All relationships require some effort and creativity to keep your s-e-x life fired up. Many couples make the mistake of focusing on the frequency, or lack thereof, of the sex in their relationship. This approach will get you no more sex in your relationship than talking about money will actually get you money.

The key for re-igniting your sex life is to focus on the intimacy in your relationship and the sex will come. Concentrate on improving the intimacy in your relationship and the sensual aspect of your relationship will naturally be re-ignited. Relationships that have sensual closeness experience increased intimacy. These are the emotions that act as a spark needed to re-ignite the feelings that connect us to our partner. These sparks are the connections that lead to the firing up of our sex life in our relationship. Without these sparks our sex life crumbles to ashes, taking our relationship with them.

So how do you re-ignite the intimacy in your relationship?

* Take time out for each other. It is essential that you take time out for your relationship as a couple. Schedule a date if you have to, just like you would schedule a haircut or dental appointment. This may sound silly but in today’s world of multi-tasking activities where every minute is accounted for, if you don’t schedule time for your relationship, you won’t have any time for it. And eventually, you won’t have a relationship at all.

* Next, focus on the physical act of touching, not the sexual act. The act of touching is very sensual and fosters an intimate feeling of one-ness. This feeling creates an invisible, seamless transition into foreplay. Take it from there without any expectations. Go with the flow and see where you end up.

* Throw away all your beliefs on how and where you should you have sex. Be open, playful and creative. Create your own unique sexual moments. Try the laundry room or the basement. Role play or talk dirty while making sure your partner is comfortable in the intimate environment you create for each other.

* Finally, be accepting and non-judgmental of where your partner is sexually. Remember, it is the intimacy and sensual closeness you are striving for in your relationship, the sexual act is merely an emotional bonus of this intimacy. Don’t jeopardize a sensual moment with criticism or judgments of any kind.

Does this require a little bit of work? Sure, but the fruits of your labor is sure to fire up your s-e-x life, creating greater intimacy and better sex that will strengthen your relationship for Building Together a Relationship Filled with Love, Health & Wealth.

Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,

Dr. Patty Ann
www.relationshiptoolbox.com

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