Amy Asked Relationship Experts:

“Why does my ex boyfriend keep breaking up with me and then want to get back together after we apart for 6 weeks? he is handsome and could find another woman to have sex with easily. When we are in the relationship he seems unhappy. he ended it 3 times, I do not contact him at all while we a re separated and do not expect to reunite. but he always calls 6 weeks after we break up? whenever we reunite, he never has a good reason for why he broke up with me in the first place? only on one breakup did he admit to having sex with another woman. So what do you think?”

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She Asked Relationship Experts:

“I met this guy at school and we have been talking for about two months. We hang out every weekend, he told me that he liked me one day and said that he thinks he is falling for me and that im different. But he has a girlfriend. He cheated on her with me, he kissed me and we had intercourse. I feel after that that we don’t talk that much now. Everyone in school thinks we’re dating since we are always together. I really do like him but i feel like he’s just playing me. He’ll ask me when we are getting married and then say he’s not sure how long him and his girlfriend will last. Should i wait for him?”

- She (18, Lumberton, TX) … read more

Jewels Asked Relationship Experts:

“My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and he still constantly accusing me of having other guys on the side. I have never cheated on him and will never but he says since his exes have all cheated on him that i will too. He recently got a new job over nights and he thinks i have guys over all night or stay up all night talking to guys. Theres no trust and it hurts me when he accuses me. Ive talked to him about it and he says he will change but he never does. Should i leave and cut ties or is there a way i can show him that he is my one an only??”

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Chelsea Asked Relationship Experts:

“My ex boyfriend and I met in October and instantly hit off and started dating on November 7th 2010 (he flew to Japan from California. He left his long-distance girlfriend for me). He was 16 and I was 17 at the moment. We were shy in the beginning but we always wanted to be together. We were each other’s first everything and we lost our virginity to each other. We talked all night until 5am or until we both fell asleep, we met each other at least 3 times a week, we called each other “baby”, told each other how much we loved him/her, we both met each other’s family and friends, and literally everybody knew about us. We had our relationship status public with a profile picture of both of us on Facebook. Everything felt SO perfect that we were both afraid to lose each other and at the same time thought that we were too good for each other. We fought and argued a lot, revealed our secrets, we cried, we laughed, we were jealous, etc. Just being with each other (taking a nap was our favorite thing to do) was amazing for almost a year. Then, a week before our 1 year anniversary, he got drunk at a tennis away-game party (way far from where I lived), a girl took advantage of him, and he ended up snuggling + kissing her forehead on the bed at 4am in the dark. He felt emotionally connected with her, too. It doesn’t sound like much, but I was hurt. When I met him before he confessed, he was crying alone and hugged me tightly whilst apologizing. We both went to school the next day with puffy eyes because we cried all night together. Everybody at school told me that he was literally dead at school…and some jerks were making fun of him (he even started crying when he tried to explain what had happened to his friends). We tried to work things out, but it was hard. I lost trust in him and he felt guilty. I couldn’t get over the incident so I told him that he could go to parties as long as I was there, but that didn’t help the case. We fought a lot more seriously and we started to get annoyed with each other. 4 months of fighting, he gradually drifted away (stopped calling me, texting me, got annoyed with me, etc.). I could tell on Twitter that he became friends with my classmates (through tennis), and he got really close with one of them. I could tell he changed a bit, too, like he became less passionate and became a guy who “acted” cool. Then finally, he told me that he was “confused”. Then “I can’t do long-distance for college”. Then “You’re like a sister to me”. Then… “I’m not in love with you anymore”. He still got jealous though, like he got angry when I was drunk and slept on my guy friend’s knees. My ex stared at me from the other side of the room at a bar. He bought my dinner. He still wanted to talk to me and was curious on how my day went. You could tell that he didn’t fully move on yet and he was trying. He always denied the fact that he was hanging out with my classmate and told me the reason for the break up was because he couldn’t do long-distance.  … read more

Symone Asked:

“I cheated on my boyfriend of two yrs. I’ve always been a private person but now he thinks it’s ok for him to check my phone for texts/calls for exchanges between me and the man I cheated on him with. I regret what I did and want to gain his trust back so should I continue to let him check my phone?”

