Remember that old song that goes something like this: “you’ve lost that loving feeling now it’s gone, gone, gone and I can’t go on”. Well don’t you worry. I am going to help you get back that loving feeling with Dr. Patty Ann’s 3 Secrets for increasing intimacy in your relationship.

1. Take back your relationship. What I mean by this is you need to make your relationship the first priority in your life. The kids, the job, the garbage being taken out and the laundry can all wait. Take back your relationship by making time for it and letting everything else wait. The kids, the job, the garbage and the laundry will not disappear if you don’t attend to them immediately. Believe me, I have tried and no matter how hard I try, these responsibilities do not disappear if I ignore them. In my experience, they actually tend to multiply if I ignore them for awhile. (But that is a topic for another day.). Your relationship however, may not always be waiting for you if you are always giving it a back seat to other responsibilities in your life. Common sense dictates the more time you spend with each other, the greater your chances are for re-establishing the intimacy you once had in your relationship. You will be surprised how far a little bit of time spent alone together will go towards increasing intimacy in your relationship.

2. Little things mean a lot. Intimacy will come roaring back into your relationship if you perform little acts of kindness for your partner. For example, rub your partner’s feet or give him/her a massage – without them asking. Bring them coffee in bed or write them an early morning steamy email (who wouldn’t want to start their work day with an emai l subject re: “hey you sexy thing”). Bring it on!

3. If you are even thinking of having an intimate steamy sexual evening, you would do well to remember foreplay starts first thing in the morning. Confused? Let me clarify. Sexual intimacy starts with emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy starts with being nice to your partner way before the first sexual thought enters your mind. If you wake up grumpy and start complaining about “whatever” to your partner – you are not exactly starting the day off on the right foot; especially if you are hoping to have them in “the mood” off their feet in the evening. Starting your day off being nice to your partner increases your chances for ending your night in a nice way too. It’s not that hard.

Intimacy is an integral part of a healthy happy and romantic relationship. Before your relationship engages in sexual intimacy, it requires emotional intimacy first. The more you have of one, the more you will have of the other. Sounds like a win-win to me.

Building Together A Relationship Filled With Love, Health & Wealth,

Dr. Patty Ann
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