Do you know the difference?

Making love is the act of having sex that involves a certain level of intimacy and emotion. Raw sex is the act of having wild, passionate, uninhibited, animalistic sex, while not introducing a lot of “heart” emotion or emotions triggered by thought. Raw sex can be really hot. Although once the act of raw sex is over, emotions may sweep in and take you over. If you are in a committed relationship or exclusively dating, having both at different times is a great way to keep your sex life interesting.

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When in a relationship, sometimes (god forbid), the fire begins to die. The flames turn to small embers and steamy nights turn into TV show marathons. I can’t tell you how many times my coupled friends come to me for advice about how to spice up their relationships. I say, it’s all in the sex.

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Are you feeling the effects of the current economy? Is your relationship suffering because of it? Well don’t despair….there are things that you can do.

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Part One: Choosing the Restaurant

Lets be honest. A restaurant really is not the ideal place to have a first date. The anxiety of choosing the right restaurant, “will he judge me if I order a salad?”, dropping a spicy meatball on your chinos, “I hate this dish, should I complain?”, and the elephant at the table when the check arrives. But despite all of this, people continue to go “food on first”. Despite its potential for awkwardness, the restaurant is a fine filter for seeing if your date has what it takes to make it to the second date, which may also be at a restaurant.

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Your anniversary is approaching and you have no idea what to get for your significant other. You look for hints of things that they have mentioned but still the time is creeping closer and you haven’t found a thing. There are always items that a man or woman need but I find it much more pleasing to take the other approach and find something they have been wanting, something that is not a necessity, but something that will bring an endless smile to their face.

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1) Romance Never Goes Out of Style:

Celebrate and nurture your love with romance.  Surprise your partner with the classic romantic evening that never goes out of style.  Light some candles, put on sensual mood setting music, open a bottle of wine.  Order out or cook up your partner’s favorite meal.  Turn off the TV, the cell phones, the computers.  Just take the time to focus completely on each other.  Gaze into each others’ eyes, talk and listen – fall in love again!

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Do you ever flirt with people you find attractive? What if someone flirts with you? Does it make you embarrassed, happy, or aroused?

Flirting is a great way to open the door to a potential relationship or reignite the passion in an existing one but flirting is not to be taken seriously. Flirtation means to act amorously without having serious intentions. Flirtation is light, fun, and playful. The idea of flirtation is that it is a trifle. You certainly may know how to flirt. You may even be quite good at it; however, it can be easy to take flirtations very seriously and put too much emphasis on it. And that can stop flirting from being good for you.

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The song, “Business Time,” from the HBO show Flight of the Conchords is one of the funniest representations of coupled sexual communication around. She says, “I’m going upstairs to bed because I have work in the morning,” which he interprets as, “Come up and make love” because, well, it’s Wednesday, and they always have sex on Wednesdays.

The song isn’t too far off from the way many real couples communicate, or rather, think they communicate. As playwright George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

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Ah romance. Just the mention of the word stirs the soul. Most of us want more romance in our lives. But we do tend to leave it to the other person, and then we get upset when they don’t do what we’ve telepathically told them to do. Why not try to take romance into your own hands? Here are a few easy and low cost ways to add romance to your life.

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I’m not going to bore you by going on and on about gas prices, and how the cost of everything else has gone up because of gas prices. You know as well as I do: we are living in difficult economic times. That doesn’t mean that your relationship has to suffer just because your paycheck is stretched so far that it’s begging for mercy. Dating and relationships always require a little creativity to keep the fire lit, and now is no exception.

This may require some alterations to your thinking. First, consider your priorities and what you really like doing. If there’s something that you and your spouse or significant other really enjoy doing and don’t want to give up (say, concerts or baseball games), see where you can save money doing that activity, such as eating at home before the game instead of having $5.00 hot dogs, and cut expenditures on everything else you do together.

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