You are unhappy in your relationship. You spend all your time telling anyone who will listen just how unhappy you really are. You have immersed yourself in the “unlucky in love” club.  Newsflash – if you continue to think about your relationship in these negative terms and emotions, that is exactly what you will continue to have, unhappiness and lack of love and romance in your relationship.

 What I am referring to is how a negative mindset gets in the way of the relationship you want and deserve.  The romance and intimacy needed for the relationship you want has been sidelined and replaced with a never-ending vision and belief in an unhappy relationship where your thoughts, energies and feelings are wrapped up in a tangled knot of ugly emotions and negativity which make up your current mindset.

So how does this work? Let’s say you walk into your home after a very long day at work. As you enter the living room you notice a pillow has slipped off the couch and is lying on the floor.  Your partner enters the room a short time later.  You immediately begin to complain about the pillow on the floor, demanding to know why it isn’t on the couch where it belongs. What you failed to notice; however, because you were so caught up with the whole pillow scenario, is the excitement on your partner’s face as they entered the room.  How could you have missed this excited look?  The look which revealed they just made your favorite dinner because they wanted to tell you about a promotion they received that day? The answer lies in your mindset.  Your mindset about your relationship is so negative that negativity is all you see – before you have even seen anything!

What this example illustrates is how our mindset influences everything we see, do, think and feel about our life – this includes our relationship.  Even a positive experience is adversely influenced by our mindset. This is because our mindset does not allow us to experience anything that contradicts it. It really is amazing to understand how your mindset influences everything you see, do, feel and think. You see how damaging the wrong mindset is for a happy, healthy relationship?

What to do to create the relationship you want and deserve?  Create a positive mindset about how you want your relationship to be.  Focus on the positive aspects your partner brings to your relationship. Begin to let go of the negativity.  Be open to the change necessary for the creation and maintenance of a healthy mindset.  This will create great inroads for creating the mindset you need for the relationship you want and deserve.  I have written an entire section on how to create the mindset for the relationship you want and deserve in my ebook titled; “The 3 Most Effective Ways to Increase Romance & Happiness in Your Relationship” but what I have just described is a great beginning.

 Go with the positive to create a mindset that designs and delivers the relationship you want and deserve.

 Building Together a Relationship Filled With Love, Health & Wealth,

Dr. Patty Ann

www.relationshiptoolbox.com

www.relationshiptoolbox.com/blog

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