Steve Asked:

“after 24 years of marriage my wife says she loves me but not in love with me..she says she lost her passion with me ,but we have simply worked out things before with no problems.we have currently quit smoking, were on a diet,she is going through menopause so alot is going on .we have 2 grown children 20 and 22 .what brought this all up was she recently started playing a online poker game and i was feeling left out of her life .she was telling me guys were giving her comments on there that were inappropriate ,it made me mad..she said she told them she was married..anyway weeks went by and i started feeling i needed to say something to her .well i did and boy was that a curve ball i told her i felt something was wrong and she said she felt the same only she said she loved me but not in love any more and she thought we might just need a divorce,really broke my heart..but we talked and we agreed to try and make it work .well 3 or 4 weeks went by and i still felt like we were getting no were ,knowing its going to take time i feilt we needed another talk just yesterday and more was said ,she says she feels like she might not get any feelings back for me ,but she has this anger wall up,because she tried to be passionate with me a couple of months ago and she said i shut her down when i didnt do that i simply didnt know how to take it .. thats all. belive me i loved it and i have always wanted to be more passionate with her in the passed but she has always went on telling everyone including me ,that our marriage was the best so i thought dont do to much she might get smotherd .and look were its brought me ..i am a good man a good provider never cheated dont drink dont hit her dont do anything except for my family i am tottaly commited to my vows. when this happend i said we need a councilor and she said we should be able to fix this with out one ,but she would if needed,but i dont want to keep waiting till its to late ,in saturdays talk with her i said we needed it again maybe even a sex therapist and she said maybe ,but i dont want her to do this cause i want too.im so lost and so heart broken ..shes even said she would be better off alone and that i deserved better when this went down ..this is not my wife talking ..please someone help me i dont want to lose her i love her so much..and she even says she thinks i just love her for other reasons and not for her heart ..shes never talked to me like this.we even took chantix to help quit somking and we quit that cause we thought thats why we felt like this along with her menopause please feel free to ask any questions i need help i am sad and depressed everyday and im trying not to show it..thanks for all help.”

- Steve (42)

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Issac Asked:

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“Girlfriend and I just broke up out of the blue. She is telling people its because I couldn’t communitcate. I’ve always been shy and quiet and she has known me for many years. We have dated twice now and she says she’s ended it both times because of communication. We were looking at houses together and planning our future together then two days later broke up. She tells people that she loves me, misses me and is sad after we broke up. Its confusing. Now she tells people that she needs time. Im lost. I love this girl with all my heart. She has two kids who have never met their dads. I’ve been around them since birth so they know me as dad. She said she caught me doing something that her ex husband did before he started cheating on her. I never did what she was accusing me of. I’ve never and would never lie to this girl. Could her past make her scared to have a future with me. Do I give it time or look for something else. Any advice is appreciated.”

- Issac (26, U.S)

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Chiru Asked:

“I married a Divorced girl (Six years older than me i know that after marrige )without inform my parents due to (in this time i am in love with her past 2 years) her sickness after one year my wife does not trust me dont give me any respect in front her parents, we are fighting each other even some times we dont talk each other 3 to 4 days. Also she compare with her Ex husband( her Ex husband has died 3 months ago) at this time what shuld i do? I can not take decession.Please help me.”

- Chiru (26, India)

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Jessica Asked:

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“um a teenage recently married* (secretly) but now my family members knows they support my decision but thts not the problem the problem is that my hubby comes from a conservative family and i come from an free style family so there r simple differences like um an friendly person so i mix with everyone quite well and he hates that so i left all my friends but there are certain times when i really wanna talk to him bout my feelings but he is not that of a hearing person so if i call any of my male friends he yells at me and i love him beyond the limits and am afraid to lose him so i keep quite and accept my faults…. help me plz getting rid of his doubts…..”

- Jessica (1 6, Topkhana, Dhaka, Bangladesh)

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Sneha Asked:

“Hi, I am suffering from jealousy and have tried a lot to overcome it. please advice me what to do? my problem is that i dont like my sister-in-law(my husband’s brother wife) and whenever my husband talks about her i feel angry. actually my husband likes her a lot and every moment he talks of her. when i cook something he reminds me ” oh is it not like that bhabhi made earlier”. he always give an example of her and at every work he remember her. ok i know that she is good in home work but i know very well that he is a dual character women. so i want to face this problem. so please advice me what to do when my husband talks about her. Everytime i get angry at my husband when he talks about her and after something i realize that i should not be like that. please suggest something to get rid of this.”

- Sneha (23, India)

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Tayla Asked:

“Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend 2 year’s, I love him lot’s but I’ve started to become really obsessed, when I’m not with him I’m worried if his getting into trouble with his friend’s, doing something he shouldn’t be. I’m constantly on his case ringing or texting him making sure his okay etc I don’t no what to do, I cry every night I don’t see him. I just love him and enjoy his company, theirfore I want to be with him 24 /7, but I can’t have that .”

- Tayla (18, Kent)

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Mitch Asked:

“I saw you reply to somebody with relationship troubles on an internet site, and just wondered if you could give me any help at all as I don’t know what to do.
A few months ago I am very ashamed to admit I took a video of my girlfriend of 3 months while she was getting ready. Whilst snooping on my laptop she found this video (which was in my recycle bin as I thought I had deleted it) and another of me and a friend watching a female dancer. She indirectly confronted me about videoing her and I lied saying I would never do something like that. (big mistake I know, but I didn’t want to lose her).
Since then she has directly confronted me and I told the truth, however she is naturally very hurt and finding it hard to trust me. She has very little confidence in herself and I want nothing more than for her to trust me so I can try and make her happy like we were before this.
I really love this girl with all my heart, I cry nearly every day knowing she doesn’t trust me any more, and I really don’t want to lose what we have got.
Can you offer any advice at all? It would be very much appreciated.

Thanks”

- Mitch (20, England)

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Cody Asked:

“My girl and I get along great and we have a lot in common. We have been together for a year and I am madly in love with her but I have a problem. She is a little too much tomboy. Sometimes Id like it if she would call me baby or say she likes the things I do or act like she appreciates me instead of just expecting me to already know that. What do i do to encourage the girly side of her.”

- Cody (23, Wisconsin)

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To put it simply, divorce is never easy. Whatever the cause, if you choose to get out of the relationship or it came as a surprise, the end to a significant committed relationship can be a jarring experience that creates all kinds of negative emotions. However, there are ways to get through such a painful part of life. Even in this period of mourning and stress, it is an opportunity to learn and grow and to become stronger and wiser.

The Pain of Divorce

Divorce can be a painful process because it creates a sense of loss, either in the sense of losing a relationship, commitment or dreams. Even if it was a bad relationship, a marriage is founded on romantic love and hope for the future. The loss of such an ideal can create feelings of disappointment, guilt, and grief.

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David Asked:

“I broke up with my G/F about 8 weeks ago. she said she need a bit of space. and just wanted to be friends, I took it and tried playing it slow for about 4 weeks 1 letter a few text, then I phoned her. I started to grovel even cry, she just got angrier then I said i would wait even if she went out with other. she hang up and said to friend Im not a whore” In panic tried about 23 times to text and ring her shit nothing but friend text me hey stop now. So i did have spoken to friend twice since but she advised me to move on. I even tried a fake date text to her eg (Sent to her phone) Yes dinner at 7pm sounds nice (another girls name but starting with same letter) Nothihng HELP I REALLY LOVE THIS LADY AND WANT HER BACK
Thanks David”

- David (46, Longreach, QLD, Australia)

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