If you feel like your relationship is in trouble and would like some help then read on – I’m going to take some time to help a few of you to get where you want to be!

This is a chance for a few readers to fix the problems they’re having but it is NOT a chance for a few readers to vent about their problems.  I don’t even care what your problems are (not even a little bit), I only care if you’re interested in fixing them.  So even though I need to hear each of your specifics I’m going to take a whack at what your problems are…

I’ve heard it before…It was going so good!  You had so many things in common that it seemed you could have fun together for the rest of time!  Sex was full of passion and time seemed to fly by!

But not so much anymore…

I love to hear this story because it’s really easy to fix if you, the guy, are willing to make some changes.  And before you ask, no, she doesn’t have to make any changes…it’s all your fault.  Well, 90% and if 90% is broken then the whole damn thing is broken.  Ladies, you have it the worst because there’s little you can do but hope your guy likes you AND figures out that what he’s doing isn’t right AND has access to the answers!

Back to the problem –

Guys, this is going to require that you make a fundamental change in the way you think about yourself and the way you interact with women in particular.  So, if you think you’re fine the way you are then just stop reading, I’m not going to be able to help you.

But before I listen to your sordid details (which you will email to me) I’m going to create a list of items that you must have or be willing to obtain before you can participate.  I don’t care if you’re tight for money right now…if you don’t think you are important enough to take care of then how can I help you?

Item #1 – A mini tape recorder – I need you to record your conversations so you can transcribe them to me exactly or upload them for me.  This way we can both tell what kind of progress you are making, if any.  If you won’t change I want to know as soon as possible so I can fire you.   And no, you can’t just repeat your conversations from memory because you have a filter (it’s part of why you’re not as good with women as you’d like to be) and I can’t help if I’m not hearing exactly what’s coming out of your mouth and the context it’s coming out in!

Item #2 – Notebook – You’re going to have to make some tough evaluations that are going to help you change into someone your spouse is going to love being around.  We’ll write them down here so you can see the change you’re going through.

Item #3 – Digital Camera – I need to see you, the items you buy and the changes you make.  I’m sure I don’t have to explain.  Your phone camera is fine.

Item #4 – Money (to spend!) – At least $100.00.  You’re going to need a few things but if you’re short on cash I can tell you the cheapest way to get a hold of the items you’re going to need.  I’m not going to get into the specifics of what you’ll be getting but there’s a 90% chance that you’re not going to already have any of them so don’t bother bringing it up.

Done!

If you can do that (and I can give you a week or two to round it all up) then you can get to the matter at hand.

This is what you’re going to email me…

A synopsis telling me the following things…

1.  a physical description of yourself and a number evaluation from 1 to 10 (ten being the best)

2.  a description of your job and a 1 to 10 eval vs. all other jobs (in your opinion)

3.  what kind of car do you drive (make, model, year, etc.)

4.  describe your neighborhood and eval 1 to 10

5.  how much spending cash do you have per week?

6.  how easy or hard it is for you to talk to women/strangers (and 1-10)

7.  how would your peers describe you (and 1-10)

8.  an example of a conversation that shows the problem between you and her in this format:

You:  Go to the store

Her:  No

You: please.

[You start begging.  She rolls her eyes.]

Her:  No

9. What you would like to happen.

10. Tell me if you are willing to change how you think about yourself and how you think about women.

Email me at SuperSelective@gmail.com with the headline:  I want to make a change!

About the Author: Dan Hitt has travelled the world looking for life’s mysteries and secrets.  He’s been to film school, taught English in Japan, been thrown in jail in several countries, and walked some of the dark roads of life.  He’s known mesmerizing women and total, abject despair.  He loves the smell of fresh rain and the touch of a kindred soul.

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