Adam Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for 2 1/2 years. She is 29 and I am 30. The relationship she was in before lasted 6 years and was the only one she had been in prior to ours. He was 27 and she was 20 when they met. They broke up many times as well as walked away from an engagement. She was not completely honest about her feelings for him when we began dating and because of that She has never let go of him and vice versa. Although he does not live near us and I am sure she has not physically cheated on me she continues to keep an open dialog with him that pushes the boundaries of platonic friendship. When confronted about this she has lied about their communicating on more than one occation. I think that they use each other as an emotional fallback when they are in need of attention. It has become such a problem that by not ending the communication I doubt she truly respects me and my position on the subject. She has tried to stop texting and emailing him but eventually it starts up again. He is also in a new relationship and is not honest with his partner either. I am starting to doubt her morals and feel truly disrespected.”

- Adam (30, Kansas City, MO)

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Sikharesh Asked:

“It’s another break up story of an extra marital affair!

I left my 15yr old marriage in July 2009 and stated live together with my 8 months old affair partner, whose divorce case was on! In September 2009, end I felt very bad for my son (11yrs) and told my affair partner. She advised me to go back – and I did. My true pain began after 2 weeks. I gone into serious depression , got professional help, and still now on medicines.

In between (4th Jan 2010), I contacted my partner – she refused to keep any sort of relations. She is very keen to get back into her marriage – but her husband disagree, as he also had developed a relation with his colleague.

Now I am into tremendous emotional roller coster, often feels suicidal. I don’t want to hurt my wife & son, but life without my partner is really painful even after 5 months of break up. I resist myself to contact her again. I am in a dilemma whether to call her or not, if yes when? What to tell her to convince and make a fresh start with me?

She has some –ve qualities, but I feel she is the one for me. I gone through lots of break up advice, nothing couldn’t help. My professional life suffered a lot and still in trouble. I don’t feel any urge to live anymore, no ambition for anything. Please note, I had affairs before also followed by break ups, but never had this kind of feeling.”

- Sikharesh (40, Kolkata, India)

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Carlos Asked:

“My girlfriend has been a gold digger since i met with her three years back since her parents don’t like her and her ex just dumped her and she had no one to support her in the past when she went to college and i ignored this behavior because of her past situation. it seems like she played a love game with me to get my money.She some times shows me so much love and then she acts like a slut.

By the time i put all the puzzles together and realized that she is using me for money we were in love with each other.she showed me so much love in the beginning that i was thinking to marry this girl but later in second year of our relationship i found her profile on the net and she was sleeping around with other guys whenever we broke up.We kept going back to each other and she told me she did it because of the money these guys spent on her and she was mad with me because i won’t marry her but she truly loves me.i never cheated on her even i knew she is going out with other guys whenever we broke up for a few days.I became so weak and kept going back to her and i’m in love with her and my heart is set on her even i know she is a user. Last Christmas she bought me a cheap gift and this Valentine i did not get any thing.I always spend lots of money in buying her gifts and i feel that she is over with me.My question is how to forget her and what can i do to test her if she really loves me or my money.”

- Carlos (28, Virginia Beach)

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Bill Asked:

“My wife and I have been together for 17 years (5 years dating, 12 years of marriage).

10 years ago, my wife and her friend got really drunk. Her friend and I kissed briefly. I do not remember but I took my wife’s word for it. Ever since then, our marriage has been rocky and she brings that situation up in every fight.

She has never cheated on me before and since that incident I have always been loyal, My wife and I have sex but fight all the time. We just started marriage counseling.

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Anneliese Asked:

“My ex-boyfriend and I have known each other four years now and next month would be our three year anniversary. From the beginning, I haven’t been a very good partner and have cheated on him twice. At one point, we were engaged but eventually broke up due to my second affair. Although he has lied to me in the past about certain things, to my knowledge he has never cheated. He has forgiven me for all the things that I have done to him but inevitably has become a bit disillusioned and does not trust me. I am trying to gain his trust back but I also do not trust him because of the times he has lied to me (which have been about two or three times). Lately we’ve been arguing a lot but have every intention to try things out again when I get back home from studying abroad. What troubles me now is that he insists that I will have to trust him “the hard way” meaning he refuses to give me any of his passwords to any of his accounts because he says he has been faithful from the very beginning and that this time around he wants to do things differently than in the past. He says this because he believes that by having given me everything I wanted in the past, things didn’t work out well and now believes he needs to change the way in which he does things between us. Could he be lying or is he truly trying to make things work out? I know he truly cares about and loves me because no guy in his right mind would still be around after all the things I’ve done. However, I’m afraid that he might just be too comfortable being with me. Please help!”

