Grateful Asked:

“I’m so confused and I really don’t know where to start from…we met around 20 months ago when he was deployed in the country I’m residing now. He started pursuing me so aggressively…and we both felt in love with each other so badly..His deployment was 6 months only but he assured me that he was coming back…For some reasons…he couldn’t come back..He kept calling and texting me all the times…However, I felt that something wasn’t right at his end…Of course when we met he addressed himself as a divorced man…From his actions…I had this feeling this..he is still married but is denying this for some reason…we continued our LDR..with no definite objective..as every time I used to ask him about us..his answer was that he doesn’t know for now..and that too much was going on at that point of his life between him, his ex and their daughter.

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Kate Asked:

“The love of my life has a girlfriend. Basically me & him where together for about 2 years on and off. He did a lot of messed up things to me. Lied, cheated. We would stop talking for months & then start talking again and so on, I fell deeply &
madly in love with him and always forgave him because of the way he’d make me feel. We would always be laughing together & he would be there for me through anything. He’s 2 years older then me and way more mature. Basically we had stopped talking for about 3 months & a week ago I saw him. He followed me, said hi, and got my number. I was so happy. I knew he had a girlfriend but didn’t care. I saw him 2 days ago and we hung out for a bit, We talked about a lot. He said the girls he cheated on me with ment nothing to him at that time and that he really did love me and was just with them for sex. We didn’t kiss or anything because he is very respectful now and says he dosent cheat anymore. We did flirt and he said I had gotten very pretty and that I was An amazing girl, we discussed our messed up relationship and he said if he had the chance to fix things he would And that he was young and immature. Before leaving he said to hit him up to hang out whenever. I don’t know what to think, I still love this kid so much & I have a feeling he still loves me. Hes been with his Gf for 2 months & she’s very pretty but I know she dosent care for him like I do. He hasn’t called me ever since that day and I have the urge to call or text him but I know I shouldn’t. Should I wait for a miracle to happen or should I just call him and ask him to hang out atleast as friends? I feel so desperate. no other Guy makes me as happy as he does. I understand him And he understands me. I love him so much & I’ve tried moving on and hobbys And other guys but nothing works. I know he’s the one. Help please”

- Kate (18, Hialeah, Florida)

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Erika Asked:

“I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We’ve had multiple breakups ( like 20+) over the same issues: his attitude, respect, and consistency with me. He keeps promising to change but, never does. I love him, and I know he loves me. However, it is always so hard to walk away for good. We have even had long breakups from 2-6months but, always get right back together. He is the father of my son and is an overrall good person. I just cant take the way he reacts/responds to me when he is angered. Also, he disrespects me by always talking over me, cursing when he talks, and ignoring me at times. He is never consistent about anything, whether its staying together or keeping his promise to do a simple task…everything is like a gamble. Im really getting fedup…all of my family and friends wonder why we keep making and breaking up. I am so confused…scared of me making the wrong decision to leave or staying and being unhappy. I feel like i love him and give him everything he needs but, i dont get it in return…..its gotten so bad, i am not comfortable in my own place, get sick easily, and stress has taken over me. It affects me being a good mother, friend, and daughter…I cant go to a counselor because lack of money, and i cant talk to anyone because, ive talked to everyone and chose to stay so many times that now people dont even want to hear what i have to say. Please help….”

- Erika (25, Richmond,VA)

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Sue Asked:

“My bf and I have been together 17yrs. The last 7have been great, we get along well and do love each other, we’ve been through a lot. The first 10 were not so great. My bf had upwards of 15 one night stands. Some he had sex with, others oral sex and some just making out with them. I found out about some of them and was mad and hurt and decided I wasn’t enough for him and inturn had 2 full blown affairs back in 2000, both lasted a few weeks. He only knew about one of them and was hurt and that was his reasoning for a few of the girls he was with…after 2001 I thought everything was fine between us and never thought he would cheat again…I was wrong, he had 2 other girls in 2004 and 2005…2005 I got pregnant with our son and my bf said something in him changed and he never again cheated…neither have I (I did however correspond via email in 2008 with one of my affairs, but strickly as a friend)…the past almost 7 years have been fine, we have 2 young kids and we both seemed content…

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Oli Asked:

“how to get over lying and cheating, I just can’t stop!

I have been dating my ex for 4 years. it’s always been lol rough with daily arguments and jealousy seens. I truly loved her so we got engaged and I even came to US with her. While here I cought her 3 times trying to cheat but ultimately forgave her, finally she went over board and I had to move out a year ago.

