How many times have you thought you were very clear in telling your partner your feelings only to find out later, usually in an argument, that you were misunderstood? Often our response in those situations are: “Oh come on, you know what I meant”.

No, your partner did not know what you meant, they only know what you said.
Because if your partner knew what you really meant, as opposed to what you actually said, you wouldn’t be having this argument now, would you?

This is because time and time again, couples do not SAY WHAT THEY MEAN AND MEAN WHAT THEY SAY when they communicate with each other. When did we start assuming that our partner knows what we mean when we haven’t, in fact, said what we mean? Isn’t this just crazy? We all know, no one has a crystal ball to our thoughts, and feelings, but when it comes to our relationships, we throw common sense out the window and it is never to be seen from again! It is the silliest thing to just assume our partner knows what we meant to say – even though we admit that we didn’t say what we meant!!!

So, in order to SAY WHAT WE MEAN AND MEAN WHAT WE SAY, we must be able to speak with each other when both of us are listening. Give each other your undivided attention. This isn’t so hard to do today even with all the multi-tasking that goes on in our lives – we just need to prioritize and put our relationship first at certain times in our lives.

So, we need to take a moment or two to think about what we want to say, and actually communicate the message we want to send our partner, making sure our meaning is crystal clear. Remember, it is absolutely worth the time and effort it takes to SAY WHAT WE MEAN AND MEAN WHAT WE SAY since it is a widely known fact that people who are in happy RELATIONSHIPS have increased romance, more intimacy, better sex, are more successful, make and save more money and live a healthier and more fulfilled lifestyles. Check out my free relationship advice ezine & blog at www.relationshiptoolbox.com & www.relationshiptoolbox.com/blog for more communciation tips and techniques for increasing romance & happiness in your relationship.

Building Together A Relationship Filled With Love, Health & Wealth,

Dr. Patty Ann
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