielding support, passion and all the things that make life wonderful. Don’t get me wrong it also includes dealing with the tough issues of fidelity, over indulgence, finances, interfering friends and family, etc …I am comfortable with who I am and have come to accept myself flaws and all. But it is my passion, the emotional side of being a woman that drives me to find what I desire and perhaps my greatest weakness. I am not looking for someone who is demure or unwilling to show her independence, she should have the courage to stand up for her convictions. Have a passion for something in your life my dear reader‘s, you will be amazed at what power this gives you in your everyday journey! All these things help form the person you are today, all of your life experiences, the good, the bad and Yes, even the ugly! You should look at them as stepping stones in this life, and learn from the past to become stronger and wiser.
In closing my dear readers, I have learned that one must be strong, driven, passionate, compassionate, etc… in order to compliment our partners, family and friends. We must first find love and acceptance within ourselves in order to reach the next level of consciousness. As a person, one must have a strong lifeline so that when we meet our intended counterpart for love. The single light that we emit may then be joined with another’s light and the results become like a beacon. One’s light cannot depend on another’s, they must enhance each other and not encompass! It is something that eludes even the most diehard of romantics, for without the hope of love….we cannot dream…and a dream without hope is an endless agony…
In writing these stories, I hope to honor the ladies; I’ve loved and lost as well as recalling memories and experiences that can happen to us, when we are looking for love. Who knows, it might just conjure up memories that warm your heart or inspire dreams of the future… So the honors belong to my hopeless romantic spirit…”Hello Ms. Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!”
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