Beckie Asked:

“My friend got advice that helped her on here and told me to try.

My boyfriend ignored me and thought i was uncool at school and now he says he loves me, i said yes but i think its only a joke?’

- Beckie (14)

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Ria Asked:

“I Broke off with my boyfriend an year back as he moved abroad for his studies and moreover he said he was getting very serious for me but was sure that we cannot have a future as our families would never approve our relationship. Just after our break up he nearly begged to be friends with him. We decided to be friends. After two months he himself told me that he was in a relationship with some other girl and that was also a long distance relationship.

We were in continuous contact after that. We even met once after that and we kind got intimate in that meeting(intimacy of not a very high degree). I told him that I was not over him. He said he was thinking about me but he also accepted the fact that he was in a relationship with some other girl and called it a “sin” to think about me.

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Idaman Asked:

“i am having relationship for one year now with guy and were having problems with sex and also understanding each other, he seems never like to change his way and his ego and dont want to tell what he’s like in relationship. for i am really stressed. he is also always angry and always used the same reason to blame. i think we close to ending…but i still try to hold. he told me, if i dont like him, i can leave, seems like he doesn’t care anymore with this relationship….but he did mention he loves me and difficult for him to be normal and he is also thinking about our good future together, like having nice life and nice house together…..i am so confuse…what can i do?”

- Idaman (Male, 36)

Connor Asked:

“I met an amazing Woman back in February of 2010. We hit it off immediately and of course progressed our relationship at warp speed. That being said, it seemingly wasn’t a factor that things were going so fast, as we both were the same age at 33 and knew exactly what we were looking for. We also both brought our own adversity to the new relationship, she came with not being fully healed from an abusive ex, I came with the stresses of having just moved to a new province and changing careers. However, we both recognized our areas for growth and took steps individually and together to strengthen our authentic selves while strengthening our bond. Behaviours got in the way, emotions where mixed and eventually she decided we weren’t a good match for the long term. All the while, we spoke of “forever” together and were ready to move in with each other. The relationship ended back in June, and we took about 6 weeks of little or no contact to sit with our true feelings about our connection. It’s now almost mid August and we have seen each other off and on in the last 2 weeks, been intimate at those times, and speak on the phone daily again. I am told I am loved, and, in fact, I believe she is “still in love” with me, however she is determined to resist our connection based on her feelings of taking time to herself, finding herself, soul searching….so I can’t argue the one I love’s feelings, but how do I ignore the fact that she is still willing to have passionate nights with me, texts, calls, emails all with loving content, but all the while will not enable herself to even make the slightest non-verbal commitment to our connection. Is the writing on the wall here? There is so much more to our story, but the nuts and bolts are, we tell each other we love each other, she claims she’s single, we spend time together and talk daily, but she is convinced she is now on a different path…Is this a clear example of having faith in what’s meant to be will be, or do I step up and walk away? She knows how I feel, about wanting to be together and also knows she is unintentionally trying to hurt me. Bottom line, were in love and she keeps finding a way to be sure and confident, and secure, that this time, it’s for the right reasons and past behaviours don’t enter the picture, which I respect, however, the longer she keeps focusing on the past and the lack, I am worried I will have to walk-away, I want to manifest a living in the now, care-free relationship, and the road-block of our past is getting in the way? Any ideas here?”

- Connor (33)

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Michelle Asked:

“My ex and I broke up in April citing reasons not feeling the same way as me amongst other things as the cause. We’ve gradually gotten back on speaking terms recently.

It’s the anniversary of his mother’s death this month and being that I still care about him and his family, I sent him a little message stating that I hoped all was well and that my thoughts were with them all. From then on and for the past week, the emails have been full of reminiscing, remembering and flirting. Although this wasn’t what I intended to happen, I find myself wanting more again. The truth is I’ve no idea what he’s thinking.

We’re so completely right for each other it’s painful. I wouldn’t be this concerned if it was just a passing thing, but we had and still have a genuine spark and connection and it just works.

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Group Sex Questions: Good or Bad?

Did you know you are 32 times LESS likely divorced if you were born and raised in Sri Lanka than if you were born in the US? Interesting, yes? Did you also know that before Sri Lankans marry they have their compatibility charts done?  Pretty progressive, right? Why, with our failure rate so dismal, would we continue to rely on chemistry? We have already proven (see Dr. Helen Fisher’s latest studies) that just because someone turns you on doesn’t mean they will make a good life partner, parent or mate. So, why do we keep on falling for it?

The answer according to my friend, sociobiologist Rebecca Costa, is—because we can. The good news is, we don’t have to! If what she is saying is true, evolution has (maybe for the first time in history) become a choice. We can choose to use that part of our brain which is just sitting there waiting for those of us who want to move towards the phenomenal rather than settle for the mediocre. I say, let’s give evolution a chance! Watch out Viagra and Larry Flint…and say hello to my little friend (who is free, by the way—sorry, GlaxoSmithKlein), Consciousness.

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Bob Asked:

“my question is that i love this one girl but she is of a different culture, i am indian and my parents are really traditional and want me to get an arranged marriage, i really dont think this is best for me, the girl i love is african and i want to be with her and hopefully get marriaged to her, but she doesn’t want me to disobey my parents she wants there acceptance, what do i do please help me.”

- Bob (19)

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Jarrod Asked:

“After two months of dating, my girlfriend complained that I never told her that I loved her. To me, two months isn’t too soon to say that, but it does seem a bit early to worry that nobody has said it. But that’s not my problem. I had planned to surprise her with a trip to Houston to see a museum she’d mentioned that she always wanted to visit, way back when we started dating, with reservations at her favorite restaurant there, where I’d let her know how much she meant to me. But now, she’s pretty much said that if I do tell her I love her, she would wonder whether it was because she complained. The timing is frustrating, and I am even a bit (maybe unreasonably) mad at her for preemptively sabotaging a gesture that I wanted to mean something to both of us. I want to save this relationship, but I don’t know what I can do at this point to make her believe my sincerity.” - Jarrod (32, Sugarland, Texas) … read more

Mia Asked:

“My husband doesn’t seem very into me these days. 10 years later and three kids, I can’t seem to grab his attention anymore. I just feel like a terrible complaining wife, I look tired, I am tired, and It’s super hard being at home with kids all day. I just don’t know what I should do to make my marriage more enjoyable. Plus I know he works with beautiful professional women all day…and he has to come home to tired ol’ me. Any advise would help.”

- Mia (29, Minneapolis, MN)

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Aaron Asked:

“Well my gilfriend is mad at me and is giving serious thought into moving and ending the relationship. She told me to prove that I love her after when I tell her that i love her she says there just words prove that you love me. I don’t know how to prove that I love her. I need help and help quick.”

- Aaron (26, Kansas City)

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