- Anneliese (19)

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Gene Asked:

“My wife and i have been married for 21 years. She told me she still loves me but is not as much in love with me as she used to be. Now she has started talking on her cell phone and texting a few guys, she says they are friends only and swears on our kids lives there is nothing to worry about. She went back to her home town last weekend and went out two times with an old girfriend from high school without telling me anything about it. When i am around her i feel strange, I feel like she is hard to talk to. We have talked about divorce. She tells me i can leave if i want to, she wont try to stop me. When i ask her if she wants me to leave she gets upset and tells me she would tell me if she wanted me to leave, She said she wasnt scared to let me to leave if she wanted to. she says she doesn’t know what she wants. I love her with all of my heart and i want it to work. She says it will take time. I didnt show her much attention during our time together and she lost a lot of weight. She said since she lost the wieght guys tell her how good she looks and i never told her anything. I also have a felling she may be cheating on me. I try to talk to her about us but she always gets mad. She said she was going to make an appointment to a marrage counsler because she owes it to me and the kids to try. When i ask her if she is going for her to and she doesn’t answer, Then she said if she didnt care she wouldnt go. I dont know what to do but i feel that it is over and she is getting her ducks in a row getting bills paid to leave me.”

- Gene (46)

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Paul Asked:

“hi my girlfriend is having a internet affair with no physical contact with a man in australia.
i found out because she left herself logged in on my computer. now their relationship has moved to skype(which happened to be the same password) and they are talking for hours on end in a day having phonesex and swapping dirty videos and pictures on there phones. and now my girlfriend is putting him before me and telling me she is depressed but still wants to be with me.
i cant say i know because i have been watching it for weeks now. how would i go about trying to make her think about me instead of him? i’m so confused and feeling like i am hanging on but i love her and want to be with her.
from the moment she wakes til the moment she sleeps she is talking to him. please help!”

- Paul (33, London, United Kingdom)

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Tiger Woods hits the front pages, and instead of fans cheering they’re reeling from his admission of foul play. Gasp! “Powerful men have a higher sex drive,” says one expert; “Men are just wired that way,” says another. “If women don’t want their men to stray, they need to turn up the passion in the bedroom.” And I say – Pleeeeze! We all know that men do not have a corner on the hormone market; the secret’s out and the facts are in, so enough with this foolishness—at least come up with something original.

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Akascared Asked:

“affair? friend with benefits? I’ve been married 9 years. Guilt is killing me. Hubby wanted me to get new job. I did. Then fell for and have slept with a coworker. Coworker just wants a good friend. I’m head over heels for him. As of now I don’t think husband suspects anything. Should I quit my job? How do I explain to anyone?”

- Akascared (39)

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Confused Asked:

“I am in love with a guy I met him in the tenth grade. when we first met he had a gf and baby. well we started flirty and my feelings for him grew more and more. He told me he felt the same way but he couldnt break up with his gf because she would take his son away well i didnt want that to happen so i didnt push it after that. well he then broke up with his gf and we started talking then he told me that he didnt want to be with me because he didnt want to hurt me because i told him i wasnt doing to have sex with him and he said that if he wasnt getting it from me he would get it from somone else and i would end up getting hurt and he didnt want that to happen. it has been three years now and he is still dragging me along telling me that he loves me and wants to be with me but he doesnt want to hurt me and that we would be together whenever he is ready to settle down i just really dont know what to do because i love him so much and now he has a gf and says that they are getting married and he cant wait to have a future with her but he still says he loves me but he doesnt know if he is in love with me. what should i do?

- Confused (18, Lyons, GA, USA)

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