It was really tough hahaha:) I was acting like clingy, deppendent and insecure, but soon started dating. With in One year I dated more than 30 girl, and damn I was on fire, Internet bar party friends, you name it, and so a pain started to go away ( I sound like a looser already lol ) but anyhow I made it.

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Claire Asked:

“Hello everyone…i just need somebody to talk about my most painfull experience ever…i met this guy last year in foreign country where we both worked…since i saw him i felt for him..so as him…the main problem was that i had only one week to go home..so we end up being intimate..we became friends on facebook…and i went home thinking i will never gonna see him again…

One year later call it destiny or not in May we got same job again in foreign country..i couldn’t bealive it..so i send him msg on facebook telling him the news…i was so exited that finnnaly i will have chance to know him much better….his reaction was kind of like great but i told him that we gonna be friends with benefits as i knew it that he is a player…so as me..i mean i’m like party girl i don’t want nothing serious with anybody…

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Sush Asked:

“My story started on Jan 2010, she was working with me in my office and I liked her very much but she was just make me friend first time, but after some time on 1 day she called me after our office time and ask me to meet her in urgent, I meet her and I found something really heart breaking, she was crying and I ask what happen she told me that she was in love with 1 of our office mate and he told her that he is gating married with other girl to whom he is loving, it was heart breaking for her and me also I was never aware about that and she never told me about that, ok  Then she told me everything that night and cried so much,, that boy was never been liked by me and he just broke her heart, she told me everything because in my office I was only person who was her good friend that time because I helped her in her need,,, ok ,,
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John Asked:

“Should I stay with my girlfriend?

we met in june this year and everything was going fine.
we are now living together and working together in a remote area and our job provides accommodation for us.
she always tells me that this is the best relationship she has been in and never felt such emotional feeling before in a relationship. she also tells me that its the best sex she has had ever.

we met at my last job and i had just resigned so i went home for 2 weeks alone before starting my new job and meeting her there. she said that she needed to sort out some things of hers and stayed at her friends house for a week before joining me at our current job.
her friend was a mid 30s male and i immediately felt uncomfortable with her having such a relationship with a guy that old (we are both 26) and i could tell she was hiding something when i asked aobut it.
i have a good skill of reading body language and eye movements and have studied for 2 years.

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Jeannette Asked:

“Hello, I was married and pregnant at a young age(18). Divorced two yrs later, single mother of two teenagers. Tried dating but had trust issues and compared them to my ex. I moved to Naples in 2003 and ever since I moved here have not been on a date, until Oct of 2010 where I stepped out of the box a started dating a woman. I was in a relationship for 5 months during those months there was ups and downs but she treated me great. But my self esteem, trust issues, not showing my emotion to her effected the relationship. She knew what I went through with my ex, he was verbally abusive. She didn’t care that I wasn’t really to let people know about us, especially my family and friends. She just wanted me to break down that wall. She was such a go positive person in my life. On 4/10/11 she broke it off. Two weeks later we talked about trying to work things out because we both had issues. So we needed to work on ourselves. She suggested for us to take it slow. But during that time she was hanging out with her “best friends”. I just found it strange since while we were together they hardly hanged out. I asked her if anything was going on and she old me no that her friend was not like that. During all this taking it slow. I keep asking her to come over or lets do something. Sometimes she did and sometimes we didn’t. One day I asked her to come over that I would like to talk to her. She did we talk and we were intimate with each other. Didn’t talk for a while, so again I asked her what is going on. Are we going to try to work this out or not. She said she does but she is scared because she doesn’t want to get hurt and she was tired of the break up and make up. A week later, she send me a text that she started dating someone and to please leave her alone. Maybe we can be friends again but she needs time and needs to process.

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Heather Asked:

“I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. The first few months we dated he was cheating on me but I forgave him and since then hes been great but I’ve gone crazy. I’m extremely controlling and am afraid I’ve become obsessed with him. I have to check his phone, email, and Facebook daily. I constantly have to be around him and even though we live together just an hour apart gives me terrible anxiety and i miss him like crazy. He cant go out and do things without me because I always have to be with him and when i get the chance to have fun on my own I dont because all i think about is him. I even quit my job because all i could focus on was him. Its caused us to fight constantly and he said hes leaving me unless I change. Please help me..”

- Heather (20)

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