Holiday season, a moment where most children’s dreams come true. The night of Christmas eve, where they place cookies and milk on a table, with hopes and prayers that Santa will visit their home and give them the presents they’ve been wishing for. Since the time most Americans understand the words their parents and loved ones utter, the man known as Santa Claus, always tends to become a household name. Children and are taught to believe that if they behave properly by listening to their parents and getting good grades in school, Santa will bless them with illustrious gifts.

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As the day fades, and evening takes shape, she glances at me with the face of a woman who is tired. Tired of the same things and ready to be treated the way a princess should be treated. I’m just a simple man with simple thoughts in her eyes. In my mind, this is how she sees me. Life has a way of making you forget your dreams, goals, and those ideas that get us through the weeks. Seems as if life has dealt her a blow or maybe she is just simple. All she wants is to be happy, secure in life, taken care of emotionally, mentally and physically. Each day I’ve tried to read her mind, searching for her desires. She seems happy; yet, a bit unsatisfied. However, either way, I can’t wrap my thoughts around the answer. She doesn’t really know me, but I know her. We have a special undefined relationship. Our time or tenure will be coming to an end soon in this beautiful setting as soon as she walks away. Of course the setting lies in my mind, not in reality. I try to become one with her mind and her desires; yet, I fall short each time.

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If you feel like your relationship is in trouble and would like some help then read on – I’m going to take some time to help a few of you to get where you want to be!

This is a chance for a few readers to fix the problems they’re having but it is NOT a chance for a few readers to vent about their problems.  I don’t even care what your problems are (not even a little bit), I only care if you’re interested in fixing them.  So even though I need to hear each of your specifics I’m going to take a whack at what your problems are…

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One of the most common problems that couples have relates to money. Couples have probably fought over money issues since the beginning of time, and 2008 is no exception. Many of the problems couples have around money relate to what each member of the couple spends money on.

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Regardless of who you’re arguing with, whether friend, partner, family member or co-worker, this so-called crime is committed every day by countless individuals who later regret it. I’m talking about name-calling when you’re in the heat of the moment and you use severe terminology to make your ultimate point.

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Some friends of mine, Bob and Lana, have fallen on hard times in their marriage. They met in church six years ago, got married after a year, and enjoyed a wonderful relationship until last year, when Bob stopped going to church. Lana recently confided in me that Bob’s break with the congregation has “ruined their social life” and put a chill on their marriage.

Here’s what I told her:

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Anger is a powerful emotion. Sometimes it’s easy to be scared of your own anger. You may have “stuffed” it for years or let it out at your partner at inopportune moments. If you grew up around angry people like raging parents or other family members, you may have experienced anger as pathological. You now may fear that you have a disease passed down from them whenever you feel angry. But anger is simply an emotion. Only your behavior can actually cause harm.

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I recently had a really great financial opportunity presented to me. It was so good, it looked too good to be true, actually. So, not to be duped, I did my due diligence, all my research. Or so I thought. Anyway, I jumped, wholeheartedly and enthusiastically into this new venture. I thought, “Take a chance…. You’ve done your research. The worst that can happen is that you won’t earn as much as they say.”

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Greetings, friends and lovers everywhere. Rosie, Love Detour’s resident transsexual Goddess of Love and Romance is in the house and ready to expound on the delicacies of transgendered dating.

In the first article on transgenderism I referred to gender as a continuum. On the polar ends of this continuum are trans people who “pass”. Passing is a condition in which the transgendered person blends successfully with their one of the two stereotypical genders. Towards the center of the continuum, or bar graph, are people who exhibit androgyny, or characteristics of both genders. This discussion focuses on the first group, for it is trans-passing that can cause confusion in the intimacy of dating.

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We’ve all been there.  That moment just before we lose our cool.  Whether it’s something as small as someone stealing our parking space, or something really big, we have all had that bizarre moment, when we make that leap from normal and happy to crazed and angry.  It’s funny how that moment creeps up on you.  But it is interesting to consider how it is that one small thing can really push our buttons, and make us lose control.  We all have them, those little pet peeves, little hot buttons.

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