What is fear? Why do we have fear? Is fear what keeps us from accomplishing what we want? These are all great questions and this is certainly something that all human beings would benefit greatly from if they toot the time to become aware and understand how fear works.

Fear actually doesn’t exist, in fact, nothing really exists, everything is made up in language and we have given meaning to just about everything because that’s what we do as human beings. We are meaning making machines. The first part to becoming a conscious, aware and peaceful human being is to be aware and understand that there is no meaning to life that everything is energy, all things are connected, and you are everything and nothing. This is confronting for the ego to hear at first, because its main job is to occur as real and exist, the little ‘me’, the voice/citric inside of us all. It is factual that all you are is an energy field, and if you put your hand underneath a strong enough microscope you would see energy moving. If the sun were to blow up today, the earth and everything we see is real and has matter would become dust. So one must first understand who we really are and who we really aren’t, all the views and opinions you have about you, your personality, your life, others, views on things, are just points of view, and not the truth. There is no truth, because it is all made up inside of language. So if there is no truth, and everything is a point of view, and all we are is an energy field, then why do we see things around us and they look real? Because this is the illusion around us, this is how powerful our mind is, and the reality bubble that we exist in. Everything feels real that we touch, but in fact, nothing ever touches, it is energy vibrations rubbing up against each other. This is the mystery of life, when people become aware of this; their mind/ego gets confronted as it is challenging everything it has ever known. Some people will not accept it or embrace it, and that is the ego inside them doesn’t want to let go of its attachment and existence. The catch 22 of this is that this is the gateway to true peace, connectedness, and fulfillment. Once we become aware and understand of this, then we can start to create games in the world, get on the court by getting past the barriers that once stopped us which came from our ego, and create profound and extraordinary results in life.

Getting on the court is something you will hear often in my book. It’s like getting ‘in the game’ with whatever you want to achieve. So if it is a relationship, the game you would create is something like going out on two dates a week, having conversations with 5 people a week and your intention is to at least of 2 say yes. Now of course, the game is made up by you and you get to say.  This is getting on the court, this is playing the game. I have listened to clients and friends who say they want a certain thing in life and then they are not in action around it. That is because they are not actually on the court and playing a game. This can be applied with anything, if it is a company you want to start, you create and make up the game, start having conversations and track your results. We will go into this in detail later but this is how you start to really cause and create the life you truly want, in any area.

Now is getting on the court confronting for people? Absolutely it can be.

Being on the court could be scary and nervous at times, because fear will come up, barriers that get in the way.  These are just chemicals coming up in the brain in the form of thoughts, which before you thought your thoughts and voice in your head was you. Now you know, those are not you, your inner voice has a job to keep you safe and playing small and it is VERY clever.  One of your jobs in life is to get really close with that voice in your head, understand it, understand its patterns, how it takes you out, the tricks it pulls, the nasty things it does, all of it. Once you can understand your ego and the way it has been programmed, you will start to have power of it and it will diminish. Have you ever heard the expression, people get in their own way? This is a perfect example, you get in your own way, except that it isn’t you, because the ‘you’ doesn’t really exist, it is the ego which thinks it is you that gets in your own way.

So what is fear? Fear are just chemicals, neural peptides that fire off in your body, it has your heart beat different, emotions that you can sense, and thoughts in the sound of your voice that tell you what you should and shouldn’t do. Once you can understand and accept that those thoughts, emotions and body reactions aren’t you, you can just be aware of those sensations your body is feeling. When you go up that person you want to talk to, or speak to a crowd, or start your business or whatever situation you are in where you are on the court and taking action. Remember, your mind’s job is to keep you playing small and staying safe. It is a survival mechanism and that’s its job, survival. Your subconscious doesn’t know the difference between what’s right and wrong, good and bad, anytime you are on the court and in action, doing something in the unknown and taking a risk, the subconscious thinks you’re about to die and DOES everything in its power to stop you! This is not a bad thing; it is just what so is. Your job is to identify it, understand its tricks, and the way it works. It is also helpful too, if I lion was chasing you, you would run and that is the part it can help and support you. But when it comes to getting on the court of life with the things you want, it thinks the same way, this is what it is powerful and a must to understand and be aware of the human condition we are all born into.

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