- Symone (31, Detroit, MI)

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Pooja Asked:

“My husband has been away for 2 years (on a 5-year deputation). Last month, my neighbor (26) came to my house while I had just come out from a bath in a towel. He began flirting & had sex with me for 3 hours. Since then, he’s been having sex with me whenever my kid is in school. I’m in a dilemma regarding what to do. I don’t want my husband to know about this. But I’m feeling embarrassed because he is fulfilling my sexual needs.”

- Pooja (26, Delhi)

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She Asked:

“is my lesbian girlfriend cheating? i have known her for a year and we been in real committed relationship for 11months , i love her with all my heart , and i know she loves me. but i cant help to have these inside voices telling me shes cheating, its like my instinct is telling me im right. she always tells me she loves me so thats not a problem, but when we have an disagreement over something very important she just ignores me or hangs up instead of talking it out. she accuses me of cheating, when i swear, promise her that im 1000% faithful and than she agrees that i am after she hears me crying. and they always say when your bf/gf accuses you of cheating and you’re not, than they are. i asks her do she like anybody else or anything that pertains to cheating she goes nuts and gets mad. hangs up on me and curses me out. like if you’re not cheating than why are you so upset when i ask you. she still conversate with her ex gf whos now her step cousin , but gets mad when i use to text my ex. she claims she dont see her like that and going with her was a mistake but when she use to tell me stories she said she really liked her alot until she started cheating, and when you really like someone like she did those feelings just dont go away like that. sometimes i think im tripping but 95% of the time i know im not just tripping.”

- She (18)

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Amanda Asked:

“Where do I even begin??? Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years, living together for 5 1/2 and we have a 5 year old daughter, I also have 2 other daughters he claims as his own. He was without work for over 5 years!! He FINALLY got a job a few months back but yet he refuses to help pay the bills. He flat out told me he will never give the utility companies his money. When we were living apart he did help with their bills and I asked his ex if he helped her she said he never hesitated to help her and THEIR daughter. What about OUR daughter though? Why doesnt he want to help us?? I know they cant stand each other so its not that he wants her back. I need some advice on fixing that situation.
Next is he NEVER spends time with me and the kids. Ever. And on the very rare occasion he does want to go do something, he never wants to bring the girls. He however does wake up and leave with his friend every day and stays gone until between 1 and 3 a.m. The only time I see him is when he walks in. He always goes straight to the bedroom, where he spends all of his time when he’s home.

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Rose Asked:

“My husband works part time and I work full time graveyard at the same retail store. We have a mutual co-worker who has now become our next door neighbor. In the short time we’ve known each other, we’ve done a lot for one another. She has a boyfriend (who is not good to her) and is flirtatious, but I consider her my friend. Because she has no car and lives nextdoor now, my husband gives her rides to work in the morning when he is coming to pick me up at the end of my shift. They are both home all night and alone most of the time (except for when her boyfriend is there). I hadn’t thought about it until today when she came over and we were visiting when she brought up a new purse I had hanging on the wall and asked me where I got it. When I told her, she said yeah she had already seen it when she was here one morning “fucking” Buck (my husband)…then went onto another subject….but shortly after, she said it again. She also spoke about how other people don’t look past my husband’s kinda messy old man appearance, but she sees him in a different way when she looks into his eyes when they talk. It bothered me the rest of the day till I text her and asked her what specific morning it was that they had sex. (I had a strange feeling one morning when they came into work together)…..she replied how confused she was….then she later replied that she was omg just kidding! I hypothetically asked my husband if someone joked about having sex with me to him what he would think. He said he would strangle both of them. What does this mean? Why would she say that to me? Have they had sex? I’m sure my husband wouldn’t tell me. One way or the other, why would she say such a thing to me? Joking or not. What does this mean? Should I just look past it or? I don’t know if something is going on or not. Please share your thoughts with me.”

- Rose (51, Tahoe Vista, CA)

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Sharon Asked:

“This guy fancies me he has done since new year… The only trouble is im friends with him and his girlfriend…. He tells me that he doesnt love her but love me….. We have made love twice he keeps txtin me and wants to meet me in secret…. He says he only with her for the kids… Please help”

- Sharon (43, Chippenham Wiltshire, UK)

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