Regardless of who you’re arguing with, whether friend, partner, family member or co-worker, this so-called crime is committed every day by countless individuals who later regret it. I’m talking about name-calling when you’re in the heat of the moment and you use severe terminology to make your ultimate point.

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Zena Asked:

“I’ve been married for 3 years and I have 2 kids 1 boy and 1 girl. The past 1 year I have felt like my husband is just not interested in me and he has not made me feel special . He comes from work at 6pm and showers, eats then he goes and hangs out with his friends playing cards. I know 100% he is not cheating on me he still wants to have sex with me, but he does not make me feel like I am special and we don’t have any communications together. Maybe he doesn’t love me anymore? I have thought about leaving him, but I don’t want my children to live with out a father like I did. It’s so hard for me. What do you think I should do?”

- Zena

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Some friends of mine, Bob and Lana, have fallen on hard times in their marriage. They met in church six years ago, got married after a year, and enjoyed a wonderful relationship until last year, when Bob stopped going to church. Lana recently confided in me that Bob’s break with the congregation has “ruined their social life” and put a chill on their marriage.

Here’s what I told her:

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I see so many commercials referencing large beautiful diamonds and how one needs to pay a predetermined amount of money for an engagement ring in order to follow some prewritten law of etiquette. I see so many women complain that their significant others did not spend a lot on their ring or that it’s to small and the list goes on and on. I wonder why so much value is put on such a inadequate object and just because a person cannot afford or maybe they just don’t want to waste money on a large object they are talked about and sometimes even punished in some way. Sad that there are so many out there who put strings on a relationship right from the get go!

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Devastated Asked:

“My wife is cheating on me with her coworker and I found out about it 8 days ago. I am devastated and don”t know what to do. We have a 6 year old boy and a 4 year old girl, and her coworker is also supposed to be our friend. My wife has allowed this to go on since summer and has brought him to our family. My wife is under a lot of stress at work. Her father is terminally ill, and her mother is in detox for Alcohol. She truly is a great woman, and I am in shock as to how my life got to this point. I am lost?”

- Devastated

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Justin Asked:

“If I have experienced a drop in sexual desire for my wife does that mean I am falling out of love?”
- Justin

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Cheating Affairs can destroy a relationship. Ironically, they can also make them better. That’s not to suggest that you should have an affair to find happiness in your relationship. What I’m saying is that 82% of relationships traumatized by an affair actually get past the affair, and live happier than they did prior to the infidelity.

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Ross Asked:

“I am involved in a “polyamorous” relationship with my wife of 17 years and my girlfriend of 2 years. Recently my wife told me, “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” This came out of no where and I was completely at a loss. This relationship was my wife’s idea. My wife and my girlfriend met and talked. Over time, the two of them will only talk to each other if they have to. My wife says she stopped loving 3 months ago. She does not like to play the “blame game”, yet she wants to throw everything at me from the past that she says I did. Yet anything I try to say about the past, I am playing “tit for tat.” I love both of them with all my heart. I have no idea what to do since she will not talk to me about anything to let me know what happened.

I am looking for anyone who has experience with polyamorous relationships. I feel like my whole world is caving in on me and I don’t know what to do…”

- Ross

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Joe Asked:

“I met my wife on match. After dating her for a year we got married. 2 years into our marriage I finally found out that she had been having an affair with this guy at work for about 3 months now. I’m so devastated that she completely broke my heart. I love her very much I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m considering divorcing her, but on the other hand I’m still so in love with her. I just love everything about her. I asked her why she did that and she couldn’t give me a clear reason. She kept saying that it was a huge mistake and she doesn’t want to continue with her affair anymore and she’s begging me not to divorce her. She says she still loves me very much and she’s sorry and she will never do it again. I just don’t know if I should trust her at this point. What should I do? Please help me!!”

- Joe

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Tensions between a member of a couple and his or her in-laws marks one of the oldest rivalries in the book. Countless men and women have difficulties navigating their relationship with their in-laws. In fact, many books have been written about this subject to help people cope better with this situation. One, in particular, is called “Toxic In-Laws,” which was written by my friend Dr. Susan Forward. This is a great resource and you can easily search for it online.

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