Eric Asked:

“I was in a long distance relationship with my ex for the past 4 years plus. We spent more than a year not seeing each other because I was away. However we kept in touch during this period through email and phone. Now that I am back she is breaking up with me because while I wasn’t here she met another guy she feels happier being with. I wanna give her all she wants but we do not live in the same states. we are like 5 hours away. What do I do to get her back?”

- Eric (28, Montreal, QC, Canada)

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Dave Asked:

“About 7 months ago my wife told me that she wasn’t in love with me anymore. it came on very sudden. we have only had sex 3 times in the last seven months and she says it was because of her anti-depressant, but she had been fine for our first year of marriage and was taking the meds then. i caught her talking to a guy that she used to live with and told me the reason she kept it from me was because she didn’t want me to worry. she has been talking to him alot over the last month do you think she could be cheating?”

- Dave (42)

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Ashely Asked:

“i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. we love eachother a lot but i have gotten to the point where i am obsessive about him, i worry and think about him constantly, if he doesnt pick up the phone i panic, if i dont see or talk to him i get extremely sad and hurt. i never used to be like this so i think something is wrong. i even make up ideas in my head that he is going to break up with me or he doesnt love me anymore. is there a way to stop being this way? what is wrong with me? is there a way to deal with this and stop being so obsessive?”

Ashely (19, Las Vegas, NM)

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Beth Asked:

“I’m in a long distance relationship with my girl for almost 2 years and 3 times she has told to get the home ready she was moving to me. Everytime family members on her side either get sick, go to hospital, or pass away. I have spent so much money and have given so many things away to make room so now all i do is wait. She is caring for her ex and I know about this but he plays on her with the kids is she ever going to leave. She is so unhappy but having problems trying to transfer her job too. What can I do other then wait this out? The one thing now is the phone calls are alot less and I don’t hear from her but she tells me less then 2 weeks ago that I’m the love of her life and that I have her heart. I have tried to send gifts all of the time to her and her kids and support her as much as I can because we live in different towns. her town is not gay friendly at all. Is there anything I can do? she is very close to her family and tries to save the world type of thing. with all of their problems but I feel I’m on the back burner with this. Thanks”

- Beth (54, Kentucky)

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Sarah Asked:

“I have been dating a great guy for a little over 5 months. We are both in our 20’s. He has a very demanding job, and is extremely busy, while I am a college student with a much more flexible schedule. Our sex life has always been great- we have awesome bedroom chemistry, and it has always been an enjoyable, zesty enterprise for us both. However, he decided to stop drinking for a month- he felt like he was doing it too much. He has lost all interest in sex- we haven’t done it in about a month. He says it is because his emotions and thoughts are all changing and becoming clearer because he has stopped drinking. Also, he is on anti-depressants, and I have read that they can decrease libido. He is still very affectionate- we cuddle every night we are together, and hold hands and kiss. I asked him if I had put on weight or anything since we started dating, and he insists that I have nothing to do with his lack of libido. Does this seem plausible? If this is a temporary thing, it is definitely worth it for me to wait it out and be patient and give him time, because he is a great person. I just want to know if the reasons he gave me for this seem legitimate. How long is too long without sex, especially in a new-ish relationship between young people??”

- Sarah (25, Illinois)

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Water droplets tap the window on this stormy but calming night. The quilt of the night has made sure its presence is felt, with the crickets sounding off in their nighttime melody. A lone raccoon tramples slowly through the yard, seeking nourishment, and enjoying Mother Nature’s symphony of life in motion. Looking towards the light, the raccoon sees a flickering light from the huge bay window, turns away and continues on his journey. The flickering light within the window signifies the fire that has been burning from the afternoon into the night. As the light from the flickering fire reflects off the window, the two people inside celebrate a renewed feeling of life. The life they lead together has arrived at this point, the point where they can move forward after loss, failed love, pain, and depression. Together, they focus on what can be done now to better their lives together.  Sitting in the corner of the couch, Tonya stares at Alex while they talk about their dreams for the future. Alex holds her left bare foot, which is rested on his lap, in his hand…massaging and rubbing softly. Tonya shares with him her thoughts about the future while he listens deeply to her every word.

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Joanna Asked:

“Congratulations on your very nice website!!

I left my boyfriend for someone else I thought I was in love with. I told my ex to stay away from me but now I miss him. Is it normal? Im ok in my new relationship but I feel that he won’t do as much for me as my ex would! I love my ex and I am feeling confused!”

- Joanna (31)

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Leo Asked:

“hello! I (age 30) broke up with my ex girlfriend (age 30) almost 2 moths ago. we were together for a year. She really loves me and she wanted to marry me. I just wasn’t that warm because of some personal things. When she asked me to break up i agreed but we still had contact. She broke up with me because I was not as warm as she was. I was wrong not to ask her to wait and open up and tell her i’m just not myself now because of some problems. very fast she got involved with a new guy (maybe a rebound?) and made it clear to me it’s over. Anyway, i told her how i feel about her and showed her my love, told her im ok now (she sees that also) and we can be everything we wanted to be. I even showed her the ring I bought her and was planning to give to her. And that was all. I didnt persue her at all. We met a few days ago and spent 5 hours together doing silly things and having fun. We spoke a bit about us but she says she is now somewhere else and the usual that she loves me and all. I encouraged her relationship telling her i want her to be happy. We met again today for an hour and i flirted a tiny little bit with her and she did seem open to it. I can tell she loves me and still is attracted to me. She even tells me I look hansom. She now thinks I am getting into something new and i can tell she is a bit jealous. I love this girl and I am ready to give her what she wants. I just dont know how to act now. We do have fun together a lot but should I keep meeting with her and flirt with her or shall I maybe go no contact for a bit and make her miss “us”? I do make her laugh a lot and that makes me happy! Thanks a lot!”

- Leo (30, Greece)

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Julie Asked:

“Should I just give up on him? My best friend and I have always been close. We always opened up to each other, and the way we act towards each other is, well, different. But there’s one catch– he’s gay. I decided to tell him I felt, anyways. And guess what! He loves me too, ’so much’, and he couldn’t imagine never talking to me ever again. I’m his best friend.

So I realized he didn’t understand that much yet, so I decided to wait. But then one night came and something happened, he felt like no one loved or cared about him, so I opened up fully to him. I guess my friend talked to him, too, since he told me that she said we should both be together. I replied back telling him whatever he wants to do, it’s his choice. His answer was, “But I have a boyfriend.”

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Robert Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have a serious relationship together. She thinks I’m cheating on her even though I am not cheating on her. She also have been trying to find ways to track my cell phone or track my text messages. She’s now questioning if I am bi or not. She did all this without talking to me as I found this out. What do I do and why is she doing this? I am not cheating on her, nor am I bi and I have nothing to hide. I love her very much.”

- Robert (30, Lakewood, CO USA)

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